The first date is stressful for everyone. We care about our behavior and the impression we make on the person we're dating. With these simple tips, you will not only be able to impress immediately, but also make her feel good in your company and like her for who you really are.
Steps
Step 1. Think about how much you like the person you are dating
Consider what kind of relationship you hope to have with her. Is it someone you consider very attractive? Or someone you think has a nice personality but aren't sure about the chemistry between you? Based on what you want from this person in the future, you can figure out what conversation topics you are most comfortable with, what information about yourself you intend to share, and what vibrations you want to convey to them.
Step 2. Don't have too many expectations
Go with an open mind! Don't imagine a catastrophe or a perfect evening. Most first dates can be embarrassing, meaningless but also quite pleasant experiences. There is no perfection.
Step 3. Consider the person you are dating as a friend
If you consider the person you have to date as someone you don't know very well (a stranger), you will become so nervous that you won't be able to be yourself in their company. Talk to her like you would an old friend. Playfully tease her like you might with friends, tell silly stories for a laugh, don't be afraid to show who you are everyday.
Step 4. Choose a place where you feel comfortable
If you don't frequent upscale restaurants or never go to a ballet theater, don't choose these places for a first date. It would be more appropriate to go to a place you know well and where you feel at home. Even if it's not a place you go to often, but it's in an area you know, it's fine.
Step 5. Choose something pleasant to do:
something different. Everyone goes to dinner and to the cinema! Do something you've never thought about, like shopping (even window shopping), working out together, going to the bookstore and looking around. Pick something you both like and are interested in. By doing so, you will highlight your whole personality.
Step 6. Dress and prepare to feel comfortable
If you've never worn long dresses with heels or a jacket and tie, don't do it on a first date. If you don't feel like you are yourself, you will be uncomfortable and the other person may notice. A casual or sophisticated-casual style is best (assuming you don't intend to go to the opera). If you want to go to a refined place that requires formal attire, put on or buy something elegant, but still comfortable. Choose ballet flats instead of heels or a pair of pleasant khakis instead of classic trousers.
Step 7. Recognize that there is always a good chance of having a second date
If you're not sure how you're doing (and haven't ruined it yet), remember it's just the first date. The first is often an embarrassing experience, only with the subsequent ones will you be able to feel really comfortable. If you still have doubts, just remember that the other person is probably just as nervous as you are.
