You want to meet people, make new friends and feel part of the world, but interacting on a social level is difficult for everyone. This article will provide you with some simple and effective ideas that will help you feel more relaxed, so that you feel more comfortable interacting with others.
Steps
Step 1. Try to get a trusted person to come with you to the event
Whether it's a teacher, a spouse, a very kind friend who has helped you in the past, or some other person who is able and willing to guide you, please accept their help.
Step 2. Look around to see if there are REAL dangers that could actually harm or kill you
You don't even need to get out of your car to examine the situation.
Step 3. Analyze the situation and define exactly what causes dissatisfaction in your life
For example, would you like more friends, or a boyfriend? Both things? Identify exactly what you want to change so as not to get confused; that way, you will know exactly what kind of behavior to undertake.
Step 4. Recognize that most situations that may exist could be caused by an excessive physical reaction
Step 5. Talk to a friend you trust to see if they can reassure you and make you feel that everything will be okay
Everything will be fine and there is nothing to fear.
Step 6. Stay at the event at least 5-10 minutes
Sometimes, when things go wrong (and it seems they can only get worse), the situation may miraculously improve, and you may regret leaving too soon.
Step 7. Remember that life goes on whatever the outcome of the event you attend
You can't change the past, (you can change your future behavior, and face the consequences) but there is no way to change what you've done after you've done it.
Step 8. Leave the scene if you feel your anxiety is growing too high
Only, when both you and the one who invited you think you are ready, you can return to the event.
Step 9. Add meditation techniques to your schedule if you feel that taking a little distance from the event is not helpful enough
Among the many forms of meditation that exist (such as yoga, tai chi, breathing exercises - such as those you learned during the last months of pregnancy - and a few others), you may find something to turn to, to calm yourself down.
Step 10. Go back to the event, to see how you feel right now
You should feel much better.
Advice
- Don't join a group if you're not interested. Stay true to yourself.
- For most people, the problems associated with a lack of self-esteem are as serious as those associated with social anxiety. Learn to develop some degree of self-esteem before the event or during the event itself.
- People with social anxiety often become anxious if they feel they are constantly being scrutinized by others. Anyway, ask yourself: Do I really care what others may think of me? Obviously, the answer will be yes, in the case of your best friend, but if it's someone you dislike or don't know well, try to completely disregard whether or not they're judging you.
- Anxiety issues that leave you paralyzed can also be addressed and treated. But they can be cured only with the intervention of a doctor who, if necessary, prescribes special medicines.
- Don't make friends with someone just so you don't run out of friends. You need to engage in activities that you share with someone that you both like. However, in some cases it may surprise you how many things you may have in common with some, so never judge a book by its cover.
- Change your appearance. Try changing your hair color, getting your hair cut, putting on some makeup, buying new clothes, or even piercing your ears. Both simple changes and radical changes can draw some attention to you. Sometimes, something as simple as having your ears pierced, for example, can attract the attention of others who have done the same and, before you know it, you will realize that you have something in common, and a new group. of friends.
- Change your appearance, but not your personality (unless it's a matter of replacing negative, grumpy personality traits with more radiant and cheerful ones). If you do, the real you will come out sooner or later. And this is not what you want. Be yourself, you don't have to try to become something you are not. Each of us is unique.
- Anxiety support groups can help you solve any chronic anxiety problem. Tell the group how you feel, and the group can help you with a solution to help you get back to a normal life.
Warnings
- Remember that sometimes 'in' people aren't as 'in' as they seem. Sometimes, they're just frivolous people with a lot of hooks. Get close to 'real' people who like you for who you are and who have common interests with you.
- True panic attacks may require the intervention of specialized doctors, who give the appropriate treatment. As soon as you notice any of the symptoms of a panic attack, you should seek out professionals trained for the specific problem in hospitals or doctors' offices. Some of the symptoms (but remember the list is not complete) include: shortness of breath, tremors, a feeling of light-headedness, and / or chest pains.
