It's not always easy to deal with kids. While it's important to be yourself, you may be nervous when thinking about what to say or how to connect with guys you don't like romantically. In the end, all you need to do is stay confident, learn to converse and use your sense of humor.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Knowing What to Do
Step 1. Find common interests
The first thing you should do around guys is find something you have in common so that an interesting conversation can start. It doesn't have to be something deep - you can talk about television or your favorite team. Look at a guy's clothes, notebooks, and backpack for clues about things you may have in common, and start a light discussion on those topics.
- You won't have to find something right away. If you get a guy to talk for a minute or more, you'll soon find something to bond with. This tactic is better than asking him out of thin air what his favorite bands, hobbies, or movies are.
- You can also check a guy's Facebook profile for clues as to what he likes if he's nervous about your first conversation.
Step 2. Be yourself and not another person
While being yourself may seem like incredibly mundane advice, it's the best of all. If you really want to please guys and get known, you can just be yourself. If of course you want to wait to let him know everything about you or you want to avoid topics reserved for couples you are free to do so, but you should not change your personality to fit into the model of girl that you think guys want to know.
- When talking to a guy, don't act like the girl you think he might like, and don't try to imitate the most popular girls in school. This won't get you as far as being yourself.
- If you're shy, you won't have to expose yourself from the start. Open up with the guys little by little, until you are friends.
Step 3. Dress in a way that makes you feel comfortable
You can wear whatever you like. If you like babydoll dresses, go ahead and wear them. If you prefer leggings and long shirts, skirts and tank tops or jeans and a T-shirt, that's no problem. You shouldn't wear clothes that are tighter or lower than you would like just to fit into the image of what you think guys like. You will look your best when you are visibly comfortable in your outfit.
Don't feel limited to one style or image, whether it's super sloppy or super feminine. You can wear leather pants one week and a little pink dress the next. What matters is that you like it every time you wear something
Step 4. Be friendly - with everyone
You might think guys will think you're "cool" if you're mean to people you think are inferior or unworthy of you, but in fact, the best thing to do is be friendly to everyone who doesn't give you reason not to be.. Whether you are talking to the silent kid in your class for the first time or having conversation with the newcomer, commit to smiling, asking questions, and being friendly. Guys will see that you are a nice person to be with.
If you're more shy, you don't have to suddenly become super outgoing. But you should make an attempt at least to smile and wave at people and introduce yourself to those you don't know whenever you can
Step 5. Show genuine interest
If you want to have fun when you date guys, you need to show that you really care, romantically or not. Show that you care by asking questions about their lives, giving them compliments, giving the impression that you care about their feelings, and making eye contact when you speak. Don't start talking about yourself whenever you can and don't keep looking at your phone when they talk. Instead, take the time to let them know that they are important to you.
Of course, it can be difficult to get a guy to know you care if you don't have a romantic interest in him. In this case, be fun and friendly and let him know that you are only looking for a friendship
Step 6. Amaze them with your confidence
You may think that all girls except you are confident about themselves, what they do and what they look like. But you'd be surprised how many girls fall victim to insecurity and try to disguise it with a nice smile or bad attitude. You can do better. Learn to love yourself, to be nice to other people, and to understand that you can do anything. If you have a positive and energetic attitude, the guys will gladly stay with you.
- Don't talk about how much weight you need to lose or how much you hate being tall. Instead, focus on the things about yourself that you like.
- Of course, it can take years to truly learn to love yourself. But you can take steps in this direction by accepting what you cannot change and striving to change what you can.
Part 2 of 3: Know What To Say
Step 1. Talk about the things that really interest you
Don't change your personality just to get a guy's attention, especially if it means pretending to love Star Wars or talking about a band you hate for hours. Talk about your favorite TV show, a good movie you've seen, the hobby you're most passionate about, or something you care about, and the kids will be drawn to your passion. Don't think it's any different than when you talk to your friends about this and that - except to avoid talking about the guys you like!
- The topic of the conversation is less important than making sure you talk as much as you listen. Try not to dominate the conversation and allow other people to talk.
- If you're only talking to one guy, try not to talk more than half the time.
Step 2. Know when to change the subject
While it's important to feel comfortable talking about the things that interest you, you should also learn when a guy is starting to get bored. If you have been talking about your horse for twenty minutes and you see that the guy starts looking at his strings, checking his phone or looking for a friend who can save him, then change the subject by asking him a question.
Learn to read body language and facial expressions to tell if a guy is listening to you. If he does, he'll look you in the eye (unless he's very shy or has a crush on you!) And turn his body towards you
Step 3. Give compliments
From time to time, you can give guys discreet compliments. You won't have to say that he has the most beautiful eyes in the world or that he is a colossus, but you can appreciate the new shirt he is wearing, tell him he was great in yesterday's game or make a gentle and light comment that makes the boy understand that you care. he. You won't need to have a crush on him to compliment him.
You can say something like "You're so good at chemistry. How do you do it?" or "Your laugh is unique. I recognized you from across the hall."
Step 4. Ask questions
If you want to have fun with guys, you should ask them questions without questioning them. You can get to know them little by little and show that you are interested in the things that matter to them. You won't need to interview them, but you should ask a question or two in the course of a conversation. Here are some topics you can ask questions about to show your interest:
- Favorite musical groups
- Hobby
- Favorite TV shows, movies or actors
- Plans for the weekend
- Pets.
Step 5. Don't be afraid to make self-mockery
Guys like girls who don't take themselves too seriously. While it's not attractive to demean yourself or really make fun of yourself, such as saying you're fat, stupid, or hate something about yourself, light humor can show your funny and affable side. This does not mean speaking ill of yourself seeking attention; just learn to laugh at yourself and the rest of your life will be so much easier.
For example, you can make a comment like "Surprise! I fell again" or "Every now and then I wonder how many other pink sweaters I can wear" to show the boys that you know your awkwardness or your flaws and that you are not looking for perfection
Part 3 of 3: Avoiding Common Mistakes
Step 1. Don't act too feminine if that's not your true personality
If you would describe yourself as a feminine girl who likes to wear clothes and show off her feminine qualities, keep doing it. If, on the other hand, you are more of a tomboy, you should be proud of your personality and not try to giggle more than usual, play with your hair more or change your behavior to conform to what you think guys want. The most important thing is to behave naturally and you will impress the guys.
You can also shuffle the cards a bit. If you are a tomboy, but feel like wearing a dress or a skirt from time to time, no one is stopping you
Step 2. Don't make your friends talk to guys for you
If you have a crush on a guy and want to tell him something, do it yourself. Sure, it's easier and less stressful to get your friend to ask what the guy you like thinks of you, but if you do it yourself, you'll make communication easier between you and the guy will be impressed with your confidence. The worst thing that can happen is that you don't return your feelings, but at least you will have the satisfaction of having had the courage to talk to him.
If you are very shy and afraid to tell a guy you like him in person, you can leave him a note or talk to him over the internet. The most important thing is to hear it directly from your words
Step 3. Don't laugh at everything
Another common mistake girls make is to think that boys want girls who always laugh. Sure, if the guy you're with is really funny, you can laugh all you want, but you should avoid laughing just because you think people will like you more. You can laugh, but you should make jokes too. Don't make people think you can only laugh.
When a guy is really funny, you can laugh as long as you want. You should avoid doing this just because you think you look pretty
Step 4. Don't be an exhibitionist
You might also think guys like girls talking about how expensive their bag is, which celebrities follow them on Twitter, or other things that might make you more appealing from a superficial standpoint. Talk about the things that really interest you instead, and the guys will be pleasantly impressed. If you do something worth bragging about, guys will find out, because people will praise you.
Try to be the best person you can be and the guys will be impressed with what you do, whether it's your language skills or your terrific serve in tennis
Step 5. Don't make fun of other girls
You may think guys find it funny if you make fun of other guys or talk about their problems. Most guys, however, prefer relaxed girls who don't complain about their friends and don't feel the need to belittle other people to feel better. On the other hand, if you say nice things about girls who are not there and avoid gossip, the guys will appreciate you more, because they will understand that you are down-to-earth and do not like scenes.
If you talk about other girls woes, you will give a signal of insecurity, and the guys will understand that you are doing it just to look better yourself. Instead, try praising other girls to show that you are comfortable with yourself
Advice
- Respect his privacy and keep whatever he tells you in confidence.
- Be outgoing and willing to try different things. That way he'll have more interest in inviting you to more places with him.
- Wait for him to make the first move from time to time. If you always take the initiative, you will look desperate.
- Give him some compliments. It will have a mini-dose of self-esteem. It won't be obvious that you like him, and he'll love you for it!
- Be calm and mature.
- Treat him with respect. If you're trying to get his attention, treat him more kindly, just don't be irritating.
- Try to relax and have fun! If you are having fun, you will be yourself without worrying about the negative!
- Remember that relationships work and flourish only on honesty, trust, the ability to deal with things together, commitment, love, kindness and openness.
- Look at the guy you like just enough to let him know you're flirting. Try to make eye contact with him, especially when you smile.
- Smile often and laugh at his jokes, no matter how stupid. But don't laugh too pretendly.
Warnings
- Never stereotype guys and think they are all the same. Just like with girls, every guy is different. So if something worked for one guy, don't assume it works for everyone.
- Don't fool a guy. Not only will you break his heart and lose his respect, but you will likely seriously lose the respect of his friends as well.
- Don't choke him. Give him his space.
- Let me talk to other girls. Don't be too possessive. Don't say things like "Stay away from him, he's mine!" Most guys don't like it.
- Try not to stare at him 24/7. It will be a little irritating to him and make him uncomfortable.
- Don't act like a prima donna when you're with him. Guys don't usually like that kind of attitude.
- Avoid guys who lie, cheat, or try to get you to do something you don't want to do.
- Be careful if she invites you to take part in activities that you and your friends wouldn't normally do. Be open to new things, but have common sense.
- Don't abandon friends. Guys like loyal girls and he'll be glad you don't live in his pocket.
- Avoid talking about other guys you find cute when you are with him.
