Realizing that your parents are proud of you is a rewarding feeling, but this milestone isn't always easy to achieve. Sometimes you may think it's impossible and your parents' behavior may seem frustrating to you. Before you give up, read - and put into practice - these tips.
Steps
Method 1 of 2: Being a Great Person
Step 1. Always do your best
How can your parents be proud of you if you never fully commit to what you do? Put your all into every activity you are involved in, be it school, studies, work or your personal projects. Let your parents know that you are not a time waster. If you have an energetic attitude and are full of enthusiasm, you can go much further than you think.
Step 2. Take their views into account
For example, if you want to cut your hair and dye it red, and your parents are trying to dissuade you, you don't necessarily have to do exactly what they ask, but at least consider their idea. You can avoid cutting your hair too short, or at least stick to a style that suits both. Apply the same advice for every other situation. Don't let parents control your life, but always let them know that you are able to appreciate their suggestions.
Step 3. Do the right thing
If you are charged with crimes of any kind, and you find yourself in prison, surely your parents will not be as proud of you as they are disappointed or sad. To make them happy you don't have to turn yourself into an example of goodness, but at least don't go out of bounds and follow the rules, whether they are the rules of the school, the workplace, or the laws in force in your country. Before you do anything, think about whether what you are doing is the right choice, and whether your parents would be proud of it or not.
Step 4. Be a good person
You could always follow the rules, apply yourself best, consider the point of view of yours, but, if you are an extremely selfish and arrogant individual, how can yours be proud of you? So be a good person, generous and thoughtful. You don't have to become a lady of charity, but just let yourself be guided by your goodness. There are so many good people in this world, you will notice.
Step 5. Be responsible
Do not be immature who must always be kept an eye on. It's good to have fun, but it's important to know when to stop and behave responsibly. Stay within limits and always try to do the right thing; be trustworthy. If you have made a commitment to take care of your brother, carry it on. If you have to do your homework, actually do it. If you promised to wash the car, wash it. You have the right to have fun, but always try not to overdo it.
Method 2 of 2: Behaving the Right Way When in Trouble
Step 1. Keep your head down if you get reprimanded
This will make it clear to your parents that you have regretted your mistakes, that you are thinking about them, and that you intend never to repeat them again. If, on the other hand, you start to argue, if you throw glances or show yourself bored or restless, your parents will be even more angry with you. Nobody likes being scolded, but when it happens, let them know that you have realized your mistake. If you can prove it, your parents will be proud of you.
Step 2. Don't respond aggressively
If your parents are angry at you for something you did, and would like to let you know, this is certainly not the time to attack them with your words, interrupt them or disrespect them. Sure you'll want to explain, but let them talk first or they'll get even angrier. There is always the right time for everything.
Step 3. Say your side of things when they have calmed down
If you think your parents have not understood the situation, give them time to soothe their anger. At that point you reopen the conversation and make your point of view understood. If you understand that they are restless, that they are about to lose their temper or do not want to talk about it anymore, do not insist on arguing. They will be proud of this attitude of yours and will understand that you are behaving in a mature way.
When you know the time is right, calmly approach and kindly tell your side of the story
Step 4. Admit your mistakes
No one is perfect, so it's much better to admit you've made a mistake than to back off or be aggressive. If you show sorry, look your parents in the eye and promise never to do it again, they will be proud of you. Nobody expects you to embody perfection, but they would like you to take responsibility for your mistakes, and to know how to recognize them. This is the first step to show that you have grown up.
Advice
- Don't take advantage of your parents, don't follow these tips if your goal is to get something from them, for example money. Only use these tips if you truly want your parents to be proud of you.
- Don't live just to get their approval. It's nice to know that parents are proud of you, but don't let that feeling take over your life and identity.
- Learn to fight the pressures you receive from your peers. If some try to push you to drink, smoke, use drugs, or do wrong actions, be determined and back off. It will be the right choice, one day you will understand.
- If you have followed all the advice but have realized that your parents are demanding even more of you, try to talk to them and tell them how you feel. If it doesn't work, accept that whatever you do they will never be completely satisfied, it's not your fault.
Warnings
- If until now you have always done the opposite of what is written in this article, it will take some time for your parents to be able to trust you. Be patient and don't give up.
- Cousins, friends or peers may make fun of you. Ignore them and don't let them destroy your good intentions.
