Going to the club and dancing with a girl scares many men. There is a lot of confusion, there is little space available and no one really knows each other. But everyone is there to have fun and let go - having this mindset is the secret to dancing with the girls at the club. Trust yourself, have fun and don't think too much. If you're willing to get involved, you'll find a dance partner in no time.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Approaching a Girl to Dance with Her
Step 1. Talk to a girl at the bar or on the edge of the dance floor
The secret to finding a person to dance with is pretty mundane - a simple conversation is all it takes. Look a woman in the eye, say hello, and introduce yourself. The idea can scare you a lot, but your chances of success would be even lower if you tried to use bad pickup phrases or if you waited for a girl to come to you. If she smiles back or seems interested in talking to you, meet her and invite her to dance.
- Although it may seem like a cliché, self-confidence is the most important quality in winning a woman. Get closer and start talking to her - you already have a big advantage over 90% of other men.
- If you're not a brilliant speaker, hit the dance floor and start dancing, possibly with your friends. Again, you will show that you are confident and you will be able to find a girl more easily.
- Often you will get rejections - but remember this is nothing personal. Many girls are engaged, want to be with their friends or feel unwell. Rejections are inevitable, so don't beat yourself up and find another person.
Step 2. Hit the track and see if anyone is looking for a mate
If talking to a woman scares you or if the music is too loud and would cover your words, start dancing and having fun. As you dance, look for girls who are on the dance floor alone or in small groups. Don't get too close, but if a woman is looking for a dance partner, she'll probably look around for her.
- If dancing isn't your thing, just swing to the beat of the music. Raise your arms alternately, keeping your joints loose and relaxed. You will blend into the crowd.
- If a girl is with a group of friends, avoids eye contact, or seems busy with another man, don't waste time. Many people go clubbing to find dance partners, so don't waste your time chasing a woman who doesn't want your attention.
Step 3. Look your chosen girl in the eye and smile to see if she wants to dance with you
Smiles and exchanges of glances are almost universal signs of attraction. Whether you've met a woman on the dance floor or at the bar, a natural smile and a confident look are the keys to bonding. In fact, smiles have been shown to be the most effective form of flirting, so try to look happy. If she reciprocates:
- Point your head to the dance floor.
- Ask "Would you like to dance?".
- Offer her your hand and playfully pull her towards the dance floor.
- Get close to her while you dance.
Step 4. Don't spend the whole evening looking for a girl
Not only would you not enjoy yourself, but you wouldn't be successful either. If you give the impression that you are "on the hunt" for a woman to dance with or if you try to get everyone to like you, you look desperate. Remember to be confident, calm and relaxed, even if it's not easy. You're at the club to have fun and you don't need a girl to do it. Talk to your friends, have conversation at the bar and dance when you like. You will be surprised at how attractive this security can be.
Never try to divide yourself between multiple "options" during an evening. The situation would probably backfire on you and you would give the impression that you are no good
Part 2 of 3: Learning to Dance
Step 1. Make movements simple and not too flashy
Don't try to impress the viewer with sudden and difficult moves that you can't. Just listen to the music and move to the beat. Above all, try to always move smoothly, without being too fast and without making exaggerated movements. If you want to practice, try some background music. Even a mirror can help you, to understand exactly the impression you give and what are the elements to improve.
- To dance you need sensitivity, not ostentation. If you go with the rhythm, everything will be fine.
- Repeating during the dance is not a problem! Don't think you have to change pace every 30 seconds.
Step 2. Learn the two-step movement to dance to any song in any club
You can use this simple dance step on any basis and at any time. To do this, start with both feet approximately shoulder-width apart. Count the beats of the drums: 1, 2, 3, 4 - 1, 2, 3, 4, etc. Bring your right foot to the right on the first beat. Then follow him with your left foot, tapping him on the ground next to each other on the second. In the third measure, bring your left foot to the left. Then follow him with your right foot, beating him to the ground next to each other on the last. You will be at the starting point, so keep repeating the movement. Here are some variations:
- Hold your arms up, snapping your fingers, clapping your hands, or bending them to the beat of the music. Don't leave them glued to your hips.
- Rotate and swing your shoulders to the rhythm of the music to move your upper body.
- On the second and fourth steps, try tapping the foot with the heel forward or putting the toe behind the foot already on the ground.
- As you get better at it, try moving forward, backward, or in a circle when doing the two-step.
Step 3. Bring your hips close to a woman and touch her lower body
This movement is one of the most common and intimate steps that takes place on the dance floor. Fortunately, it's also very easy to do. Put your hands on the girl's hips and alternate your feet with hers to prevent your knees from colliding. From this position, simply move your hips back and forth to the beat of the music. She'll likely be the one to guide you, so just follow her rhythm and move with her, swinging your hips from side to side. You can add some simple variations:
- Raise a hand in the air or squeeze one of his hands.
- Bend your knees together and lower yourself, especially if the song is slowing down after a particularly intense part.
- Spin it around and try to face it, especially if there is a good chemistry between you.
Step 4. Bend over to the music if you don't know what to do
This is the simplest step of all, but it is perfectly acceptable in the club. Bend your knees when you feel the beat, moving your shoulders back and forth. Keep your hands at chest height, clapping or snapping your fingers, so that you look completely loose and relaxed. If you don't know other steps, this simple technique will allow you not to look bad.
Remember to move by following the crate. It's very easy to follow the beat, just listen to the "boom-clap, boom-clap" that is heard in 99% of club songs
Step 5. Mix and match simple movements to give the impression of being a great dancer
To dance well you don't need a great technique. Of course, learning the more complex moves takes years of training, but at the club you will only need two or three classic steps that you can combine. When you can do the two-step and knee movement correctly, try adding the following steps, repeating them for 4-8 beats before changing them.
- Lower or turn your head to the beat of the music.
- Rotate one of the knees back and forth.
- Turn and rotate your shoulders back and forth while bending down to the beat of the music.
- Spin or twist on the tip of one foot.
- Extend your arms out in front of you, crossing and spreading them.
Part 3 of 3: Disco Dancing with a Girl
Step 1. Follow the drums of the song to dance to the beat
It doesn't matter your disposition - if you hit the beat, you'll look good. Fortunately, disco music is very easy to dance to, because the drums beat the beats for you. Move your feet, shoulders and arms following the "boom - clap" of the drums. Whenever you hear a snare drum hit, bring one foot to the ground. That should be enough to keep you going.
- Bring one foot to one side, then follow it with the other. Return to the other side. This quick "two-step" is appropriate for any song.
- Don't try to change and adjust your rhythm to match that of your dance partner if you feel like you're running out of time; this would only complicate matters. Listen to the music and synchronize your movements with the drums - she will do the same even without your help.
Step 2. Let one of the people lead the other during the dance
In traditional dance forms, it was almost always the man who led the woman on the dance floor, following complex patterns. Disco dancing does not require this technique. So, instead of trying to fill a role that isn't natural to you, just let yourself go and have fun. Follow his movements for some time. Take her hand and turn it around. Bend your knees and lower with her as the pace slows. Step away slightly and show one of your footsteps, even ridiculous. Instead of finding the perfect dance "plan", just try to have fun - you will probably entertain her too.
- If you are a good dancer and feel confident, don't be afraid to be the one to lead.
- Don't pinch her or take her in other childish ways. You would ruin the connection you made. Don't overdo it and follow her example until you understand exactly what she wants.
Step 3. Let her make the physical contact more intimate
Some girls like to increase the level of contact, while others like to go slower. Don't be in a hurry and absolutely avoid catching or holding her back. Keep your hands in "safe" places that can't provoke an angry reaction from her and let her decide how far you can go. However, remember that these tips are not fixed rules - each situation requires a separate evaluation to understand what limits are to be respected. If she likes something, fine, but if she doesn't like it, you have to stop.
- If you are dancing behind her, very closely and touching her with your hips, you can start putting a hand on her waist.
- If you are driving her on the track, you can hold her hand or place yours gently in the center of her back.
- If you dance in front of each other, there probably won't be much physical contact. Take her hand and spin it to overcome the contact barrier.
Step 4. Focus your attention on your dance partner and not on other women
When you have found a girl to dance with, you should have fun with her and not try to make any other conquests. There are many reasons, but the most important is that you would be very rude. If you don't like dancing with a girl, stop doing it and find another partner. If not, get completely involved in the moment.
Step 5. Try other steps when you feel more comfortable
When the song changes, your dance changes too. Lowered. Move your arms to other places on your partner's body (within the limits of what is allowed, if it does not make you understand otherwise). Make hand gestures from time to time and above all always smile. There's no need to be a clown, but remember to have fun. So be open, make her laugh and keep dancing. If you want to broaden your repertoire of dance moves, read:
- How to Learn to Dance;
- How to do some basic dance steps;
- Like Dancing in the Disco.
Step 6. Don't think of dancing as a competition or "exam" that you have to pass
Most women don't go clubbing to find the best dancer and take him home, although many guys think they have to be the greatest dancer since Michael Jackson. In reality, they are looking for men who are fun, confident and able to go with the beat. The lights are low, the alcohol is in circulation and the music is pounding. So stop worrying about being perfect and have fun - you will find more dance partners if you follow these tips.
Advice
- If you try to dance with a girl and she gets stuck, she's probably not interested in you - go straight!
- Avoid approaching a girl in a group of girls, she may reject you to "pose" in front of her friends or because she may not want to be the only one dancing.
- If you are dancing in front of a girl who is giving you her attention, make eye contact and smile.
Warnings
- If when you approach a girl, she feels the immediate "urge" to go to the bathroom, consider yourself rejected and don't try to dance with her even when she returns. If it wasn't just an excuse and she wants to dance with you, she'll be the one to approach you.
- Never ask a girl to dance at a nightclub, as you will most likely find yourself screaming in her ears. It is much better to just start dancing and let nature take its course.
