You can't stop thinking about a girl and this obsession is preventing you from living well. You've tried them all, but nothing to do. If you believe you'll never find one like it, follow these tips, and you'll soon feel relieved.
Steps
Method 1 of 4: Understanding the Problem
Step 1. You have to forget it
Before starting the journey, you should recognize that it is time to stop thinking about her. You can't deny that feeling obsessed doesn't allow you to enjoy life and doesn't make you sleep at night. Here's how to tell if you have a problem:
- You can't stop thinking about it for more than five minutes.
- You end up thinking about her even if you try to forget her.
- You compare every girl you know to her.
- You can't seem interested in other girls, even if some of them like you.
- You find yourself writing about her or drawing her portraits without even realizing it.
- Every song you listen to makes you think of her.
- You can't not check his Facebook or Twitter profile once an hour.
- You think you will never be happy without her.
Step 2. Think about why you think about her
Assuming you have a problem, you will need to understand the reason for it to get rid of it. Finding the root will help you find the solution. Here are some reasons why you can't change the flow of your thoughts:
- You have never met such a wonderful girl and you believe there is no one like her. It is so special that you have to have it. If this is the situation, remember that with a little patience you will find another that you will evaluate in the same way.
- You are dissatisfied with many aspects of your life, but you feel that she is capable of solving all your problems and giving you happiness. In this case, you should shift the focus to your life, thinking about your health and relationships.
- You go from girl to girl, and they all haunt you. But is it worth living in this way and foreclosing on pleasant experiences?
- You have been with her for a long time and it was a serious relationship. In this case, it will be more difficult to forget her and you will have to start planning your life again without her, focusing on your well-being.
Step 3. Prepare an action plan
Understanding the causes of the obsession, you need to develop a plan to stop thinking about her. It may seem impractical at first, but if you put in the effort and follow it to the letter, it will be easier than expected. Here's what to put in it:
- If you haven't done so yet, cut off all contact with her. Do you have mutual friends or do you go to school together? Make friends with other people and don't sit next to them. If you stay in touch with her because you think you have a chance, stop talking to her. Out of sight out of mind.
- Don't talk to her on social networks. Don't visit his Facebook page. If you go to check her every couple of hours, make it your point to only do it once a day, until you stop. You can also delete it from your friends or deactivate your account.
- Delete his phone number from your address book. If you think you will need it sooner or later, write it down on a piece of paper and put it away.
- Each night, try to estimate how much time you spent thinking about her. Set yourself 30 minutes a day as a limit. This factor may be difficult to measure, but check yourself to mitigate your obsession.
- Set a date: when it arrives, you will have to officially forget about it. It could be in a few months or a year.
- Be patient. It takes time to forget a person, and none of these methods will work at first. Don't get frustrated if you don't succeed immediately. Give yourself some time to get through this stage in your life.
Method 2 of 4: Stay Together With Your Loved Ones
Step 1. Spend time with your family:
she is not the only person in the universe. Maintaining a healthy relationship with those around you will take you away from obsessive thoughts. Here's what you can do:
- If you live with your family or near their home, offer to help them with errands. You will feel more useful.
- Call your family to find out how they are doing and try to talk about other interesting topics with them, without naming her.
- If you have a good relationship with your family, ask for advice. Surely some of them have faced the same problem as you in the past.
Step 2. See your friends more frequently
They will make you feel loved and distract you from the obsession. Go to concerts, movies and go out often.
- Try some fun activities together: rowing, trying new recipes or new restaurants. Having common goals with someone will distract you.
- Open up with them. Don't talk about her all the time, but explain what's happening to you so they'll help you better and force you out even when you don't want to do anything other than lock yourself up in the house.
- If you don't feel like going out, ask them to come to you for a pizza and watch a movie - it will do you good.
Step 3. Get to know other girls
While you don't necessarily have to have romantic goals, dating other girls can be important. Some female friendships will do you good because:
- You will begin to relate to the other sex and you will understand that the girl of your obsession is not all that unique.
- Seeing that there are other beautiful and smart women, you will stop comparing them to her.
Method 3 of 4: Stay Active
Step 1. Plan your day rigorously
If you have too much free time, the obsession will haunt you. Instead, by keeping busy, you won't have even a minute to devote to useless thoughts:
- Decide what to do in the morning: jog, read the newspaper, and go to school or work.
- After school and work, pursue a hobby and see your friends. Make sure you don't leave any downtime in the day.
- On midweek evenings, read a book or watch a movie; on weekends, go out. Keep busy to avoid checking Facebook all the time.
Step 2. Improve other aspects of your life
If you are obsessed with a woman, you probably have some shortcomings regarding your social life or your self-image. Work to be a happier person.
- Devote yourself to other relationships and try to make them work - you will feel less alone.
- Think about your health. Exercise at least three times a week and eat well. Don't neglect yourself, or you'll feel worse.
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Tidy up your room. Organizing the environments you live in will be good for your mental order and throwing away what you don't need will refresh you.
If your hometown or workplace makes you feel deeply unhappy, perhaps your sentimental obsession is only part of the problem. If you can, relocate, especially if your surroundings make you think about her. Changing your life will ease the pain
- Learn to take care of others. You will only think about her if you ignore the world around you. Don't be selfish - volunteer or help your friends and family, even if you just fix a piece of furniture or paint a wall.
Step 3. Pursue a new interest
Change your habits and twist your routine to avoid thinking about her. If you like what you do, you will feel more dynamic and on the path of improvement. Here's what you can do:
- Travel. If you can't go on vacation, go away on the weekend and ask your friends for hospitality.
- Express yourself through song, theater, or dance. You will bring out your emotions and it will be fun.
- Read all the books of your favorite writer so you will feel less alone. Reading, among other things, will make you more interesting. However, make sure this hobby doesn't make you isolate yourself even more. After reading, go out with your friends.
Method 4 of 4: Prepare to Overcome It
Step 1. Start dating other girls again
Invite one out. Your friends might introduce you to someone. You can also search for one online. Here's what to do:
- Start slow. On your first date, have fun with her. The time to have a serious relationship will come later.
- Don't talk about your old obsession, or you'll turn off all the girls you know.
- You may not feel the same for another girl, but you can't help but give it a try.
Step 2. Try to limit your obsessive behavior
It's great to get over your obsession with one girl, but if you don't fix the underlying problem, the exact same thing could happen to you with another. Break the cycle like this:
- Don't get attached quickly. It is important to open yourself up to love and the girls you will meet, but don't always think about the one that impressed you the most, or you will repeat the same pattern.
- Stay busy and active even after you've found the right one for you. If you do nothing but devote all your time to her, you will fall into the same trap.
- If you are good together, open yourself to love, the healthy one.
Advice
Try to laugh more. Watch comedies and hang out with hilarious people. Humor helps put things in perspective. After all, the expression "It is not the end of the world" is true
Warnings
- If your obsession does not pass even after a long time and you suffer from depression, go to the psychologist.
- Alcohol will not save you from pain. It can make you forget temporarily, but then it will cause even more problems.
