Despite the image that television programs, films and the music industry give, clubs and discos are not magical havens where everyone finds a partner: however, it takes effort to get to know someone, even in those environments! However, you don't need any hook-up phrases or other special "tricks" to pick up a girl in a club. Try to follow the same rules that always apply: be nice, be yourself and have fun. Correctly interpret the signals she sends you, and if she seems interested, make your move.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Going to a Club
Step 1. Take a shower and look after your appearance
When you want to meet new people, you need to make sure you make a great first impression, so start improving your physical appearance. Fortunately, it doesn't take a lot of effort to look good: shower, brush your teeth, and wear clean, ironed clothes.
- Put on deodorant, and if you decide to use perfume or other fragrances, don't overdo it.
- Imagine going out on a date. You have to be clean and ready to impress.
Step 2. Wear comfortable but stylish clothes
Many clubs, especially discos, are always warm, dark and sweaty environments. You need to be presentable but still have the freedom to move, dance and have fun. However, remember that every venue is different and that some require a certain type of dress. Look for information on the internet or ask a friend for advice before you leave the house.
- For a neat but informal look, try a pair of dark jeans.
- Try not to wear black clothes, as black highlights create unflattering highlights. Blue, gray, plain or plain patterned shirts look neat and beautiful to look at.
Step 3. Get friends to accompany you
Even if you don't want to spend all night talking to people you already know, having friends with you makes the night more fun and allows you to have someone to chat with if things get awkward. A lot of people go to clubs in groups and if one of the people you know makes friends with someone, they will usually introduce the rest of the company as well.
- Don't call your group of friends your "clique" or your "shoulders".
- If you go to a club alone and you are not a very sociable person, you may feel embarrassed. Not a problem though! Just try to have fun, meet new people and dance.
Step 4. Don't get drunk
Despite the rumor that alcohol is "liquid courage", no one likes harassing drunks. There's nothing wrong with having 2-3 drinks during the night, but you shouldn't get drunk to be able to talk to girls. Try to contain yourself so that you are alert and alert. You should be able to carry on a conversation and dance without tripping.
If you want time references, try to limit yourself to one drink every hour
Step 5. Have fun, even if you don't meet anyone
Nobody likes people who are obviously just looking for an adventure. With this attitude you would alienate your friends and often you would look downright creepy. If that's not enough, having fun will make it easier for you to get to know someone, because you will feel less nervous and more confident when talking to others. Having fun you give off positive energies!
There is nothing wrong with wanting to meet girls when you go out. However, if the only reason you hang out with clubs is to meet drunk women, you will usually come home disappointed
Part 2 of 3: Chat with the Girls
Step 1. Find women who aren't committed to someone else
Finding the right person to talk to can be the hardest part of the whole process, but try not to overthink it. Go to the bar counter and chat while you wait in line. Say hello to a girl sitting in the corner or at the edge of the dance floor. Focus on the quieter areas where conversation is possible.
Step 2. Smile and introduce yourself
This is a very simple but equally effective approach. Even if you have to be ready with some conversation topics, you don't need a perfect sentence to break the ice. Very often they will have already heard the most obvious pickup phrases and will not find them funny or fascinating.
If she smiles and introduces herself, offer her a drink. However, before doing so make sure he doesn't already have a full cocktail in hand
Step 3. Keep the conversation light
Don't try to figure out if the person in front of you is your soul mate: you just have to break the ice. Make a comment about the venue, its drink or music. Humor is the best way to break the ice, so make a few jokes to show that you are spontaneous, funny, and down to earth.
Don't talk about marriage, ex-partner, or long-term commitments. Remember that flirting should be light and fun, not serious
Step 4. Give sincere compliments
Saying "You are the most beautiful woman I have ever seen" is a trivial, generic phrase and probably the person who hears it will not believe you. On the other hand, if a girl has beautiful eyes, a style you really like, or great hair, tell her. Don't overwhelm her with compliments, but with a sincere compliment you can impress.
If he returns the compliment, don't ignore him and don't argue. Thank her kindly and accept the appreciation
Step 5. Be direct and ask her to dance
In some cases, a confident approach is enough to get a girl to follow you. After you smile, look her in the eye, and say a few words, nod your head towards the dance floor and ask her to dance. Even if at the moment it may seem like you're asking her to give you a kidney, don't hesitate. With a confident and direct attitude you can achieve great results. You can say:
- "Let's Dance!"
- "Can I steal you for a song?"
- "I love this song. Would you like to join me?"
Step 6. Don't take rejection personally
People will reject you for many reasons and 99% of the time it's nothing personal. They may have a partner, want to be with friends, feel tired, and so on, so don't be offended. It happens to everyone and your life doesn't get worse just because a stranger in a club isn't interested in dancing with you.
Part 3 of 3: Ask her for the number
Step 1. Interpret the signals
People interested in you can send you many different signals, which change from individual to individual. That said, there are some universal indications when a girl likes you. Likewise, if she avoids your gaze, doesn't turn towards you, or dampens your attempts to make conversation, forget it - she probably doesn't care. Here are some signs that instead indicate attraction:
- She laughs, smiles and feels comfortable with you.
- Break the contact barrier, for example by touching your arm.
- He makes fun of you, jokes or laughs good-naturedly at you.
Step 2. Once you notice some alchemy, break the contact barrier
If she laughs, looks you in the eye, and smiles, the best way to tell if she's ready to dance with you is to touch her. When you get up, gently place your hand on her arm or back, or touch her hand at the bar when she makes a joke or expresses an opinion that you agree with.
Do not prolong the contact too much and do not squeeze it; a light touch on an innocent area, such as the arm or hand, is sufficient
Step 3. Offer her your number first
After you dance, chat and have fun, leave your number and tell her it was a good night. In many cases he will respond by giving you his number, but even if he doesn't, you put the ball in his court.
- For example, you can say, "I had a great time and I would like to see you again. Call me sometime."
- You can also try something like: "Let's have a drink in the next few days".
Step 4. If you feel a connection, ask her to continue the evening
If you feel really comfortable with a person and the spark has arisen between you, let them know. Tell her you enjoyed yourself and ask her if she wants to have a drink, if she needs to be driven home, or if she wants to stop somewhere for a bite to eat. If he asks "What are you doing next?", It's probably not just out of politeness, but he wants to see you later. Let her know that you would love to have a drink with her or invite her to your home.
- For example, you can say, "Shall we have a drink in a less noisy place?"
- You can also try something like, "I'm leaving, do you have plans?"
Advice
- Don't think you have to talk to the same girl all night. She will also be in the club to hang out with friends. Ask her to dance, but then go back to the people you know.
- If you find that you have a tendency to sit on the sidelines, get up and move. Walk slowly, confidently and find someone to talk to.
- If you notice that someone seems interested in talking to you, for example because they look you in the eye, stop and chat with them.
Warnings
- Everyone happens to be rejected! It is normal that not all women you meet want to sleep with you.
- If you are asked to leave, withdraw, or are rejected, respect the other person's wishes.
- Remember that many women on the premises are not there to meet, but to have fun with their friends.
