Are you tired of always being available? Being mysteriously detached, instead of being sweet and inviting, always has a certain, very powerful effect. Behaving coldly can make others take you more seriously both at school and in the workplace. Try not to go too far though - you don't want to have the opposite effect. If you want to know how to transform your personality from hot and cold, read on.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Part 1: Having a Cold Behavior
Step 1. Don't smile often
The smile on your face makes you look inviting and welcoming, drawing people towards you. It's harder to read someone's face when they have a serious expression. If you want to be detached, you should rarely smile. People have to look at you, trying to understand what you are thinking. Basically, you need to be able to get a face that's expressionless and hard to read.
- When you smile, do it content - don't let it turn into a toothy smile. Keep it mysterious and limited. Show it every now and then to make others wonder what's going on in your mind.
- Men may have more advantages than women; studies have shown that women are less attracted to men who always smile.
Step 2. Master the ice gaze
When someone crosses your street, look them straight in the eye and frown as if you are confused or upset by their behavior. Puck your lips together slightly to show a subtle indignation. Just lift your chin and look over your nose. Don't let any emotion of anger or sadness show through. Your expression must remain controlled, distant and cold as ice.
Step 3. Use proper body language
Perfecting the art of body language is crucial in the matter of showing detachment. Keep an air of mystery and control yourself by avoiding talking when you can take advantage of more devious communication techniques.
- Maintain perfect posture; stay straight.
- Do not shake hands and feet all the time. Don't play with your hair.
- When someone says something that annoys you, keep your expression blank and turn around slightly. Distract eye contact.
- Instead of a hug, extend your hand.
- When someone touches you, tense up slightly.
Step 4. Speak in a regular tone
When speaking, keep your voice regular, with no noticeable overhang. Maintain a calm, cool, regular tone even if inside you are charged with happiness or anger. Don't let yourself go with laughter or tears; keep your attitude and try not to let your emotions show. Be stoic and detached whenever you talk to someone.
Step 5. Don't talk about yourself
Keep your distance from those around you by avoiding revealing your thoughts, feelings, habits and details of your personal sphere. Cold people tend not to share much. Just say what is necessary and avoid any stories or jokes that might reveal too much.
Step 6. Don't ask too many questions
Asking others questions implies that you care and since your purpose is to be detached, you have to have the opposite effect. You will be able to exchange some pleasantries, but avoid showing excessive interest. You give the impression that you are too busy with your own thoughts to have a chance to discuss other people's nonsense.
Step 7. Never repeat yourself
If someone doesn't hear the first time, it's their fault. You should never repeat.
Method 2 of 3: Part Two: Maintain a Detached Attitude
Step 1. Be willing to hurt other people's feelings
When you don't smile, ask questions, or express any positive emotions, someone's feelings are very likely to be hurt. It is the price you will have to pay to be posted. Resist the urge to apologize or comfort them when you realize you have offended or hurt them.
- If someone asks you the reason for such harshness, look at them coldly and say they don't understand what they are referring to.
- If someone expresses sadness or anger you say something like "I'm sorry I offended you" then go on your way. By using this "no excuse" you will show others that you are a rather detached type.
- Be careful not to turn your back too much. According to some studies, those who ostracize may feel as sad as the victim themselves.
Step 2. Be highly competitive
Work hard to be the best at everything you do, even if it meant not being able to work as a team. Prepare to be the quickest to give the smartest answers in class. Be indefatigable if you play a sport. You excel at work even at the cost of making others seem inept.
Step 3. Become extremely practical and realistic
When others are excited about an upcoming tournament for example, remind them that it's just a game and a big waste of time. Don't express excitement about holidays and birthdays. Don't go along with your little cousin's belief for Santa. As cold, you have no time for this nonsense.
Step 4. Don't worry about helping
Does the lady on the street drop the fruit? Cross without looking at her or don't care for her as you pass by. The first thing to think about when you see someone asking for help will be, "Hell, why do I have to do this?" Don't help anyone. Don't hindsight your moves and don't let guilt affect your behavior. As cold, empathy and compassion don't have to be your forte.
Step 5. Be negative
For those who are detached, the glass is always half empty. Imagine yourself walking on the sidewalk and a car goes by and splashes you with dirty water. What will you say? Not "Man, my favorite shirt" or "Why me?" No, the correct answer is 'C': stare at it with hate and say: "May you go bump somewhere"
Be critical of those around you. Don't give compliments. If someone asks you for an opinion on what they're wearing, look away and change the subject
Step 6. Be careful who you trust
Behaving aloof will bring you enemies. As a result, there will be few people you can count on. The only ones will be those who know how deep down, you're not bad at all.
Method 3 of 3: Part Three: Knowing When to Be Cold
Step 1. In public
It is usually safer. You may be annoying some stranger, but it can be good especially if that person wants to "hook up" with you or is trying to get something out of you. Being cold in public probably won't ruin your reputation, nor will it cause you any long-term problems.
With that said, if you see someone who really needs help, let go of your attitude and give them a hand. Think about what you would like others to do if you found yourself in a similar situation
Step 2. When it helps you excel
There are times when being cold will help you be right, close a deal, or score the victory point. There is nothing wrong with having a cold attitude when it comes to moving forward - unless you do it at the expense of others. The important thing is to think about the consequences of your actions and your way of being.
Step 3. Don't be detached with friends and family
People who care about you and love you deserve the same treatment from you. Being detached to family and friends will only cause you to isolate yourself. After years of this treatment, no one but your parents is likely to want to deal with you again.
Step 4. Be careful to get this reputation
Being a cold person can have its benefits, but ultimately someone who is generous, kind and charming will attract more friends. Since having good friends leads to eternal happiness, you may want to consider cultivating these personality traits once you have experienced detachment. Don't worry, you can always show off your icy side when the situation calls for it.
Advice
- Smile complacently, it's a trademark.
- Don't be weak, it's annoying.
- Abandon all ethics, but keep dignity and respect, although they only become illusions if you really intend to follow these tips.
