There are many ways to ask a girl to go out with you. Asking her to go to the cinema together (in a dimly lit place, with a guy she barely knows…) is certainly different from asking her to go out and eat something together. Here's how to ask her to go to the movies with you if that's your specific interest.
Steps
Step 1. Ask her what kind of movie she sees, what her favorite genres are, or which movie she has seen most recently
These are good ways to start a conversation, and they can help you ask her to go see a movie together. You should also inquire about girls' favorite movie genres in general.
Step 2. Tell her something like:
"Are you interested in going to the cinema with me and some friends?" Without being too direct, you will still give her the idea that you are interested in HER in particular.
Step 3. Plan to go to the movies with a group of friends, preferably one that includes friends you know, especially if you don't know her well
Step 4. Buy tickets for a movie you have talked about, and at a time you already agree to
If you need to change your schedule, ask for confirmation first.
Step 5. Agree with her on where to meet, and be punctual for the appointment, bringing friends as well if they fit the agreements
Step 6. Chat with her for a while as you walk into the room, and ask her if she would like some popcorn or a soda
Step 7. If you have to go to the bathroom, let her know and expect her to go too
You don't want to miss an important scene from the film, and by going to the bathroom first you show her that you care about watching the film carefully and with her.
Step 8. As you enter, identify the row you are sitting in, and have it pass first, offering to hold the glass or food she is holding, then sit back and make yourself comfortable, ask her if she is comfortable too, then turn off the mobile and talk a little longer with her before the screening begins
At this point, enjoy the movie.
Step 9. Be a gentleman, and she will easily accept a new proposal for a date, or perhaps to go for a drink after the movie
Step 10. When the movie ends, turn your phone back on and ask her what she liked about the movie, and listen to her
You will need this later.
Step 11. Wait a few minutes for the crowd to disperse and then walk out of the hall with her
When you arrive at the cinema entrance, ask her if she needs to go to the bathroom, and wait for her to return.
Step 12. Offer her to go out to eat or drink something together, and tell her about the movie
You can take a cue from what she herself told you just after the screening.
Step 13. Get her home on time, or say hello if she goes away with her friends
Step 14. Enjoy
Advice
- Always ask her what kind of movie she wants to see, don't take her tastes for granted.
- Avoid movies that are too serious, intellectual, or depressing. Choose something light and fun. Laughing together will open the doors for you to a second date.
- When you propose to go to the movies, have a movie title ready to watch together, plus a back-up one in case she's already seen what you've chosen, or doesn't care.
- Show that you are organized and flexible, let her know that you are a man of initiative.
- Make sure you reserve your seats in advance. If you wait until the last minute, you may not find a place until the next screening …
- Dress with taste and criteria.
- Buy tickets and popcorn yourself. If you want to show off a bit, buy sodas too. Instead, avoid buying drinks if the film is long or if you plan to go out for dinner after the screening.
- Going to the movies is a great prelude to eating together after the movie, and that easily results in a new date.
- If you go to the movies with a girl who already has some intimacy, you can hold her hand, look at her and smile at her. She'll let you know if she sees your date as a date or as a simple movie watching with friends, saving you the embarrassment of trying to put an unwanted arm around her shoulders.
- Pay attention to the film and try to remember plot points that can provide you with conversation points later, helping you present what you believe in without being too obvious. Your compliments and criticisms should be sincere, but still let her speak up first so you know what topics you need to avoid.
- Even though the cinema is a popular meeting place, you should still avoid it if you are a teenager on a first date. Aside from a few quick comments, there can be no conversation during the film. You should therefore prefer a bar or other public place, where you can talk and get to know each other better.
Warnings
- Don't show her movie tickets and tell her you have one more and the friend you were supposed to go with can't come, asking if she wants to go with you. It would make her feel like a fallback solution, and she would likely turn down the offer even if she was potentially interested. Or, even if you don't care, she might just accept to watch a movie that interests her for free.
- If the girl you're interested in doesn't return your attention, forget it, it's all too easy to be accused of harassment these days.
- Either way, you don't have to be discouraged. Express yourself at your best, and you will see that some of the many girls you meet will want to get to know you better, and one of them may fall in love with you.
- Don't upset her with weird comments or touch her inappropriately.
- The fact that she came to the cinema with you, and that the cinema is dimly lit, does not mean that you can make extreme advances to her. Prove you are mature!
- Do not put your arm around her shoulders unless she is suggesting it in words or gestures.
- Make sure she is comfortable when you put your arm around her, otherwise you will make her sit in an uncomfortable position for a couple of hours, and she will not be able to enjoy the movie. This may preclude the possibility of a second outing together.
