It can be really hard to find words to express your gratitude in a moment of despondency. Follow these directions to write a thank you note for compassion.
Steps
Method 1 of 1: Personalize Thanksgiving
Step 1. Buy tickets complete with envelopes
It is preferable that the color and design are restrained. Since you will have to write a personalized card, choose a white card or one that has few writings; too many pre-printed phrases could depersonalize your thank you message.
- Alternatively, you could use a plain white ticket. It is especially recommended if you feel you have a lot to say. Otherwise, if you are lacking words, the cards you find in the stationery are fine, since they do not lend themselves to messages that are too long.
- Do not send this type of note via email. While it's the fastest way to contact people, it's also extremely impersonal and won't be frowned upon at all.
Step 2. Write in pen
Whether you have chosen a card or a letter, write the message by hand with a pen rather than a pc or pencil. It will help give it a more intimate and elegant tone.
Step 3. Address the recipient by name
Starting with “Dear _” breaks the ice and makes the message more intimate.
Step 4. Thank the recipient for something in particular
It could be any object (e.g. flowers, a note), a gesture of condolence (e.g. participation in a funeral, a heartfelt phone call) or simply for moral support. Specifying the details shows that you have noticed and appreciated his gesture.
Step 5. Where possible, express something positive about the recipient
If someone has passed away, for example, you could mention how much the deceased cared about the recipient. If the recipient had attended an event, you could tell him that his presence gave you particular strength.
If you don't find anything nice to say, thank him instead for the gift or gesture. For example, you could say that her gift gave you comfort in a difficult time, that flowers were a favorite of the deceased, etc
Step 6. Explicitly express your gratitude
Begin to collect thoughts by expressing general appreciation. Express how much their kindness or condolences meant to you and your family.
Step 7. Conclude the message
Write "Affectionately", "With love", "From the bottom of our hearts", etc. before affixing your signature.
Advice
- If you need the address of people you don't know who attended the funeral anyway, check the attendance book.
- After a death, it is not necessary to send a message of thanks to everyone who has come to offer their condolences. Send thanks to the following people: friends and family of the deceased, those who brought flowers, those who gave donations, gifts or tickets, the priest, those who brought the coffin and anyone who contributed in terms of food, babysitters, or followed the funeral procession.