If men are from Mars and women from Venus, it is no wonder that there are many misunderstandings between the two sexes. Boys are raised differently from girls, so once they reach adulthood this can have a huge impact on their thinking. If you're trying to get a better understanding of a man's perspective or just want to do a fun thought experiment, here are some ideas.
Steps
Method 1 of 2: Think Like a Man in a Professional Environment
Step 1. Stop thinking that co-workers are friends
Men value the feelings and thoughts of loved ones, but tend to give less weight to colleagues and acquaintances. Women, on the other hand, expect openness, equality and honesty from everyone they spend a substantial portion of their time with, including colleagues. In a traditional, hierarchical workplace, this can disappoint and confuse the female mind.
Step 2. Make yourself heard
Whether you are attending a company meeting or informing a small team, express yourself openly. Men tend to talk more often when interacting with a large group of people, this is to preserve their social status and demonstrate their verbal skills. Tell a story, make a joke or present a report to show off your expository skills and your grasp of the facts.
Usually women are considered excellent communicators, the problem is that they communicate in a way aimed at facilitating the establishment of friendships. In a highly competitive environment such as a professional one, this can be detrimental. When they talk, men take fewer breaks and care less about how listeners feel
Step 3. Analyze situations objectively
For men, it is easy to put feelings aside to make practical decisions based solely on facts. Women, on the other hand, tend to decide by considering how others will feel and trusting their own intuition. When making a professional decision, use tables, graphs and concrete data.
Step 4. Don't be afraid of scientific fields (defined STEM in English, an acronym that stands for Science, Technology, Engineering, Mathematics)
From childhood, people are taught that math, science and technology are purely male fields, while the arts are female. The idea that it is sex that determines an individual's abilities in mathematical, scientific and technological fields must be debunked. Read science news, watch documentaries like Cosmos: A Space Odyssey, search for new geek gadgets, games and apps. If you are about to enroll in college, consider a science or mathematics faculty.
Step 5. Recognize your limitations and abilities
Whether it's a project you don't feel able to do or a small favor asked by a colleague, refuse if you can't (or don't want to) make it happen. Men don't have too much trouble turning down assignments when they become excessive. On the other hand, if you are interested in a raise, a new position in your company, or more responsibility, explicitly explain to your supervisor what you intend to achieve. Don't be afraid of being seen as demanding or nagging.
- Women often have a hard time saying no to extra responsibilities because they don't want to be considered lazy. In addition, they are naturally more likely than men to help others. To think like a man, fight against these tendencies. Remember that saying no is a sign of strength and self-respect, not laziness.
- Men believe they deserve the salaries and raises they ask for. Be assertive and believe in yourself when considering whether to ask for a raise or negotiate your paycheck. Your behavior must show that you are entitled to it.
Method 2 of 2: Think Like a Man in Private Life
Step 1. Communicate openly and honestly
Women often revolve around a topic or express themselves in a more subtle way than men. The latter, on the other hand, are more likely to affirm their thoughts directly and promptly. Share everything that goes through your head clearly. Don't imply a problem or issue. Be direct, state exactly what you think and how you feel.
- Be honest with yourself and your partner. If you are going to delve into the relationship, tell him. If you don't want your relationship to formalize, make sure you're on the same page.
- Men tend to speak more in public than in private. Try to build rapport with others by doing concrete actions rather than talking.
Step 2. Practice your spatial skills
Men are better than women at imagining and remembering objects or new spaces. This is because the male brain has a thinner parietal region (the area of the brain that processes visual information).
Building a model or kit with Legos, or playing a sport like football, will help you think differently. You could also try drawing a map of a place you know
Step 3. Don't worry too much
Everyone cares, even men, but women tend to do it for a lot longer than a man. To think like the opposite sex, let go of small romantic, family, or business problems that you can't solve.
To worry less, allocate only a certain amount of time to your torments. Reduce the time you spend on the internet and try to get more physical activity. You could also try an activity that actively engages and distracts you, such as reading a book or painting a picture
Step 4. Prove your independence
Men like to feel useful, but they also want to know that their partner can take care of themselves. Men are educated to act and think independently. Showing that you can take care of yourself at work as well as in private life will increase your self-esteem, and others will understand that you are a capable and independent woman.
Financial security can be very important for feeling independent and living accordingly. Women are often expected to make only a small contribution to the income of a household and focus on children, while men should play the main role in supporting the family. To build an independent life, lay a solid economic foundation for yourself
Step 5. Keep your emotions in check
If your first instinct is to scream, cry, or get mad, don't. Patiently count to 10 and try to approach the conversation or problem differently. The female brain is more geared towards expressing and remembering emotions, so controlling emotional instincts is an important step to think like a man.
Step 6. In a relationship, try to give free rein to his more carnal side
Physical contact can often convey verbal indescribable feelings. Compared to that of women, the male mind reserves at least double the space for sex. Physically expressing your affection is helpful in clarifying your intentions and showing your partner that you love them.
Step 7. Don't obsess over the details
Women tend to stare and remember little moments that men ignore. Aspects such as quarrels, abrupt comments or possible teasing escape men, or are quickly forgotten. Try not to get obsessed with negative experiences and be willing to overlook some things.
Step 8. Focus less on your physical appearance
Women are bombarded with messages that praise physical perfection. Men don't get the same kind of pressure to conform to a superficial standard of beauty, so they tend to have a better body image. To think more like a man, learn to accept your physical appearance or body. Don't worry about imperfections.
Mirror yourself, assume an upright posture and repeat to yourself: "I am wonderful." Do this every day until you are convinced
Advice
- The brain is extremely modelable. Over time, you can partially or completely change your attitudes, opinions, and mental tendencies.
- Hormones play a vital role in determining male or female mental and behavioral patterns.
