Be confident, exude charm, and have great conversations. These features will help you conquer all the girls in your high school! But how to cultivate them?
Steps
Part 1 of 2: The Trailer
Step 1. Approach the girl you like but feel confident to really look like it, avoiding stammering or sweating
- Find an excuse to talk to her - the girl probably already knows your intentions, but still, you should have a conversation topic ready.
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What to do if you have nothing to say?
- The approach should be casual: no comments in bad taste.
- “I have heard that the professors in your section are much better than mine. I was thinking of changing class”.
- “Hey, I saw you at the stadium the other day. Will you go to see the next match?”.
Step 2. Prepare a conversation starter
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Always feeling confident, you engage in an indirect conversation, which means you don't have to give the impression that you have approached because you like her.
- ”I need a female opinion. A friend of mine was dumped by his girlfriend but she keeps calling him: why does he do it? ".
- "Maybe you can help me. I just moved and I don't know the locals in this city. Where do you go on weekends? ".
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If you're a little more confident, you might want to try a straightforward approach - it's riskier but also more impactful.
- “I think you are the most beautiful girl I've ever seen. My name is…".
- "Sorry if I interrupt you but I was wondering why such a beautiful girl was alone: do you mind if I sit here with you?".
Step 3. Work on compliments to start the conversation
Everyone likes to receive tasteful comments:
- "Hi, what beautiful earrings! I bet you made them!”.
- "Hello! I couldn't help but notice that the dress you are wearing is the same color as your eyes. It is truly beautiful!”.
- Compliments should be about hair, eyes, lips, or clothing - avoid those on typical feminine areas.
Step 4. Don't be heavy
The conversation should not exceed five minutes.
- If you have nothing more to tell yourself, don't be afraid to tell her, “It was nice meeting you. Could we meet again? ".
- If the conversation goes well and she's flirting with you, ask for her phone number and invite her out, maybe after school.
Step 5. Talk to her again
The first conversation certainly allowed her to get an idea about you, but keep approaching to get to know you better and allow her to confirm, or deny, her impression.
- Ask her questions like "Do you like school?", "Will you go to university?" or "Do you play any sports?".
- Tell her funny stories or jokes - girls love guys who have a sense of humor. Add a hint of sarcasm. If she laughs at you, don't blame it and joke about it.
- If you know he plays a sport, go see a game. Be there. But if she has clearly told you that she is not interested in you, don't do it, while, if you have any chance, you could earn points this way.
Step 6. Do not put it on a pedestal
You come before everyone else and she must be aware of your many qualities. Do not flaunt anything but let her know that you are a smart person and full of interests. Any relationship should be based on a certain balance between the two parties.
She may not return your interest, but do what you can to look attractive and full of surprises
Step 7. Get closer
Guys often make the mistake of not asking the girl out or asking for her number. Proceed gradually.
- Get physically close, from casually touching her arm to hugging her.
- Get emotionally close by asking for her number and calling her or, if you're too shy, talking via Facebook.
- Many young people do not ask for the number because they are terrified of a possible rejection. And the girls think they don't ask for it for lack of interest.
Part 2 of 2: Improve yourself
Step 1. Hygiene and style
Taking care of these two aspects will make a real difference. Fix your hair and buy clothes that fit you well.
- Girls prefer clean boys. Shower daily and brush your teeth and floss twice a day.
- Jeans are a must-have: try on various types and buy the ones that suit you.
- Buy plain t-shirts with prints that reflect your tastes and thoughts.
- Wear plain sweaters and jackets.
- Cut your hair at the barbershop. Get inspired by a style by browsing through magazines.
Step 2. Be friendly and surround yourself with friends
Get to know other guys, talk to everyone and smile. Looking gloomy won't turn in your favor.
- During the years of high school we discover many things about ourselves. Choose hobbies that interest you and share your passions with others to make new friends.
- Do favors for deserving people; don't get trampled. Choose only polite and nice people.
- Your school might be boring: take afternoon classes.
Step 3. Stand up for your ideals
Girls like guys who have very specific opinions. If the girl you're interested in is being rude to you, don't answer badly but tell her you don't appreciate her attitude.
Step 4. Don't be afraid of rejection
True, it is hard to deal with it. Everyone hates feeling inadequate, but it's part of life and it happens to anyone, even those who seem perfect.
- Don't put all your hopes on one girl - this can only be done after a relationship has started.
- Keep trying. If you break down and let go of your self-esteem, girls won't feel attracted to you. Negative experiences make us stronger.
Advice
- Don't overwhelm her with messages and phone calls - you could scare her.
- Make your intentions clear, especially if you care about other people who like her. Don't go too slow, or she may feel that you don't care and enjoy someone else's attention.
- The girl you least expect may be the one for you.
- Don't look like a bad boy or look like a wimp. Just be sure of yourself.
- Don't act like a seducer: being simple and straightforward, without strategies, is almost always the best decision.