Jealousy is an intense feeling, deriving from the fear of losing one's partner, which could weaken a relationship built over time, unless it is experienced as a stimulus to revive the couple's relationship. Do you think your girlfriend doesn't give you the attention you deserve? A hint of jealousy doesn't hurt to make her realize how important your relationship is. However, jealousy should never be used with the intent to harm, because in this case it could reopen old wounds and feed new obsessions. Understanding your position in your girlfriend's life, while not undermining her self-esteem, is essential to managing jealousy.
Steps
Part 1 of 4: Understanding Jealousy
Step 1. Know that jealousy hides more hidden feelings
It is a natural reaction and is often difficult to control. If you decide to make your girlfriend jealous, remember that you could bring back some feelings, such as insecurity or shame, which she cannot manage.
Step 2. Assess your girlfriend's level of self-esteem
Jealousy stems from an overly critical attitude towards oneself. Be careful which way you choose to make your girlfriend jealous, as she may already have a negative perception of herself.
Step 3. Dig into your girlfriend's past
He probably still keeps alive the memory of a relationship that is anything but satisfactory, but he is ashamed to share it with you, or he may have intentionally removed it; however, in the subconscious, it may still suffer from its deleterious effects. Shame could fuel his jealousy and insecurity, so avoid teasing his innermost feelings.
Don't reopen old wounds. If she confessed to you an unpleasant experience, do not use it against her, otherwise you would jeopardize your relationship
Part 2 of 4: Recognizing Your Insecurities
Step 1. Pay attention to it
Whether you are trying to make her jealous to spice up your relationship or to simply play a joke on her, try to figure out what attitudes are able to trigger her jealousy. This will allow you to better understand the strategies to use, but it will also strengthen your bond. However, know that the stronger your bond, the more toxic the jealousy could become.
Some people are more sensitive than others, so avoid pulling too hard. For example, some girls enjoy when their partner flirts with unknown women, while others don't tolerate some ambiguous behavior and are willing to end the relationship for this reason. Go easy
Step 2. Set some stakes
Don't overdo this farce. Ask yourself what you hope to achieve by making your girlfriend jealous. Consider what your relationship means to you and proceed with caution if you really think jealousy is the best solution.
Step 3. Avoid attitudes that can legitimately be considered ambiguous
The relationship could break if you resort to gimmicks that can easily leverage your girlfriend's psyche. Regardless of whether you claim to be open-minded, it's easy to feed your fears with inappropriate attitudes. For example, if you continue dating your ex, you are likely to make your girlfriend jealous.
- If he specifically tells you that he does not want you to have a relationship with someone, do not violate their request. His paranoia is already on the alert, therefore, if you do not keep your promise, you will cause irreversible damage.
- Avoid using your ex to make her jealous. Knowing that you have already been in a romantic relationship easily leads you to believe that passion can rekindle at any moment.
- Don't mention important friends. Whether you have friends who work on television, play professional sports, or do well-paying jobs, their social position makes them an attractive target. Your girlfriend could easily get jealous if you show too much interest in a friend of this kind.
Part 3 of 4: Using your Friendship Tour
Step 1. Make plans on your own
Plan an evening with your friends to watch a game on TV or to go to the bar. Make her jealous by showing her that you have a busy social life.
Don't let her think it's a burden or that you don't appreciate her company. The purpose is simply to show her that others find you funny
Step 2. Use social networks
Like a photo next to it or leave funny comments, which she will surely read. Social networks lend themselves to different interpretations. Your girlfriend could easily get jealous if your page is overflowing with "likes" on photos of other women, or with photographs of moments she hasn't shared with you.
Step 3. Immerse yourself in the work
If you spend too much time at work because you want to grow professionally, your girlfriend may get jealous. Be careful not to get jealous of your relationship with a coworker, as her obsession could cost you your job, especially if she starts asking other colleagues about you. Even worse, your girlfriend could contact your coworker's husband or boyfriend, irreparably destroying your relationship.
Step 4. Make friends with your girlfriend's friends
Whether you increase your contacts on social networks or invite them to do some activities with you, your girlfriend may get jealous, noticing that your interest in them has suddenly increased. This system is particularly effective if the friend you choose is single or if she has complimented you in the past.
- Be careful not to get too close to her best friend, it will hurt her deeply.
- Try to know the dynamics behind the relationships with her friends, so as not to bring out more serious problems. One of her friends may have a bad reputation for stealing other women's men.
Part 4 of 4: Focus on Other Women
Step 1. Compliment other women
Appreciate TV personalities or unknown women. Your girlfriend may get jealous and compete with them. Celebrities are a particularly easy target, as we are continually bombarded with images of beautiful women and messages about personal care.
Step 2. Talk to other women in her presence
While it's perfectly acceptable to interact with people of the opposite sex, your girlfriend may get jealous if your interpersonal relationships fuel her insecurities. Some girls don't care if their partner touches the maid and jokes with her, while your girlfriend may only get jealous if you smile at her the wrong way.
Step 3. Invite the third wheel
Invite a mutual friend to carry out an activity that you normally practice alone. Be careful that this does not appear as a spite, but rather as a casual and innocent invitation. Say something like: "I invited Giulia to go hiking with us tomorrow. She claims she has never been to the hills, so I told her we would come and get her if she wants to join us. " This shows that you are paying attention to other women, without being immature or corny.
Advice
- Jealousy is an irrational feeling, so make sure you can handle it if she overreacts by immediately admitting that you were just joking. He shouldn't doubt that you are simply trying to get his attention and not really woo another woman.
- Don't use jealousy against a woman who has already shown that she is unable to control her emotions. You could mark it deeply and make it even more fragile.
- Social networks often give rise to misinterpretation, so use them sparingly when posting on other people's message boards.
Warnings
- Do not overdo it. If you really love her, don't be mean.
- It could end your relationship.
- It could make you tit for tat and make you jealous in turn.
