To be a hero in everyday life, you need to rise to the occasion, give your best, live by certain values and with clear purpose, help others and be a leader (most superheroes have a right arm, helpers, supporters or followers). In your own small way, you can learn to become an example to follow by improving yourself, developing the typical qualities of a hero, setting goals, achieving them and making your contribution to the world around you.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Acquiring the Typical Qualities of a Hero
Step 1. Develop integrity
Think of a hero you like - real, fictional, dead or alive. What qualities do you admire about him? If you don't have a champion, you can create one by choosing the qualities you would like to have or value most in people. It is very likely that one of these virtues is integrity. To be a credible hero, you will need to be serious and have strong moral values (a sense of good and evil).
- Be honest. Integrity also means honesty. Communicate everything you think and feel in a respectful and assertive manner. In other words, don't be afraid to express your feelings. Speak in the first person using roughly this formula: "I feel like _ when you _." So, you might say, "I lose my temper when you treat people badly."
- Do what you say. When you promise something, go all the way. Otherwise, if you're not sure you're keeping your word, don't say anything. Heroes are figures you can rely on. They are serious and consistent.
- Know your moral values. To become a more responsible person, identify your ethics and what you believe in. Sort your values in a list. For example, you might believe in freedom, equality, justice, and free speech.
- Make a list of anything that conflicts with your values. For example, you may be against murder, theft, self-harm, bullying, deception and violence.
Step 2. Be brave
Courage is another important value for a hero, which involves independence, managing one's fears and the ability to accept risks.
- Have the strength and courage to face your fears instead of avoiding them. Get out of your shell (where you feel safe from any danger) and learn to grow. For example, if you are afraid of speaking in public, you have one more reason to overcome this fear. Once you've mastered it, you'll likely find it wasn't as terrifying as you thought.
- Remember that being brave does not mean putting yourself in dangerous situations that can jeopardize your safety. Always prioritize your safety.
Step 3. Look on the bright side
Heroes don't dwell on the negatives because, if they did, they wouldn't have enough energy to save people and fight against bad guys. They believe in themselves and think they can face anyone at any time. If you think positively, you can boost your self-esteem and live a fulfilling life. To be a hero, you must have a positive and optimistic attitude towards life.
- Stop complaining and start living! In moments of despair, try to distract yourself. Take a walk, take a deep breath, or focus on something.
- Think of an encouraging phrase. Generally, every hero has a motto or a concept formulated in a few words on which he bases his vision of life. For example, Wolverine says, "I'm the best at what I do", while Spider-Man says, "With great power comes great responsibility."
Step 4. Recognize your weaknesses
To be a true hero, it is very important to have self-awareness. You shouldn't create a false image of yourself or be a narcissist without any integrity. A hero knows his strengths and weaknesses. Superman was also vulnerable to kryptonite.
- Take your responsibilities. Admit when you're wrong and don't blame others for your mistakes. Apologize if necessary.
- Identify the solutions and learn from your mistakes. Consider some situations in everyday life (school, work, family) in which you could have behaved better. Next, imagine yourself in these scenarios as a hero. How would you have acted? What would you have said or done?
- Instead of focusing too much on your flaws, focus on what you can improve. See mistakes and weaknesses as opportunities to grow personally. Try to think: "Mine is a work of continuous growth and evolution. I am willing to improve myself by making new experiences".
Step 5. Manage your emotions
Heroes don't panic in the face of danger. If you are nervous, try to stop and take a step back in order to analyze the situation.
- Think before you act. Stop and, if you need to, take a deep breath. Study your thoughts and mood.
- Put the best strategies in place for dealing with stress. For example, you could work out, confide in a friend, write a journal, and meditate.
Part 2 of 3: Set Goals and Achieve Them
Step 1. Try to motivate yourself
Motivation is one of the secrets to being a true hero. If you had no drive to change, you wouldn't even be reading this article. Therefore, motivation is what drives us to measure ourselves, focus on our goals and chase our dreams. Heroes are no different - they must remain motivated so that they have the strength and perseverance to move forward.
- Start by identifying the values you believe in. What do you consider important in life? Family, friends, work, the exercise of legislative power? These values can inspire you to change for the better. Try to engage in every aspect of your life, such as relationships with family and friends.
- Encourage yourself with positive affirmations. For example, when you feel unmotivated, try to think, "I can do it. I am perfectly capable of accomplishing everything I have in mind. I have managed in other situations and can do it again."
- Another great way to stay motivated is to reward yourself when you get something done. Rewards fuel correct behaviors. You can indulge in a dessert, one of your favorite dishes or a game of video games. Make sure it's something you really want and that creates the right anticipation.
- Imagine positive results. Those who expect to be successful and have confidence in their abilities are more motivated to move forward when the situation gets complicated. Be optimistic: "I know I can do it. Maybe it is difficult, but I will continue to focus on my goal and in the end it will be worth it."
Step 2. Take control
Understand what you can manage and what is inevitably out of your control. People who believe they are in control of their lives are more persistent in the face of the obstacles they are forced to face. A hero does not break down in the face of adversity. Realize that you have the power to change yourself and your life.
- For example, you won't be able to change your height, but you have the ability to control the perception of your image (in a positive way). If you are convinced that you are a unique and special person, you have the opportunity to turn the negative aspects into something positive.
- Be a hero. At first, just consider the characteristics of the hero you would like to become and apply them privately. Get the right mindset by assuming a posture that communicates self-confidence (shoulders straight and head held high) and striving to get into the spirit of the character.
- Use your imagination to visualize who you are. Visualization (defined as playing a video in the mind) or guided imagery allows people to make positive changes, for example in mood and health, while reducing stress. Close your eyes and imagine that you are the hero or person you would like to become. What are your feelings? What noises do you hear? What is around you? What would have to happen to get to this point?
Step 3. Set yourself positive goals
Identify your superpower. Do you want to be extremely intelligent, strong or available to others? Who do you want to be? Ask yourself: "What do I want to achieve in life?".
- Make a list of all the milestones you intend to achieve in 1 month, 6 months, and 1 year. Try to understand why you want to accomplish each goal. Ask yourself, "For whom or why am I doing this? To what extent will it be useful?" In this way, you will be able to set a goal and give meaning to your life, also increasing your motivation.
- You can establish a specific plan and deadlines for each goal. What do you need to focus on each goal? Suppose you intend to help people get up in times of trouble. To achieve your goal, you allow yourself six months. Therefore, the first steps could be: looking for organizations that deal with the most disadvantaged sections of the population, getting in touch with companies looking for volunteers or employees, calling organizations to ask for information about their activities, writing a resume, applying for a suitable job, prepare for interviews.
Step 4. Take action and test yourself
Heroes have a thousand commitments and their mission is to change themselves and the world! Think about how you can continually grow and improve. At the same time, you will also increase the feeling of well-being and be able to become the best hero you can be.
- Change the physical aspects that can prevent you from improving. For example, if you believe that a hero must have a certain physical prowess, try to practice a sport that allows you to strengthen the muscular structure, such as martial arts (taekwondo, karate, muay thai, kickboxing).
- Write a list of goals that allow you to improve on a personal level, including: lose 5 pounds, exercise 3 times a week, eat healthy 5 days a week, read a book 3 days a week, meditate 3 times a week, and stay healthy. out in nature 1 day a week.
- Other positive characteristics you should work on are understanding, cooperation, ambition, trustworthiness, competence, loyalty and wisdom.
Step 5. Never give up
A hero's life is full of obstacles, so you'll never have to throw in the towel to reach your goals! Put all your efforts into it.
- You will be persistent if you put your problem-solving skills to good use. If you are faced with a problem or there is something that depresses you, find a solution. Maybe just take a break, review your goals, or review the values you believe in.
- If you are tempted to give up, remember everything you believe in and hope to achieve within a year.
- Don't forget that a hero never throws in the towel, but keeps fighting to the end. Think, "I'll never give up. It's hard, but I know I can do it!"
Part 3 of 3: Helping Others
Step 1. Be an example for others
It is essential to build positive relationships to live a stable, full and fulfilling life. To have charisma or be a hero in everyday life, you need to be able to stimulate and motivate others to become who they want to be.
- Focus on trusting people. Don't hesitate to compliment them and let them know how much you appreciate their contribution. For example, if a friend asks you to help out with volunteering, you might say, "I really appreciate your help at the shelter. You have shown that you are willing to help not only me, but others as well. I noticed how encouraging and understanding you have been."
- Maintain a positive attitude when someone is having a hard time. Reassure him by believing in him and showing your willingness to help him if he needs help. You might say, "I know you are having a hard time. It is understandable. Know that I am close to you. I believe in you and I know you can overcome this."
- Guide him and listen if he asks you. However, avoid saying how he should behave in private life (for example, in his relationships) because it could be counterproductive. Instead, ask him a few questions, show interest in his situation, and take note of his state of mind.
Step 2. Make yourself useful
A hero lives in the service of others without paying attention to his own personal gain, neither of an economic nature nor from the point of view of social prestige. Empathy is a fundamental component of his character. He cares about others and wants to help them. For example, think of Superman: he didn't want fame, but he was committed to helping people - he also had a disguise (Clark Kent) that allowed him to lead a seemingly normal life.
- If you have the financial means, you can donate goods and money or make free services available to organizations that care for people in need.
- Try contributing to society by volunteering at a food bank or shelter.
- When you see someone in trouble, don't ignore them, but ask them how they are doing and offer them all the support you can give them.
Step 3. Be a positive point of reference
Most of the time we learn by interacting with others and observing situations. So, to become a hero in everyday life, try to be a positive example for those around you.
Show that you can stand up for what you believe in. If someone is being mistreated, don't hesitate to intervene. Just be sure to safeguard your own safety by not putting yourself in dangerous situations
Step 4. Seek support
The more, the better. As in the movie "The Avengers", sometimes superheroes have to come together to fight for what they believe in or overcome a huge obstacle. To help others, you must first help yourself by seeking the support you need to manage the tensions that come with your mission.
- Join a group of like-minded people. For example, if you are passionate about sports and health, you could join the gym or gather a few friends to organize weekly excursions.
- Meetup.com is a website created to train groups of people with similar interests, including: rock climbing, mountain biking, beach cleaning, raising children, helping the homeless and volunteering.
