Finding an older man who is willing to support you will offer you new opportunities for fun, experiences and more money, which will make your life easier and even more thrilling. If you have decided to try this experience, consider all the factors that will help you get what you want: you must know how to look after the look, how to attract a wealthy man and keep him fully satisfied while receiving privileges. To find out how to find the right person in no time at all, read this article.
Steps
Part 1 of 4: Search in the Right Places
Step 1. Define your expectations
Before you start looking for an older, wealthier man, you should determine what you really want. This will help you concretize your research and clearly elaborate your needs right from the start. You can write two lists: one with the qualities you are looking for in this person and one with all the things you want to get funded. Don't be ashamed - that's the goal of the relationship after all.
- Determine what kind of man you prefer. Do you want me to be under 40 or over 50? Should he be divorced, intending to date more people, or married? Do you want him to spend a lot of time with you or do you prefer to see him only on the weekend?
- Determine what you want to get from this person. Some women require some sort of flat fee (for example, 1000 or 2000 euros) for their company, some dates and usually some intimacy. Others prefer to receive their compensation through dinners in exclusive restaurants, vacations in exotic locations and invitations to classy events.
Step 2. Check out the right websites
Don't be shy: if you're looking for a mature man to support you, you might want to sign up for a webpage to find one. These sites allow you to clarify your preferences and easily spot men on the same page.
- Make your preferences clear. Define the type of relationship you are looking for.
- Post flattering but not too provocative photographs. Users need to think you are sexy, but also take you seriously.
- Explain what you have to offer. Don't just talk about what you want, site users need to know if you are a woman ready for anything, charming, mysterious or fun-loving.
Step 3. Check out the classic dating sites
If having a profile on a dedicated website makes you feel ashamed or embarrassed, or you don't want to explicitly define your preferences, consider a normal dating site like Meetic. Try to find a man willing to give you the availability you are looking for from a financial point of view, and not only.
- You can search for the right man by using filters, such as income bracket or employment.
- You can also examine a man's profile to see if he fits your needs. If you have expensive hobbies and interests, like boating or vacationing in exotic destinations, wear designer clothes, and clearly have sophisticated tastes, you may be the one for you.
- You should also understand what this person is looking for: Does he prefer a woman to have an equal relationship with, or is he willing to offer compensation in exchange for company?
Step 4. Ask your friends
Don't be afraid to share your research. If you prefer to ask in a less direct way, you can formulate the request more wisely. At least one of your friends is likely to know a wealthy man (whether for work or outside interests) looking for a woman to take care of. If you probe the ground, it is highly likely that someone knows the perfect man for you.
Ask your friends to arrange a meeting and invite them to clarify your needs with a possible candidate. Otherwise you risk meeting a man looking for a soul mate, when all you want is someone to support you
Step 5. Go to places where you can find wealthy men
If you're too shy to use a dating site or reach out to your friends, you can go out and try to hook someone up. Take your friends to a bar or restaurant located in a wealthy area of your city, then look for older, obviously wealthy men.
- You can also move around and explore places notoriously frequented by rich men. Invite your friends on a trip to destinations generally chosen by wealthy people and see if you can find the right man.
- When looking for a man, dress well, but don't be too flirtatious. You need to be taken seriously, not considered a casual hookup girl. Your relationship with this person should last longer, at least until you get what you wanted.
- Consider cultural places that are generally frequented by wealthy men, such as museums, theaters, or art galleries. If a gallery or museum is hosting a special evening, like a cocktail party, be sure to join in and set up your antennas.
Step 6. Don't give up
Finding the right person takes time. Don't be discouraged if your research doesn't pay off right away. To increase the chances of finding the man of your dreams, you can combine different methods, that is to search online, ask your friends and attend targeted places. If you know what you want and are sure you can find it, then the right person will come into your life sooner or later.
The beauty of this experience is that you can date several people at the same time. Remember to keep the doors open while looking for the right man
Part 2 of 4: Attracting the Right Man
Step 1. Clarify your needs
If you determine your terms for the relationship early on, the other person will appreciate it and won't get confused. If you want to receive some sort of weekly salary or want this person to pay part of your expenses (like rent), explain it to them so that they know exactly what you want from the start. If you only want to see him once or twice a week, tell him to avoid having other expectations.
- Clarifying your needs allows you to determine the conditions of the relationship, ensuring that you both want the same thing.
- If you want to be free to see other people while you are dating, make it clear from the start.
- Don't be afraid to explicitly explain your needs - he will appreciate your honesty and may even be positively surprised.
Step 2. Take care of your physical appearance
To attract an older man, you don't have to be a sexy 20-year-old wearing a fourth. These folks are looking for women of all ages, shapes and sizes, so don't feel uncomfortable if you're out of sorts or if your physique isn't quite that of a Barbie. What matters is to dedicate time to your physical appearance by taking a shower every day, styling your hair, wearing carefully chosen clothes that enhance your body.
- Take some time to style your hair and do your makeup. You could meet a man at any time, so you want to look your best.
- You don't have to look like a porn star to attract such a man. Many women prefer soap and water.
Step 3. Believe in yourself
To attract such a man you should be confident, determined and with good self-esteem. Maybe this person feels embarrassed about their position or doesn't quite know what to do, so if you know what you're doing and aren't afraid to ask for what you want, they'll appreciate it. Keep your head up, smile and introduce yourself with pride.
There is a big difference between being confident and being bossy. Invite him to share his thoughts and desires, ask him what you can do to help him. Don't be so confident and into yourself that you completely ignore her needs
Step 4. Don't give up on your independence
Such a man is not looking for a life partner or a woman to do laundry or shopping. He probably already has a waitress for all of this. He is looking for a fun and inspiring woman who also has a life, interests, friends and plans of her own. If you seem clingy, obsessed with her schedule, or wanting to be around her all the time, your interest will soon wane.
- Don't see him more than 2-3 times a week - if you meet more often, he'll think you're growing fond of him.
- If possible, avoid sleeping too often with him. If you start spending more nights in his house, it will seem like you want to move in and be more present.
- Talk openly about your plans. If you plan on going out with your friends, tell them. If she feels a hint of jealousy, she'll want you even more. If you are dating another man, tell him, as long as you have established that it is an open relationship. This will make you appear more independent.
Step 5. Try to be sexy
This type of man wants a sexy woman who can satisfy his desires. If you are truly intent on cultivating such a relationship, you should have a certain look and a certain behavior. Wear sensual clothes, apply make-up like smoky eyes, use provocative underwear. You can act sexy by licking your lips, touching him in a way that turns him on, texting him provocatively, or engaging in hot conversations on the phone.
- If you want to have such a relationship, you should have some sexual experience. Such a man wants a woman who feels comfortable in the bedroom. You should know what to do and be prepared to fulfill his wishes.
- You don't have to dress provocatively to be sexy - choose clothes that flatter your body and impress this person.
Part 3 of 4: Keep it tight
Step 1. Try to be mysterious
If you want to continue being desired, you should surround yourself with an aura of mystery. For example, when you leave, don't always say where you are headed. If you don't answer his calls for a day, don't give elaborate explanations about your absence - just say you were busy living your life. Don't share every single thing that goes through your head, don't go into detail about your deepest desires and needs. You can reveal yourself gradually, but always leave it on your toes.
Don't tell him in detail what your commitments are. Let him ask himself about what you do when you are not together
Step 2. Try to be cheerful and nice
This type of man is looking for a woman he can have fun with. He is unwilling to give money to a woman who is unfriendly and who keeps complaining. If you have a negative view of life, try to minimize it when you are with him and share it with your true friends. Help create a serene and light atmosphere: laugh often, talk about what makes you happy and excites you, rather than what demoralizes you.
- Whenever you find yourself saying something negative, make up for it by making three positive comments.
- Try to laugh as much as possible. This type of man wants a woman who knows how to have fun.
- If on any given day you feel hyperemotivated or cry over a trifle, don't let your emotions out with this person. Call a friend.
Step 3. Always offer thrilling experiences
If you want to hold on to him, you should always arouse his curiosity. Don't do the same thing every weekend, for example you don't always go out to eat (even if it's in fancy restaurants). You could try new experiences, for example, ask him to take you on a boat ride, teach you how to play tennis or visit an exclusive destination.
- If you do the same activities over and over, he may start to get bored. Make sure you propose something new at least once a week or every 15 days.
- The same is true in the bedroom. Take advantage of intimacy to conquer him with new moves.
Step 4. Avoid having a home life
If she thinks you want to move in and is ready to sign a prenup, you will scare him off. He stays with you because you are fun, adventurous and inspiring, not because you like to cook or iron his shirts. If possible, don't sleep in her house, don't spend too much time together, and don't take on "wifey" assignments. These are all alarm bells that will lead him to terminate the relationship.
- As soon as you notice that you are getting too close and that this makes him uncomfortable, pull back.
- Don't say he's your boyfriend and don't make jokes about marriage.
- Don't introduce him to friends and family unless he really cares about it, or the relationship will start to feel too serious.
- Don't talk about experiences that are too distant in the future, unless you are simply planning a vacation.
Step 5. Don't get attached
If your goal is simply to get financial privileges, don't get attached. He is not your boyfriend and he is not the right person for a lasting relationship: he is a person you have fun with, who offers you financial benefits to make your life easier and more enjoyable. Don't start planning your wedding, thinking about what your children will be called, or planning your life around theirs. Stay yourself, keep pursuing your interests and you won't get hurt.
- Don't contact him all the time when you are away. You have to call him just to arrange your weekly or biweekly meetings and just before you go to his house.
- Don't start asking yourself questions about his life or thinking about the time when you will see each other again.
- Don't ask him questions about the other women in his life and don't get jealous when he names one.
Step 6. Find out if you should let it go
If you've been dating for a while, you may be wondering if you should end the relationship. A breakup can be justified in several ways. For example, you have noticed that he is too fond of you, you are afraid of you, or maybe you are both fed up. It is also possible that one of the two has fallen in love or has found someone special to cultivate a true relationship with.
- Once it's over, there's no turning back. If you end the relationship, clarify the reason and keep calm, and try to stay on good terms. If all you wanted was an older man to support you, you'll soon find another one.
- If he turned you down, don't be disappointed. It happens very often: this type of man tends to get bored and want to try something new… it probably isn't over because of you.
Part 4 of 4: Is it the Right Choice?
Step 1. You can be with such a person if you have no problem accepting money in exchange for a relationship
You get paid to please someone and act like you are their partner. There is nothing wrong with any of this, but you have to be honest with yourself.
You don't have to have a problem being direct with this person. If you are passive or accept the money without asking questions, it is possible that you will take advantage of it
Step 2. If you understand the risks of financial addiction, then you are cut out for such a relationship
The money you receive is subject to one or more conditions. To some extent, this person expects you to do something too, otherwise the relationship will not work and you will stop getting privileges.
- In a way you will depend on this person to maintain a certain lifestyle.
- If you have your own source of income and only use this man to provide you with more comfort or luxury, you can be more independent.
Step 3. If you have no problem deceiving someone, then this type of relationship is for you
Of course you should be honest with the man in question right from the start. However, while being sincere, you will give him false hope. To keep her interested and keep getting what you want, you need to behave in a sexy and mysterious way. Regardless of the "rules" you have established, it is possible that he will want to get more things out of you. You will have to accept this situation and be aware that you will delude him, because you will not give yourself more than you should.
Step 4. This type of relationship is for you if you can keep some distance from an emotional point of view
Many men who decide to have this type of relationship know what will happen. They start giving gifts and giving money, but they don't always put their ultimate goal on the table. When you allow a person to exercise power over you, you need to trust them. However, men of this type are not particularly reliable, at least in general. You have to control yourself and be careful, so that you protect both your head and your heart. At the same time, remember that you started cultivating this relationship just for money, so don't think you have no power within the relationship.
- In principle, this is an economic transaction. This is how you have to look at it.
- If you are looking for a deep or meaningful relationship, don't go this route. Any relationship built on an economic exchange is unlikely to lead to a real and intense harmony.
- As silly as it sounds to you, this type of relationship rarely resembles the plot of Pretty Woman. Don't let the dream of a luxurious life dazzle you and cause you to lose touch with the harsh truth.
