Are you trying to figure out which of all your friends you should be dating and which ones to avoid? Or is uncertainty not making you choose? This article will help you distinguish good friendships from bad ones.
Steps
Step 1. First, you need to try to figure out who you can trust and who you can rely on
This does not mean that you will have to test all the people you meet; just be aware of the little things people do for you (remember to reciprocate) and realize the support you generally receive.
Step 2. When choosing your friends, think about whether they will be there in time of need
If you are in crisis, who will come to help you? Even if you are unsure about the goodwill of others, still try to ask for help every now and then and, depending on their reactions, true friends will begin to reveal themselves.
Step 3. You need to make sure none of your friends are bullying
If you have projects together, make sure everyone has a chance to contribute their ideas and decisions. No one is better than the others.
Step 4. Another very important thing is that none of your friends force you to do things you don't want, because that means manipulating someone
If, for example, you don't want to go to a party, you don't have to feel obligated to do so! Good friends accept and understand when you need your space.
Step 5. You also need to make sure your friends don't talk about you behind your back
As stupid as this behavior is, some people dare to do it. In any case, do not live in suspicion, but just be careful when they often talk to someone else and, if something seems strange to you, go and ask them what is going on!
Step 6. Make sure none of your friends are bullying
If one of them is a bully, tell him nobody likes bullies, and stop being his friend. Stand up for those who have been bullied and let your friend know that even if you are friends, you are on the side of what is right.
Advice
- Don't test your friends. You don't want someone to be superficial and insecure enough to do it with you.
- Remember that good friends know how to wait; you cannot force friendship on anyone, nor can you successfully make it work alone. Experience and talk to different people; you'll have a better chance of finding the right friends for you.
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Be positive and appreciate being alone if you are often alone. Remember that it is also good to be alone.
- Don't get too angry if someone does something you don't like. Even true friends are wrong. Give people a second chance and they'll do the same to you.
- Be careful not to exasperate people in your desperate search for friends, otherwise they will see you as clingy, in need of attention and annoying. Learn to wait, and true friends will come to you.
- Don't follow popular groups. While being the center of attention is a dream for many, it's not always a good thing. Many false friends join popular people.
Warnings
- If you are not a good friend, don't expect others to be good friends with you. They may see you as a self-righteous, critical, picky one, even if you may not intend to behave that way.
- Make time for friends who have dedicated time to you. If you become a popular person, remember the friends who have always been close to you, because if you don't, they could become enemies and in this case you would notice! If this happens, this will show everyone else that you have a tendency to forget people, even if they have been good friends to you.
