When someone insults you, you may feel embarrassed, hurt, or frustrated. Whether it's your boss or your parents, insults can do a lot of harm. Often, by accepting a caustic comment or responding aggressively, you only make things worse, while the best way would be to ignore the hatred you receive. However, you may encounter some difficulties. Stop paying attention to the attacker by ignoring their insults, giving intelligent responses, and looking for a way to end the negativity.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Avoid Getting Annoyed
Step 1. Ignore insults by daydreaming
When someone starts insulting you, get carried away by your thoughts. Start thinking about what you would like to eat for dinner or the last vacation you took. You will feel more positive once you return to focus on the conversation you are having.
Step 2. Step away for a moment
If you can't ignore the attacks you are receiving, walk away from the situation. You don't have to stand still and keep getting insulted if you don't want to. If you think it's too rude to get your heels up and leave, say you need the bathroom.
If it's your boss or your parents, walking away is probably not the best choice. Hold on and ask what they would like me to do
Step 3. Use the earphones
To ignore someone, listen to some music or watch a show on your mobile or tablet. The noise from the earbuds will overwhelm any insult that may reach your ears.
This system works especially if you are on the bus or walking somewhere
Step 4. Do something else
Consider what you need to accomplish. Is your sister unnerving you? Start washing the dishes. Is a classmate rude? Take the book you need to finish for the lesson. If you are being unfriendly, the person who is bothering you may stop.
Step 5. Pretend you haven't heard
If you can't ignore the person who insults you, pretend you don't hear what they say. If she asks if you have listened, say no. If she tries to attack you again, tell her, "When did you say that? I didn't hear you."
Step 6. Don't respond to insults you read on the Internet
If someone treats you badly on social networks, delete their comments. Don't keep reading them, but block his messages or take him out of your friendships. Put your phone or laptop down and take a break. Call a friend to let off steam or tell your mom what's going on.
Step 7. Keep calm
Above all, don't let your emotions dominate you; if they take over, your interlocutor will understand that he has you in hand and could tread on his hand. Lower your voice, avoid crying, and take a few deep breaths. If you can't stay calm, walk away until you feel calmer.
Step 8. Take care of yourself
Insults can put a strain on emotional and mental health. So, take care of yourself every day. Take care of your physical well-being by going for a run and eating nutritious foods and your mental well-being by practicing meditation or joining a spiritual group.
Schedule something relaxing each day, like taking a hot bath or watching your favorite TV show
Step 9. Look at the insult from another perspective
Even if you will be able to shake off the offenses received in the moment, the mind may absorb them without you realizing it and rework them over time. If you don't internally deal with the poisonous words that you have been the target of, they could give rise to negative thoughts later on. Deprive their power by formulating a positive or even funny response, even if you only think it.
For example, if someone vilifies you for the way you dress, dismantle their criticism by asking if you really care about their opinion. He is not a fashion expert, so his judgment is worthless. Also, if clothing isn't your priority, think, "Hey, I haven't been out in my pajamas for a long time today!"
Step 10. List the compliments you have received
To combat the negativity of overbearing people, write down the most interesting sides that make you stand out. Did someone recently compliment you on your haircut? Put it on your list. Do they often tell you that you are good at math? Add this too.
Keep this list in the notes application on your mobile phone and read it to cheer yourself up when someone insults you
Part 2 of 3: Finding Solutions
Step 1. Avoid those who insult you
If you can help but see it, avoid it! In the morning, take another route to school. Don't sit next to him during lunch. Do whatever it takes to stay away from him, as long as you don't make the situation worse.
If you can't help it, ignore it, explain that you don't like the way they do, or report their behavior
Step 2. Ask a friend to intervene
If you are forced to have contact with a person who insults you, find a friend to accompany you. Explain the situation to him and ask him to give you his support in case any inconvenience should arise.
Tell him, "Do you remember when I told you about Tania? Well, she will come to the party tomorrow night. Can you come with me and support me? I don't want to face her alone."
Step 3. Address the problem directly if it seriously interferes with your life
While ignoring the problem is an effective strategy in some circumstances, in others it requires direct confrontation with bullying people to stop insulting you. So, take those who are bothering you aside and talk to them privately. Tell him this situation has to stop.
Express yourself like this: "Thank you for agreeing to talk to me. I have noticed that during meetings you don't waste time denigrating my work. While I appreciate constructive criticism, your comments today have been useless. You can try to be more positive? Otherwise, please don't criticize my projects."
Step 4. Keep your social media profiles private
Prevent someone from ambiguously commenting on posts and photos you post, accepting only the friendship of people you know. Make your account private so that others cannot access your information.
Step 5. Report the person who is harassing you
If she continues to pester you even when you don't do anything to provoke her, point out her behavior to those in charge. If you have anxiety when you have to go to work or school because of him, tell a teacher, manager, or other person in authority. File a formal report with your school or your company's human resources department.
Part 3 of 3: Respond Intelligently
Step 1. Laugh when you receive an insult
Instead of showing your annoyance, respond with a little laugh. In this way, you will communicate to those who offend you that their words do not intimidate you at all. Plus, you'll show him that you don't take his comments seriously.
Avoid laughing if it's your boss or your parents. Rather, try saying, "Why do you see it this way?" or "What can I improve at?"
Step 2. Change the subject
If you realize someone is about to insult you, change the subject. Bring up the latest songs, movies, or TV shows. Talk about the latest news or the new job assignment you've been given.
For example, you might say, "Gee, I forgot to tell you! I saw Game of Thrones for the first time the other day! I really liked it. You said you were hooked too, right?"
Step 3. Make a joke about the situation
A laugh can help ease even the most tense moments. If someone insults you, find the funny side of the situation. It is not necessary to respond with another offense. In this way, you may also lift your mood.
For example, if someone makes fun of you because you have glasses, you reply: "Marco, I have been wearing glasses for seven years. Are you just noticing now? Maybe I should lend you mine!"
Step 4. Accept the insult and move on
If you'd rather not walk away or joke, accept what you've been told and move on. Give a laconic answer so that your interlocutor understands that you don't want to continue. Just say "Ok" or "Thank you".
Step 5. Give a compliment
Another way to quickly silence someone who is insulting you is to say something nice to them. This way, you will confuse it with a totally unexpected comment. Make your compliment somehow connected to his attack.
