When it comes time to choose the right person to spend the rest of your life with, the only one who can be sure you made the best choice is you. We all have ideas and expectations about what our ideal husband should be and what we would like our life to be like in the future: here are some tips to help you realize your dreams and to ensure that, when it comes to choosing, you are. honest with yourself.
Steps
Step 1. Ask yourself questions
The first thing you should do when thinking about marriage is to ask yourself if the man you intend to marry is really the person you would like to live with in the future.
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Ask yourself if he has the qualities you've always looked for in a man and if he has that wonderful "something" that you think is hard to find in another person. Ask yourself if you have esteem for him, if you admire him, if he has any qualities that you truly appreciate and that you would like to treasure as a precious asset for the rest of your life.
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Ask yourself if you really imagine a future life with him and if you think you can accomplish wonderful things by his side or not.
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Be honest with yourself and ask yourself if your relationship truly satisfies you or if, deep down in your soul, you are looking for something else.
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Step 2. Put yourself first
Focus on your goals and the things you want to do first, then ask yourself if he or she will be part of it and will support you. The man you are going to marry must be someone who can help you grow and be a better person in all areas.
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Do the same for him. Ask yourself if you are willing to help him grow and improve in all fields, without pretending to change him.
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Step 3. Family relationships
It is important that both of you maintain good relationships with their families. You have to evaluate how his family members treat you and how he behaves with your family, because once you get married you will become one family and you will often be with relatives of both.
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Get to know his family thoroughly. Go to family reunions and talk to her parents. Find out what they are about and what their views are on the topics you think are important.
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Get your parents to know him better too. Invite him to dinner at your parents' house every now and then. Organize activities to do all together, to build a good relationship with each other.
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Step 4. Get to know him
One of the most important things to do is to get to know him better. You can't think of getting married to him after two months of seeing each other. You have to get to know him well because, if not, when you move in together you may have some nasty surprises and it is not pleasant.
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Don't decide to get married if you don't first get to know each other better. Do a lot of things together to make sure you get along and are on the same page about what's important.
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Communicate in the right way. Start talking to him and communicating your feelings to him to build a solid relationship based on communication. Ask him to confide in you whenever he feels something is wrong. Remember to always make these requests with respect and discretion.
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Step 5. Evaluate your relationship
Think about how you are together. Do you really love each other? Do you spend happy hours together?
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Remember that this is another step for you: if the answers to these questions are negative, then you will probably need something else. It's best to take this step only when you think your relationship is working pretty well and you feel ready to make a serious commitment.
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Advice
- Don't just look for the right man: look for something more, a friend who knows how to take you by the hand and who is always there when you need him.
- Do not think of it in a reductive way as a trivial question of "choosing" the right man. It's about letting a person come into your life and thinking about how you want them to. There is only one life: you need to find someone who makes it wonderful and who helps you deal with it.
