You hang out with a lot of kids in your school and many of them are good friends to you, you meet them at parties, you go for a walk to the mall with them, but you never really "go out" with any of them. You have therefore never had a real "date" with a guy. If just the thought makes you nervous, but you would like to experience your first date as soon as possible, read on and find out how to face your fears and behave in the right way. If you reflect yourself in this description, you will be able to learn many things by reading all the Steps and make a good impression.
Steps
Step 1. If you notice a guy you like at your school, you can let him know that you are interested in him
Smile at him during class, say hello to him when he passes you. If he stops to talk to you, or if he asks you about a school subject, try to lengthen the conversation and ask him questions about him, find out about his interests. Tell him about a movie you have seen, or that you think you will see soon, leave him some clues, who knows that he does not propose to see it with him.
Step 2. In talking about a movie you like, if you understand that he is not coming forward, you can try inviting him to go to the movies with you
Find a veiled and kind way to propose it to him, if he tells you he'd like it… congratulations! Your first date is coming to fruition!
Step 3. Set an hour and a day to meet and go to the cinema together
Ask him to pick you up so your parents know who you are with too. Never meet him on a street corner or directly at the cinema. Don't forget to ask him to drive you home at the end of the evening.
Step 4. Decide how to dress
Choose a special dress, don't show up in the same clothes you wear for school. If you can change your hairstyle, don't look the same every day. Place an accessory in your hair, choose one that suits your cut. Wear lightly and don't overdo it, make-up just needs to give you a touch of light color and put the accent on your face and eyes. Remember that in any case you have to be yourself. If you show yourself desperate for attention, you won't be able to impress.
Step 5. Add accessories such as matching earrings or shoes to match the dress
Don't be too fancy, you're about to go to the movies after all, not a nightclub. You have to feel comfortable.
Step 6. On the day of the appointment, when the boy picks you up, let your parents welcome him at the door
The boy will be calmer after he meets your parents. After a few minutes, enter the room, smile and welcome him.
Step 7. After chatting for a few minutes, leave together and go to the cinema
If you spend too much time chatting around the house, you may be late for the show. Try to get out quickly, you don't want to bore the guy on a first date or embarrass him.
Step 8. Talk to your parents and tell them where you are going and what time, more or less, you will be home
Also leave him the boy's name, address and phone number. If you have a curfew to respect, make sure you come back by the established time. If you are late, your parents may forbid you to go out for a while.
Step 9. It is good practice for the boy to pay for the girl on a "date"
However, if you understand that he has financial problems, ask him to pay for the ticket. If he insists on paying, let him and thank you.
Step 10. If he asks if you want a soda and popcorn he probably thinks about offering them
If he doesn't ask for it, don't buy them yourself, you will make him uncomfortable and it would be like underlining, albeit indirectly, the fact that he didn't think about it.
Step 11. If you really like the guy a lot, you can get a little closer to him or take his hand during the movie
Even a small gesture will let him know that you are interested. Watch his reaction. For example, if he recoils when you approach him and you touch him, perhaps he is very shy, or you are rushing things. Give him some time to feel comfortable next to you.
Step 12. After the movie, if he agrees too, you could propose to eat something together, a snack or an informal dinner
If he agrees, ask him to suggest a place he already knows. It will probably suggest the name of a place that you already know the prices and menus of.
Step 13. Don't focus all attention on yourself when you speak, show interest in him and don't be too talkative
Don't brag about your skills and achievements, listen to him carefully and let him express himself. Watch him talk to you and let him know that you are following him, do not move your gaze in the room or among the people in the restaurant. Make him feel special and show him that you appreciate his company.
Step 14. Do not criticize his friends or talk about anyone you know, or you will give the impression of being hungry for gossip
The guy may question your intentions and think that someday you will speak ill of him too.
Step 15. Don't continually imagine the moment of your first kiss
If it's just the first date, you don't have to look desperate. If he kisses you, kiss back, unless you want to.
Step 16. Relax, have fun, laugh at his jokes, listen carefully and you will soon see that he will invite you once again to hang out with him
Advice
- Before going out, take a shower, wash your hair and teeth. Wear a light perfume, but one that is very light and delicate. You will want the guy to notice you, and not your aggressive scent.
- If he asks you to go out with you again, but you don't like the idea at all, kindly decline the invitation and give him an explanation. Do not make excuses, it is not convenient, if you tell lies sooner or later you will be discovered.
- If the guy tries to kiss you but you don't feel ready, don't run away, be honest with him and there will be no need to run away.
- If you meet friends, introduce them to the boy but don't invite them to stay with you. Remember that the guy asked you out because he wants to spend time with you, not with others. Focus your attention only on him.
- If he asks if you want popcorn but buys a few, appreciate the gesture anyway, don't complain if he couldn't spend more, don't show interest in money.
- Let him open the car door for you. If he doesn't, he may not be comfortable with certain habits.
- Agree with him on how to pay the bill for the cinema or the restaurant, if both of you think that the other has to pay, and you leave the house without money, you will surely make a bad impression. If you are the one who proposed the appointment, bring some money with you to cover any expenses of the day.
- If you don't feel safe going to the appointment alone, ask a couple of friends to come with you to the cinema. It won't be a real date and you won't feel embarrassed.
Warnings
- Don't let anyone take advantage of you or push you to do something you don't want!
- If after the date the guy seems to avoid you, or ignore you, maybe he didn't have fun with you. Patience, worse for him!
- While watching the movie, if he hugs you or approaches you, keep control of the situation. If you feel uncomfortable, move a little and remove his arm. Don't make him think you're not interested in him, just tell him that maybe he's running a little too much. If he keeps insisting, get up and leave the cinema, call home and get someone to pick you up.
