Do you want to learn how to set a good example or improve your relationship with your siblings? Are you going to be a brother for the first time? Here's how to be a good brother and lead by example!
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Set a Good Example
Step 1. Be respectful
It is important to lead by example. Respect your siblings of course but also parents, friends, teachers and even strangers! Bringing respect will help a lot in life and your siblings will learn what will become a habit too.
Don't talk behind the backs of parents and teachers. Discuss politely if there are problems but otherwise do what you are told, showing your siblings how to behave
Step 2. Be responsible
It is equally important for the little ones to learn how to be. Don't use drugs or get drunk and do what you should around the house. You do well in school while being humble about grades. Find a job that fits your schedule and save. This way you will help yourself by setting an example. Your brothers will see that work and sacrifice pay off.
Step 3. Use correct language
Don't teach your siblings all the bad words that exist: using correct language also means speaking well. Speak correctly, taking care of grammar and vocabulary. The little ones will imitate you, learning. A good dialectic is a sign of good education and many employers consider it essential, so it is a good start to a successful life.
Step 4. Avoid violence
You should strive not to be violent with your siblings and lead by example with others. Children who learn to be abusive from their older siblings will likely lead a life of that, ending up in jail or worse. Instead, solve problems peacefully and by talking. If anyone tries to get you into a fight, act like an adult and walk away.
Kids who grow up in a violent home environment tend to be more violent as adults, so what do you think your little siblings will do when they see the person they adore behave that way?
Step 5. Be yourself
Teach your siblings to respect themselves by remaining who they are. You can do it just by staying true to yourself. Do what you love without being swayed by opinions. Be an individual and forget the fads, researching what would make you more popular. By doing so, your brothers will gain the security of their being.
Step 6. Protect others
Show your siblings that they should always fight for the little ones and protect the weak. You may not know, but that boy who gets beaten in school may not have an older brother to help him. Protecting the helpless will teach your siblings how to be good and increase their respect for you.
Step 7. Do what is right
The right thing, even if it is difficult. This means apologizing or admitting that you were wrong. You want the little ones to learn to do the same, to always choose what is right. And this will make you better.
Method 2 of 3: Develop a Good Relationship
Step 1. Spend time with your siblings
The best way to start cultivating a good relationship with them is to spend time together. Go out, go anywhere, it doesn't matter. Do what you like. This way you will have good memories together and build a friendship regardless of your sibling status.
Step 2. Build their trust
Your brothers must have great self-confidence, so help them. Compliment them when they deserve them, help them develop skills and become smarter; to implement projects of which they will be proud. In this way you too will be happy, it will be a feeling of mutual pride.
Step 3. Gain and maintain their trust
If you want to have a good relationship with your siblings, there should be a lot of trust between you. When they tell you something, don't go and tell your parents about it. Keep confidences confidential unless your brothers tell you to reveal them. If you are unable to trust each other, you will probably have a bad relationship for the rest of your life.
You should also increase their confidence by becoming a safe figure to turn to in case of problems. Never make fun of them for what they tell you, so that they always know they can come to you without fearing your reaction
Step 4. Let your brothers be themselves
Don't try to turn them into you if they don't make the decisions you would make. Respect the fact that they are individuals and praise them for who they are. Try to practice some activities with them or at least talk and inform yourself about what they love.
Step 5. Look at things from their perspective
You will likely disagree from time to time. That's the way it goes between brothers. But when you fight or when they do something you don't like, try to put yourself in their shoes. Sympathize and understand that they are probably trying their best. This way you will avoid clashes.
Seeing things from another perspective is something applicable to everyday life. Appreciate their attempts to fight every day and respect them for what they face, in this way you will have mutual respect
Step 6. Help them when they have problems
If it happens, be there for them! Don't just do it for them, but to show how to resolve situations. This way their life will be better and you will develop a friendship.
However, if the brothers refuse help, you will have to respect their choice. If they really want to go it alone, the best thing to do is be there if they're wrong or if they need help
Step 7. Encourage your brothers
Encourage them to go out and do what they want with their life. Push them to reach the top. Encourage them to be better. These things will help them achieve greater results in life and be happier. And you will not suffer seeing them injured or in ambushes.
Step 8. Take care of your siblings
One day they might get in trouble, be bullied, or date the wrong group. No matter what the situation is, you should always protect them by helping them make better and necessary choices. You may not always win these battles, but your siblings will have no doubts about how much you love them, just as you won't feel guilty for not doing everything you can to defend them.
Method 3 of 3: Make an Extra Effort
Step 1. Give them comfort when they are sad
A good hug and a kind word will go a long way when your brother is out of sorts. Let him vent (if he wants to talk, otherwise not) and show him you're there for him by making him feel better.
Step 2. Behave kindly
You can do something if your siblings ask you or you can act of your own free will, such as making breakfast or helping them and cleaning their room.
Step 3. Make them feel good about themselves
Compliment them for something good. Tell them they look good dressed that way. Doing so will boost their self-esteem.
Step 4. Give them thoughtful gifts
When the holidays or birthdays come, find the right gift, not something generic that everyone could buy. Think about what makes you remember them or what makes you think of an episode they lived together. What they said they wanted. To their needs. This way you will get the perfect gift.
Step 5. Be generous
Share what you have with your siblings. If they want to borrow stuff that's yours, give it to them. If you buy candy, share it with them. But never do it expecting a return. But only because you are a good brother.
Step 6. When you become adults or get separated, visit or call them
If your siblings travel or live far from you, call or visit them when you can to show that you still think about them. Don't let your relationship deteriorate because of distance, instead create a strong bond that crosses the barriers.
Advice
- Your siblings will likely be there for a lot longer than your parents, so it's important to maintain a good relationship with them. Sooner or later they will be the only family left!
- Spend time playing or playing a sport together to have good memories.
