In high school, everything changes and getting a girl can seem like an impossible task. But don't be intimidated! Read this article to play your cards right!
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Get Noticed
Step 1. If you like a girl, she'll need to know you exist
And if you tend to hide, he will never know. You won't have to do weird things or wear neon-colored clothes, but you should be original enough to attract her to you:
- Hit her with your wit in class or in another social situation. Make a shrewd comment so he'll know you're awake.
- Charm her with your words. To do this, however, you will have to learn to fascinate everyone, from the English teacher to your laboratory partner. Being charming means being able to speak openly to everyone and make them feel comfortable.
- It shines in everything you do, from school to sports. You obviously can't do everything, but be active and show off your skills.
- Don't get noticed negatively. If you're the guy who gets suspended or does nothing but talk in class, she won't want to be with you.
Step 2. Don't play sound confident, be confident
Let's face it: in high school it is difficult to have good self-esteem. In these years the body changes between unpredictable hormonal activities and dancing emotions, all this while trying to balance school with the social arena. Although the people around you seem confident, chances are they are masking their insecurities with arrogance, and this is to be avoided. Become Really Confident:
- Look after your physical appearance, but don't get vain. Shower every day, try to style your hair differently, and spend a little more time choosing your clothes.
- Take a serious interest in something, even if they'll call you a nerd. Cultivate a passion but don't follow the crowd: don't join the school soccer team just because all your friends do. Passionate about a different activity and you will hit it.
- Don't be ashamed to be enthusiastic. Don't think that being confident means being snooty and sitting at the back counter. Being confident means being intrigued by the world and what you study at school. Ask questions in class. She will be struck by this attitude of yours because she will understand that you are different from everyone else.
- Part of being confident is accepting that you are not perfect. If you know what your flaws are, you can work on them. If you know what your mistakes are, you will become a more sensitive person and a better friend.
Step 3. Be fun
Girls want to have fun, so don't play dark! No, you don't have to laugh all the time, but let her know that you know how to have fun, and that you know how to infect those around you with your positive energy.
- Make friends with everyone. Your school, like all others, will have its own groups and it is humanly impossible to get along with anyone, but try to get to know different people. She will understand that you are friendly and versatile and that you don't care about people's status.
- Don't hang out with bullies - girls hate these kinds of people.
Method 2 of 3: Make it feel unique
Step 1. Talk to her when you are in school
After you've made yourself known, start getting closer to her more often, but without declaring your interest.
- Greet her in the hallway and ask her what lesson she has.
- If you are in the same class or leave school at the same time, accompany her to the door or stop and talk to her outside. Do you live near? Try to go home with her.
- If you are in the same class, work on showing that you are interested in school and, at the same time, sociable towards your peers.
Step 2. Approach her at school events by letting her know you care, but without giving too much away:
- If you meet her at a school concert, ask her what she thinks. Let her know that you value her opinions. Don't stop talking to her for too long - walk away to make her want to be with you longer.
- If you are at the school dance, approach her and purposely dance like a fool: if she laughs spontaneously, invite her to dance with you.
- If you do an afternoon activity together, catch the ball to ask her something.
Step 3. If you meet her outside of school, such as at a party or shopping mall, approach her:
you can be more relaxed and loose than at school.
- If you meet her at the mall, ask her what she bought. Does he show you a dress? Tell her it will look great on her. Bonus points if you renew the compliment when you see her wearing this garment at school.
- If you meet her at the cinema, ask her what movie she will watch. Tell her about the last movie you saw, but don't be too critical.
- If you meet her at a party, start talking to her, but don't monopolize her all evening. Approach other girls as well to let her know that you are capable of making friends with everyone, but don't flirt with them, or she will lose interest.
Method 3 of 3: Ask her out
Step 1. Invite her out
If she says yes, she won't automatically become your girlfriend - she'll want to get to know you better before figuring out if you're the right guy for her. As a result, when you go out, show your best side. Like?
- Be a gentleman. Buy her some flowers, open her door and give her your jacket if it's cold. Teenagers don't pay much attention to these things - you'll probably be the first to treat her like a young lady.
- Don't be afraid to compliment her. Don't overwhelm her with praise, though. Just tell her that she looks good dressed like this: surely she will have spent some time on her look before going out, so your words will be appreciated.
- Capture his interest. Unless you're at the movies, start a compelling conversation. Prepare topics to talk about and ask her questions about her hobbies or family. Make her feel unique. Tell her about a fun fact that happened at school. Don't speak ill of others.
- Take her to a special place. You could go to mini-golf, have ice cream, try a new restaurant. Plan your appointment as if you were an adult and pay for it.
- Turn off your cell phone.
Step 2. After a few dates, try kissing her and ask her if she wants to be your girlfriend
Don't be in a hurry, wait for the right time to come and for both of you to be ready.
- Do it in a quiet place when you are alone (avoid it if your friends are around).
- If you want to kiss her, slowly approach her and close your eyes.
- You don't have to give a speech to ask her to be your girlfriend. Tell her "I like being with you" or "I've never met someone like you before", following with "Do you want to be my girlfriend?".
- Don't send your friends to ask, you're not in elementary school!
Step 3. React like a gentleman if he rejects you
Continue to be confident and mature. Wish her luck, don't insult her. High school represents the right time to do the general rehearsal of life and to understand how to relate to the other sex. If, on the other hand, she says yes, hug her and kiss her and tell her that you are really happy.
Advice
- Being silent is not wrong: you won't have to talk all the time.
- Don't be more vain than she is! Girls want a man, not another friend.
- Having a bad boy look doesn't mean putting soap aside.
- Self-esteem is sexy, boldness is not.
