You care a lot about your girlfriend, but you are worried about not being able to show it to the fullest. Maybe she's starting to look a little bored. Here are some tips to spice up your relationship and show her that she is the most important thing in the world to you.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Daily Gestures
Step 1. Be direct
Don't assume your girlfriend knows how you feel about her. Make sure you tell her exactly how you feel. Ambiguity breeds uncertainty, which can put a strain on your relationship.
Step 2. Ask her how her day was
You are his confidant, so be sure to listen to everything he has to say. Help her relax by talking about any problems she has had. Empathize with her, share her ups and downs. This will help you bond.
Step 3. Listen to it
The importance of listening in a relationship is never stressed enough.
- Even if what she's saying is boring to you, pay attention because it's not boring to her.
- Learn to "read between the lines" and figure out what you could do to help her.
- Listening to her shows that you are committed to her and will build her trust.
- Don't just listen, but react to what he says. Try to be part of the conversation without taking control of it.
Step 4. Give her a simple compliment
Always be honest, because it is obvious if you are not.
- Let her know that she is particularly lively today.
- When she changes her hairstyle, praise her new look.
- Compliment her on something she did in class or at work.
- Give your positive opinion on the clothes she wears.
Step 5. Trust her
If you don't trust your girlfriend, she won't trust you either. Any good relationship is built on a solid foundation of trust.
- If she goes out with friends, avoid calling or texting her every twenty minutes. Let her have fun without you.
- Avoid jealousy. Let her talk to other guys without breaking into the conversation and being defensive. Just because he goes out with you doesn't mean he can't talk to anyone else.
Step 6. Respect it
Always treat her with the utmost respect, even when you are in a fight.
- Be respectful of her even when she isn't around. Don't talk bad about her behind her back.
- Talk about any concerns directly with her. Don't get tired of the problems you have, be honest and straightforward.
- Respect his intelligence. Don't assume that she needs help with everything.
- Don't reject all his ideas. A relationship is an equal partnership.
- Never resort to insults or physical abuse.
Part 2 of 3: Sweet Surprises
Step 1. Write her a love note
A note will show her that you care, enough to share your feelings. Write it by hand, don't give her a computer-written and printed card! Here are some incipits:
- "I've been thinking about you all day …"
- "I wish I could be there with you, but this ticket will have to do it for me …"
- "I can not wait to see you again"
- Leave the card where it will have the greatest effect. It would be ideal if finding the ticket were a surprise. For example, if you know she has to read a few pages of a school book, put it between those pages. If you sleep together, write a message on the bathroom mirror with soap, or leave a love note on the nightstand.
Step 2. Never forget to tell her that you love her, because she will never forget the moment you confessed your love to her
Step 3. Get in touch with her before bed
Call or text her when she's about to go to sleep. This romantic "texting" is a very effective way to show her that you care.
- Calling her before bed will let her know that you think she is.
- You will be his last thought before falling asleep.
- This way she will have someone to talk to about any problems she may have had during the day, which will help her sleep better.
Step 4. Surprise her with a dessert
- Chocolates can be cheap or very expensive. You don't need to spend an arm and a leg, just try to avoid buying a candy bar from the grocery aisle. Look for chocolates in a chocolate shop and remember that a small gift can make a big impact.
- Imported sweets are an elegant way to show you care and can be exciting to try. They are not too expensive either.
- Make cookies yourself. This will show how thoughtful you are and how well versed you are in the kitchen.
- If she doesn't like sweets, surprise her with her favorite snack.
Step 5. Give her some flowers
This is one of the more traditional ways to show affection, and it's very effective. The flowers are colorful and cheerful and an original gift brings liveliness. However, they can be expensive, so it's best to reserve them for really special occasions.
- Nowadays you can find a nice bouquet in shopping malls too.
- If you know your girlfriend's favorite colors or flowers, talk to a florist who will help you design a bouquet.
- If you have access to wildflowers, pick them up and make a bouquet yourself. Just make sure you don't pick flowers from someone's garden.
- If your girlfriend is having a bad day at the office, have her deliver some flowers. It can be expensive, but it will show your interest and she can show them to her colleagues.
- A single flower can do just as well as a whole bouquet. The important thing is the thought.
Step 6. Give her a simple gift
A surprise gift can liven up a normally boring day and really let her know you're thinking about her. Here are some ideas:
- Love coupon. Give her a set of coupons that she can use to get you to do things for her. For example: romantic dinners, movies, hugs and kisses on request, etc.
- An accessory. Clothes can be expensive, but a nice accessory can be a nice gift and keep you broke. For example, you can search for hats, scarves or bags.
- A bottle of wine and a couple of wine glasses.
Step 7. Show her love when she least expects it
Catch her off guard and you'll get a much longer lasting effect.
- Sneak up on her while she's working and give her a little kiss.
- Give her an extra hug before she heads to work or school.
- Draw her closer to you as you walk together on a cold day.
- Take her by the hand when walking in public.
Part 3 of 3: Doing More Than You Expect
Step 1. Get to know his friends and family
Try to do everything in your power to get along and be friendly with these people. They are an important part of your girlfriend's life and you should show that you respect them. This will allow your girlfriend to understand that she is serious about your relationship.
Step 2. Plan a treasure hunt
This can be a fun way to spend an afternoon; furthermore, the thought and planning you put into this activity will show her that you are really interested in her.
- First, choose the treasure. It can be anything from a piece of jewelry to a nice dinner out, or something more personal.
- Plan the hunt. Decide how long the treasure hunt should last and where it will take place. Common stops for a romantic hunt include "The first place we met" or "Our first dinner together".
- Write the tickets. Put the former in a place where you are sure it will find it. Write something like "I want to play a little with you, you can find the next ticket after [first clue]".
- Don't make the hunt too difficult, it should be fun!
Step 3. Make her a dinner
Not only will it allow you to plan a good date, but it will also show that you can get by in the kitchen. Don't worry too much about messing up, the thought matters a lot more than the result.
- Plan your meal. Find some simple recipes that don't have too many steps. Try to plan the preparation so that all courses are ready at the same time.
- Make sure the meal is balanced. Include a vegetable dish and don't serve huge portions.
- Pasta is usually a safe choice, as it is fairly easy to cook and most people like.
- The dining room needs to be cleaned before dinner. Light a candle or two and make sure all the dishes are placed correctly.
- If you are old enough, serve dinner with a bottle of wine.
Step 4. Prepare a CD or Playlist for yourself
- Making a CD is a bit like recording an audio cassette in the old days. Basically, your intent is to collect songs she likes and songs that express how you feel about her. Memory is heavily influenced by music and a good CD will be remembered for a long time.
- Create your song list. Make sure she is able to listen to it all without getting bored or skipping songs. Make sure that the first song catches her attention and that the following ones are enough in theme.
- Most music software allows you to burn CDs.
- If she uses a service like iTunes or Spotify, you can create a digital playlist and share it with her. This will allow you to make a playlist longer than a CD, but the lack of a tangible element can make the gift seem a little less special.
Step 5. Plan a picnic
Like preparing a dinner party, organizing a picnic shows that you care about her and that you think ahead of time about things to do.
- Make sure the weather is good. Forecasts are always changing, so be prepared to change plans if it starts raining the day before.
- Prepare a light lunch. A picnic should be something light and airy, and the food should reflect these characteristics. Make some sandwiches, cut some fruit and bring a bag of light potato chips. Make iced tea as a drink.
- Choose a nice picnic spot. Depending on your area, find a place that boasts a lot of natural beauty. A riverfront, beach, or lawn are all good places for a picnic. Inspect the site in advance and look for some secluded spots.
