If your parents won't let you leave the house, watch television, or have put you in detention for a while, by following these tips you can try to shorten the time. Parents often quickly regret the punishment given in a moment of anger and may be willing to reduce it. Even if your pride is holding you back, the most effective way to get the result you want is to make your family happy by showing them that you have learned to behave.
Steps
Method 1 of 2: Gaining Back the Consent of Your Parents
Step 1. Volunteer to do some household chores
Be willing to help your parents: their anger will fade very quickly and they will be less strict with you. Wash the dishes, take out the trash, or look after your little brother or sister.
Step 2. Don't rebel
If you really want to get rid of the punishment quickly, you have to follow the rules dictated by your parents. If they find that you have not been obedient, they may become even more angry and prolong the time you are not allowed to do something.
Step 3. Be nice to everyone, not just your parents
Your parents may be watching your behavior towards other family members, older relatives, and their friends to see if you have learned to behave better. Therefore, be kind and polite to everyone, also making an effort to talk to friends of yours.
Step 4. Spend time with your parents
If you lock yourself in your room and start sulking, your parents will be even angrier with you. If you really want to let your parents know that you are making an effort to improve, you need to show interest in family activities, such as a lunch or a visit to relatives. If you feel that you are still angry with your parents, try to carry out an activity with them that does not require prolonged dialogue, for example watching a movie together.
Step 5. Wait for a positive reaction from your parents
Your parents may have realized that you are doing very well just because you want to get rid of the punishment quickly. Do not be impatient, continue to be helpful and kind, wait a few days, especially if it is a long-term punishment. If you can wait and be consistent, there is a better chance that your parents will be convinced.
Method 2 of 2: Ask to Reduce Punishment
Step 1. Try talking to one of your parents
It might be easier to talk to each other individually, especially if one of your parents is more severe while the other is a little softer.
Step 2. Pick a good time to talk about it
Ask a parent if they are busy before starting the talk. Make it clear that you want to talk about the punishment. If you see that his expression is tense or he appears distracted, it means that it is not the right time, in this case ask if you can come back later.
Step 3. Apologize
Put your pride aside, even though it may be difficult (especially if you believe you haven't made any mistakes). If you do not show your parents that you have repented, they will not be available to reduce or cancel the punishment.
Step 4. Don't make excuses
While you apologize, avoid placing the blame on someone else. Make a summary of what happened and only talk about the actions you are responsible for.
Step 5. Speak firsthand to explain the effects of the punishment
Talk about how you feel and avoid using the words "you" and "you" as they may sound accusatory. For example, you might say “I feel stressed if I can't get away from home, I need to walk outside and relax” or “I know I was wrong but I'm sure this punishment has given me the opportunity to show that I understand mine. errors".
Step 6. Suggest the possibility of gradually regaining your privileges
This advice works especially if it is a long-term punishment, which could even last for weeks or months. For example, ask to be able to leave the house even though you have to return very soon, if you show yourself able to respect the agreements your parents will understand that you are reliable and may decide to end the punishment.
Some expert educators suggest that parents adopt this strategy, but be careful not to tell your parents clearly, they may not like the fact that you tell them what to do
Step 7. Suggest an alternative punishment
Your parents may be willing to change your current punishment for another. Depending on the situation, you may want to ask your family to do more housework, not to use the TV or computer for a certain period of time, or to engage in more study and find someone to help you do your homework.
Your parents certainly know which punishment limits you the most and which one you can handle well, if you want to convince them it shows real alternatives and not loopholes
Step 8. If none of this works, please try again after a few days
Observe the reaction of your parents, if they do not seem to accept your suggestions, do not keep asking and try to end the conversation in a polite way. If you argue and oppose their ideas, your punishment may lengthen rather than shorten. If it's a long-term punishment, wait at least a couple of days before trying again, let your parents calm down.
Advice
- Be good even after the punishment is removed from yours. Parents are likely to be keeping an eye on you to see if they have made the right decision.
- Don't cry, don't make a scene, and don't insult yourself if you don't want to make your parents even more nervous. Avoid phrases like "I'm a terrible person, I deserve it, I hate myself."
