A little bit of mystery can improve your reputation a lot. By changing the way you behave and speak in public, you can envelop yourself in an aura of secrecy that makes you appear more interesting, intriguing and attractive to the people around you.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Communicate with Others
Step 1. Speak very little about yourself
If you are outgoing and friendly, you may be tempted to tell everyone your life story. However, mysterious people are not open books. Try to minimize the details you reveal about yourself, and when asked personal questions, respond with short, vague sentences.
For example, if someone asks you a question about the breakup you went through recently, you can just say "It didn't work out." This is an acceptable answer, which does not reveal any personal details about you
Step 2. Think before you speak
This advice goes hand in hand with the previous one. Instead of saying everything on your mind, think about why you want to say what you think and only do it if necessary. This way you will get an aura of mystery.
Step 3. Listen more to others
Mysterious people often just observe rather than put themselves in the spotlight. Focus on the environment around you, listen to others and blend into the background. This not only makes you more mysterious, but also more adept at conversing.
Step 4. Self-censor your social media posts
When you are really excited or angry about something, think twice before communicating it on social media. To be mysterious you have to limit the information you reveal in person as well as on the internet. Keep a low profile on social platforms like Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, and Snapchat.
For example, like your friends' posts on Facebook from time to time and rarely post images with short captions
Method 2 of 3: Behaving Mysteriously
Step 1. Show security
To have an aura of mystery you need to feel comfortable and interesting. Conveying confidence and serenity is intriguing to others and can contribute a lot to your mysterious image, because you show that you know exactly who you are, while others cannot decipher you. Maintain good posture and keep your head up so that everyone notices your confident attitude right away.
Self-confidence and arrogance are not the same thing; don't be rude and don't brag to everyone about your greatness
Step 2. Accept your originality
Mysterious people often go their own way and stand out from the crowd. Instead of wearing trendy clothes and taking part in the most popular activities, adopt a personal style and embrace all your quirks. This way you will appear as a complex person and difficult to decipher for others.
Step 3. Do unpredictable things
From time to time, do something others don't expect. This will make them question their idea of you. Activities that seem out of your character can arouse the curiosity of others and lead them to wonder who you really are.
For example, if you usually never speak in class, answer a question from the teacher with an intelligent and reasoned answer
Step 4. Hide your emotions
Mysterious people are difficult to decipher. If you are very expressive, others will understand how you feel without you needing to say a word. Pay attention to your facial expressions and try to keep them neutral so that no one knows what you think and feel.
- For example, if you had a bad fight with your brother or friend just before, act as if it were a normal day. Don't sulk and cry in front of the people you meet.
- Try to always remain calm, cool and detached.
Method 3 of 3: Change Your Lifestyle
Step 1. Try to be less present and available
The key to being mysterious is to behave with the utmost privacy and secrecy. The easiest way to keep people from understanding too much about you is to spend less time with them and talk little. Spend much of your free time alone or with people who already know your true nature, in order to appear distant to others.
Step 2. Show your true nature to only a few people you trust
Carefully choose a few reliable friends to fully open up to. We all need at least a couple of close people. Just express your fears, wishes, and regrets to them. When strangers realize that you only open up to a few specific people, they will wonder what kind you really are and try to get into your inner circle.
For example, you can only completely confide in your mother and your best friend who you have known for 5 years
Step 3. Focus on your hobbies
Having a lot of passions will make you look more interesting and versatile in the eyes of others. You will also look more mysterious if these activities take up a lot of your free time that you would otherwise spend socializing. Also, pursuing your hobbies can make you feel proud and fulfilled, helping you develop a mysterious confidence.
Advice
If it doesn't come naturally to you, don't try too hard to be mysterious. People should consider that trait as part of your core personality, not a role you try to play
Warnings
- Being mysterious doesn't mean being rude and not caring about other people. There's nothing wrong with making it clear that you don't want to talk about certain topics, but don't go so far as to deliberately ignore people and not answer their questions.
- While being mysterious can be endearing, being absent all the time can be frustrating for others and push them away. Learn the difference.
