Improving the success of your life can be summed up with choosing the right friends, colleagues and partner. Your physical appearance and personality traits play an important role in making you desirable in the eyes of those who don't know you. Brush up on the best ways to optimize your desirability before your next public outing or job interview.
Steps
Method 1 of 2: Have a Desirable Personality
Step 1. Relax
A calm attitude is attractive because most people feel stressed and worried. Everyone is looking for positive and problem-free relationships.
Try a joke to break an uncomfortable silence. Laugh regularly without covering your mouth to show that you know how to enjoy good times
Step 2. Be sure
You go to the other person or start a conversation. Don't look self-defeating when you meet new people.
- Say, "You caught my attention and I was hoping we could talk."
- If you've tried and the person doesn't seem interested, be so confident that you walk away. Let her know she's missing out on a big chance to meet you.
Step 3. Heal emotional intelligence
Learn to pick up physical and emotional cues, such as body language. Someone who has empathy and beauty is considered more desirable because they show an interest in others.
Step 4. Be passionate about something
Employers, family, friends and partners appreciate having goals. Whether it's for work, charity, hobbies or culture-related, passions will set you apart from others.
Step 5. Be yourself
Instead of trying to copy characteristics that you believe another would find desirable, try not to change the way you act according to your surroundings.
Step 6. Be self-reliant
Needy and co-dependent people tire quickly. A man who can cook or a woman with a brilliant career are highly desirable because of their independence.
Step 7. Don't be afraid to play a part
Male and female roles, despite a culture of independence, are still considered parts. Chivalry, manners, and boundaries on first dates still play an important role in choosing your relationships.
Method 2 of 2: Physical Appearance
Step 1. Give your physical appearance the importance it deserves
Don't go out with damp hair, overalls or mismatched socks. Usually that couple of minutes spent ironing the shirt, shaving and combing the hair improves desirability.
A 1997 scientific study found that personal care has more influence on attraction than height, build, or other invariable attributes
Step 2. Cultivate a sense of style
Invest in clothing that fits your body. You don't have to buy "sexy" things but both men and women respond to those people who have self-awareness and know how to look good.
- Make sure you dress for your age and accentuate your best features.
- If you need help with this part, ask someone who has style. And ask some of the opposite sex what looks best on you when you go shopping.
Step 3. Exercise
A person who exercises demonstrates discipline and an interest in health.
- If you are a woman and want to work towards increasing your desirability, measure the circumference of your waist and hips. Divide the first by the second. Aim for the decimal below 0, 8 which is an index of an hourglass figure.
- If you are a man and want to work to be more desirable, aim for a broad chest. Many women and men find the triangle chest more desirable than a limp abdomen.
Step 4. Assess your health
Desire in a mate has its roots in the search for a partner for procreation. Eat healthily, get plenty of exercise, and avoid bad habits like smoking and heavy drinking.
Step 5. Draw attention to the lips
Use conditioner or if you are a woman, red lipstick. When you are around people, red and plump lips are attractive and sensual.
Step 6. Give yourself a wealthy appearance
An expensive watch or a nice coat can appeal to someone looking for someone who can provide for themselves. While it may not be a lasting bond, it could lead to other options.
Step 7. Maintain good posture
Standing straight with your shoulders back reflects safety, physical health and makes you look taller. Consider going to a physical therapist if you find it difficult to correct your posture on your own.
