It's not easy to ignore a person, especially if they keep talking to you and don't understand your intentions. You will need to look busy, change your routine, and cut off any contact with her. Follow these steps to learn more.
Steps
Method 1 of 4: First Method: Use Body Language
Step 1. Don't look her in the eye:
once you do, acknowledge its existence. If he is close to you, avoid eye contact at all costs, perhaps by focusing on someone else or looking in front of you or at the floor.
- If this person is shorter than you, look over their head; if it is higher, do not look upwards.
- If he is the same height as you and is standing next to you, try staring straight ahead so your eyes don't meet.
Step 2. Walk quickly to show her that you are busy, that you have a lot of things to do and that you have no intention of bothering with her
Proceed with your arms at your sides and with your head held high, as if you are setting your next goal, even if you don't have any direction.
- If you see her approaching you from afar, leave enough space between the two of you so she doesn't touch each other.
- Don't change direction when you meet her. If you walk through or down an alley, you will give the impression that you are worried about the possibility of meeting her. You can only go another direction if you see it from a distance and it doesn't see you.
Step 3. Use body language appropriately
Cross your arms over your chest and legs, assume a drooping posture and make yourself totally unapproachable. Your body should say "Don't try to talk to me" - hopefully it gets your message.
- Don't smile. Keep your expression neutral, perhaps frowning, to let her know you don't want to talk.
- You can also try to assume a blank stare - this would block anyone.
- If you have long hair or bangs or wear a hat, try covering part of your face to discourage her from looking into your eyes.
Step 4. As an alternative to body language, you can try to show yourself very busy, with your hands full and without even a second to have a silly conversation with this person
- If you are with your friends, talk to them and gesticulate a lot, showing yourself so caught up in the conversation that you can't talk to anyone else.
- If you are alone, show yourself taken from a book or magazine. You can also try reading the words in a low voice, as if you are trying to memorize them.
- Keep your hands busy. Whether you are walking or sitting, keep your phone, books or any other object in your hand: you will discourage her from approaching.
Method 2 of 4: Second Method: Use Technology
Step 1. Use your mobile:
this tool will help you ignore almost anyone. You can be very busy talking or texting intensely with someone, but there are other options too:
- Change the phone number, so he can no longer contact you.
- Block his number to stop receiving messages.
- Set the alarm when you know you will meet this person; pretend they're calling you.
Step 2. Listen to the music
Bring your headphones and mp3 player with you and turn up the volume to allow yourself to be completely absorbed. However, the headphones can be used as an isolator from the outside world even on their own, without necessarily turning on the iPod.
You can even close your eyes and sing, which will let her know that she has no chance to talk to you
Step 3. Ignoring a person online is easier than doing it in person
Do not reply to his emails, messages and posts on Facebook, DMs on Twitter and his other attempts at virtual contact.
- Block it from all your social networks. Make sure it can no longer reach you online.
- Change the email address and username you usually use: it won't find you.
Method 3 of 4: Third Method: Change Your Routine
Step 1. Take another route to never run into this person again
If you always meet her between classes, take the long way to miss her. If you always find yourself in the way at work, use another hallway or bathroom to minimize contact.
- If you keep meeting her anyway, start using the machine.
- If she changes her way to see you too, keep tweaking your routes until she gives up.
Step 2. Avoid his favorite places
If you know what his favorite bars, restaurants and parks are, don't go there anymore. However, doing so means precluding yourself from many things, so opt for this option only if you don't really want to meet her.
- You can also inquire about the days he goes to these places. For example, if he goes to his favorite restaurant on the weekend, go there on a weekday.
- If this person enters a certain bar only for an aperitif, go there later.
Step 3. Go to places he would not enter
If this person loves meat, start eating in vegan restaurants. If you hate jazz, go to a concert in your area. If she is an enemy of certain friends of yours, attend their parties.
Traveling to new places will not only allow you to ignore it, but also to try something different
Method 4 of 4: Fourth Method: Ignore Someone in Different Environments
Step 1. Ignore a schoolmate
This is not easy, especially if you go to the same class, but don't despair:
- If you are classmates, change your seat. If it has been assigned by a teacher, talk to him to ask for permission.
- If you meet her at the school bar, sit at a distance from her.
- If you bump into her in the hallways, look straight ahead, as if you're thinking of something else and haven't even seen her.
- If he asks you a question in class, pretend you haven't heard.
Step 2. Ignoring someone at work is a little more complicated, as in this case it can be difficult to change desks or avoid collaborating on certain projects
However, it is possible to limit the contact:
- Don't go to the coffee maker or kitchen when this person is there. Make sure you schedule different break times than yours.
- If your desks are close, focus on your computer and create a barrier with a stack of papers so you will see less of it.
- Don't jeopardize your professional life. If you really have to talk to her, do it. Then, outside the workplace, you can ignore it as and as you like.
Step 3. If you want to ignore someone in your social circle, carefully choose the friends to always hang out with and stay away from this person as much as possible when you are in the same room:
- Talk and laugh with your friends, showing them that you are having a blast.
- Dance. If this person approaches you, take a friend by the hand and dance with him. Does he still try to talk to you? Close your eyes, as if you are really hearing the music.
- If this person manages to get into your circle, get involved with other friends. When she talks, thinks about something else or picks up your cell phone, act as if it doesn't exist.
Advice
- Learn to see people out of the corner of your eye, to pretend you're not looking at them while actually doing it.
- If the person you are trying to ignore calls you on the street or goes out of their way to get your attention, quickly say “Hey, hi” and keep walking as if you have no time to waste.
- When this person tries to talk to you, take out your cell phone and pretend to answer a phone call or text message.
- If you are at work, keep the door closed or pretend you are on the phone.
- If you know you might meet her in a certain place, such as at the supermarket, check if her car is parked outside before entering it.
- Make sure you have a legitimate reason to ignore it. For example, if she wants to apologize for something, maybe you should give her a chance.
- Consider talking to her to resolve the issue that prompted you to ignore her.
