Do you feel the need to come out to your parents, but are afraid of getting stuck if you go and talk to them face to face? Read this article for some useful tips. It might be easier than you think. All you need is a word processor on your computer or you can simply write a letter or email, as you prefer.
Steps
Step 1. Try to give them some clues to make them understand that you are not straight
For example, if you are a lesbian, talk about the show L Word or tell them that birth control is not your concern. They will certainly begin to think about it! You can also wear rainbow colored jewelry. Just try to make them understand this indirectly before moving on to the next steps.
Step 2. Write an introduction
Here is an example: “Dear Mum and Dad, I would appreciate it very much if, while reading this letter, you avoided talking to me. I wouldn't want you to get distracted, because sometimes it happens, but what I have to tell you is very important and requires the utmost attention."
Step 3. Get straight to the point
Remember to prepare them for the fact that you are about to give them important news.
Here's an example of getting straight to the point: "I don't feel like talking directly to you right now. Lately, it seems we've gotten a lot apart and neither of us seem to want to hear what I have to say, even though I've made it clear to you. clearly that I need to talk to you. Now, I can't wait any longer; so I ask you the courtesy to read this letter in full before answering and BELIEVE ME when I say I have many things to tell you. Anyway, remember when I said last year that I thought I was bisexual? Well the truth is I was lying. It was just a cover up because I was afraid you would think I was weird; but now it's been a year and I'm more mature. My feelings haven't changed and I think that's more correct say I'm gay or lesbian, whatever you prefer. And if you still have doubts, that means I don't like boys; I'm attracted to girls. Now you know what I meant when I told you that you shouldn't be afraid re that I became pregnant and when I reassured you that the boys I brought home were just friends and nothing else. I know I'm different since I was ten and, when I started in middle school, I learned that who I am is called being "gay" or "lesbian"
Step 4. Give them a minute to recover
Don't worry if they stop reading for a while. If this happens, ask them to read it again. Now that you have their attention, explain to them what the consequences of what you just told them are.
Example: “Please don't think this is just a phase. Most gay and lesbian people were about the same age as I was when she realized it. They were about the same age as me even when they came out. There is no cure for homosexuality, since there is nothing wrong with being gay or lesbian; so please try to make an effort to accept me as I am. You can also tell the rest of the family because I don't mind. Indeed, it would be better to avoid embarrassing situations in the future. However, I no longer want to live in a lie. I'm tired of hiding. Pretending to be someone else is very stressful and has led many to make extreme gestures, such as suicide. I don't want to go that way. " Writing something like this will show them that you have taken the time to think about how to tell them and that you are trying to behave responsibly
Step 5. Start wrapping up the letter
Example: “I was reluctant to tell you about this because many boys my age are kicked out of their homes or cut off their food for 'coming out' (that's what they say these days when someone declares themselves gay or lesbian.). Do you know that young people who do not 'come out' and continue to hide are more likely to commit suicide? Many studies show this."
Step 6. Close the letter
You have no idea how long it took me to think about whether or not to tell you. Now that you have read what I have to say, I am more than ready to answer any questions you may have
Step 7. Answer all their questions
If you think it will work for them, search the internet for sites for parents with gay children and give the list to yours. They will appreciate the information, and as a bonus, you will have provided further proof of your maturity!
Warnings
- Don't be angry if they don't accept it right away. Maybe they are just denying the facts and will soon change their minds.
- Do not be offended if they ask you if you are trying to "rebel" or if you are "joking". If they did, it just means they were convinced you were straight, so answer truthfully! They are just asking innocent questions.
