If you have lost something that was very important in your life and made you happy, you will have a strong desire to attach yourself to the past. At the same time you will want to remove all those memories to overcome the pain. It is difficult to react to this emotional stage but wikiHow will help you cope with the problem. Start reading from step one.
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Method 1 of 4: Distract yourself
Step 1. Learn new skills
Learning to do something new is a productive way to redirect one's thoughts on something else. Think of something you always wanted to learn. Maybe you didn't take it into consideration before because you were too busy. If you have more free time now, you can start trying your hand at something that particularly appeals to you.
Step 2. Exercise
Exercise is an excellent source of distraction. Not only will you be able to distract yourself and improve your fitness, but movement is linked to a very important factor, the release of endorphins. Endorphins are chemicals responsible for a feeling of well-being. You will never be able to do without it!
Step 3. Try volunteering
Volunteering is a constructive way to forget about problems. Not only will you do something good for your community, and appear a better person in the eyes of others, but you will acquire new certainties and skills. If you do volunteer work with a certain frequency, you can also include it in your resume! You can offer your help in shelters for the homeless, at the soup kitchen, in associations for the defense of animals … Choose the activity that best reflects your personality.
Step 4. Play
Gambling has been shown not only to distract the mind, but to acquire new problem-solving skills in life. In some games, you may find the right space to release your tensions and express yourself.
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There are games like Journey and Flower that transport you to a relaxing, almost meditative dimension.
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More violent games, Mass Effect, for example, may help you release your anger by putting yourself into the positive character.
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On the other hand, board games, or company games, are an excellent solution for involving new people in your life and extending your knowledge.
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Step 5. Write something
Writing is the ideal way to be able to express yourself creatively and let off steam in a constructive way. Write about anything you like the most and that you think will make you feel better. You can help others improve wikiHow articles, you can feel deep personal satisfaction by writing a book (try fantasy fiction, if you've never experienced creative writing). If you want to put your thoughts in order and explore your emotions, start keeping a journal.
Step 6. Travel, if you can afford it
Through a journey you can experience a feeling of deep well-being, towards yourself and everything that is happening to you. If you are a person who loves to challenge himself, travel abroad for a rather long period and try your hand at new adventures. Traveling you will understand that you are a person who has managed to cope with many other difficulties than the sadness you feel now. Traveling, when done right, will test your self-management skills and all you can draw from these experiences is just what you need right now.
Method 2 of 4: Finding Satisfaction
Step 1. Confront the problem
If you have a problem to deal with, you can't just think about distracting yourself and forgetting. Escaping is not a positive attitude, and in the long run it can put you in difficulty. Look the problem in the face to regain your happiness and achieve mental stability.
Step 2. Understand the problem
Start analyzing the problem by making an effort to understand what happened. Did an important relationship end? Can't adapt to a new environment? Has anyone hurt you? Go to the root of your pain and understand what it came from, you cannot solve a problem until you have identified it.
Step 3. Get rid of guilt
Start telling yourself that what happened wasn't your fault. Whatever the situation was, you probably weren't in control. It is impossible to always manage every little thing, even if you have made mistakes remember that everyone does them. Stop feeling sorry for yourself and feeling responsible for what happened.
Step 4. Accept the reality
The past is past, you can't change it. At this point, the only thing to do is to make your present better: stop wishing for what you can no longer have and instead focus on the possibilities of the future. From the moment you can accept things as they are, you will begin to feel happy again.
Step 5. Remember your worth
Never forget that despite what has happened to you, or what you think you have done, you are always a good person. You can make others happy and do great things. What matters is you. Don't let bad experiences hold you back from doing everything you can do.
Step 6. Find your strengths
When you manage to fight your sadness, you will be a new and certainly better person. Problems make people grow and mature. If you have managed to cope with these adversities, you can be ready to solve many other problems in life: you will be stronger in the future.
Method 3 of 4: Move on
Step 1. Focus a little on yourself
When you are ready to be happy again, it is recommended that you take some time for yourself. Take care of yourself, spoil yourself and think about those changes that may be useful to you in the future. Take the opportunity to learn a little more about yourself to become a better person.
Step 2. Find the meaning of your experiences
If you feel sad now it is because you believe that your suffering was useless and even the good memories are no longer such, because the way it ended made you forget all the happy moments. For the sake of your future try to find meaning in everything that has happened. Try to understand what you have learned from the experience and what is the lesson to learn. Also accepting the negative things that have happened in your life will help you grow and improve yourself.
Step 3. Try new things
The first step to starting a new life is to try something new. It will help you understand that you are a different person than you were before, and you will also discover new energies and strengths. Do what you've always wanted to do, even something adventurous: a trip, a new job, or anything that gives you a feeling you've never experienced before.
Step 4. Meet new people
You will be able to connect with new people, find a new group of friends and maybe even a new love. These people will help you have new experiences, enjoy pleasant moments and share good memories. To meet new people, you can take lessons, join an association or even attend an online community.
Step 5. Have fun and be happy
You may think that if you start enjoying yourself too quickly, it's like you don't care enough about what you've lost. This is not the case at all: this idea only takes you away from your happiness. As soon as you can, take every opportunity to smile and be happy. You deserve it.
Step 6. Get help
If you think you have problems and can't get yourself out of this difficult situation on your own, or if you can't get away from your sadness, ask for help! Do not be ashamed to seek the advice of a psychologist if you feel you need it, there is no reason to feel weak or embarrassed, it is about finding a cure for a problem you have, such as taking medicine if you have a fever.
Method 4 of 4: Specific Advice for Different Situations
Step 1. If you want to forget a person
If you are trying to forget a friend, an ex, a family member you have lost, or another person you loved, there are specific things you can do to stop suffering. First get rid of all negative feelings like anger and revenge to focus only on positive emotions, for example good memories.
Step 2. If you want to forget an event
If you want to remove the memory of an unpleasant event or something embarrassing and traumatic that happened to you, the best thing to do is to build new positive memories! There are many things you can do, but having positive experiences will get you back on the right track.
Step 3. Fight the repression and substitution of memories
Repression and the replacement of memories are not two attitudes that can be assumed for too long, especially repression after a while will begin to manifest itself in the form of something else and you will hurt yourself unnecessarily. If you feel you need to get rid of a harmful memory, rely on the advice of a professional.
Step 4. It will help you leave the past behind
An important step to take to forget the past is to leave it behind. You can't change what has already happened, but you can go ahead and turn your sadness into something positive. Don't let go … you can do it!
