Sooner or later we've all been faced with this seemingly impossible challenge: keep talking on the phone with your girlfriend, even when there seems to be nothing worth talking about. However, there is no need to fret: it's simple, don't worry. With a little time, paying attention to what you say, you will easily be able to converse with your girlfriend without a hitch.
Steps
Step 1. Talk about something that interests both of you
If you can't find a topic, try one of the things that interest her. Don't focus on yourself.
Step 2. Listen carefully to what he tells you
Make comments, ask questions. Don't play indifferent: she wants someone who cares, and that should be your case, since she's your girlfriend.
Step 3. Comment on their ideas, but always express your opinion
Step 4. If the conversation languishes, ask questions
Whatever: what music does she like, how she goes to school, or work, stuff like that.
Step 5. Tell her an interesting anecdote or story, but always remember not to overdo it and not to monopolize the conversation
Listening always takes precedence.
Step 6. Comment on her views on the things you are discussing, to confirm that you understand her point of view (and are listening)
Step 7. Express your ideas about what is important to you, and ask her to do the same
Step 8. Express positive thoughts about the past, present and future
Step 9. Try not to sound too pedantic, and don't brag about solving all problems
Step 10. If she is very busy and doesn't have time to see you, don't get upset and try to excuse her
Show her that you are interested in what she does, and that you understand that she will also have to rest. Joke about it. Wish her luck.
Step 11. Always remember to keep the conversation short and concise
Better to quit when things are going well than in awkward silence.
Step 12. If you are unfamiliar with a topic, you can think about it:
be creative and take the lead in your relationship.
Step 13. Always be ready for those tough questions, which will come sooner or later
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Step 14. Don't be afraid to randomly text her complimenting her
So you show her you're thinking about her, even if you don't hear yourself on the phone. It will make her feel special.
Step 15. Don't insist on being told what's wrong
Let her know that you are there for her when she feels like talking about it.
Step 16. Follow your instincts
Advice
- Always tell her the truth. If you really have to tell a lie, do it very strongly. Girls like honest guys.
- Always show interest. Even if you're of the opposite opinion, don't be too brutal in expressing your disagreement.
- A silence lasting more than two or three minutes can be avoided by asking a few questions. Even a simple “How are you? How was your day?"
- Comment on the context. For example, you come out of the classroom and ask her "How did the lesson feel?"
- Don't let your surprise get out if she says something unusual. This would make her feel uncomfortable and stop her wanting to talk to you.
- Offer your help if she has a problem, and try to answer a question that seems to be bothering her. If you are unsure of the answer, look for someone who can help you.
- Never be nervous or shy. She will notice this, and she will think that you are afraid to talk to her. Try to be sociable and witty.
- If she proves to be a great girl, be sure to show her your appreciation. Making her feel like a lady always works.
- Give good answers to his questions. Example, say you meet Giulia during the intermission and she asks you "How are you?" don't just answer "Well thank you" and then … silence. Wouldn't it be better to answer with: “Well, I just finished a great project and I'm very happy with it”? Giulia could then ask you something else, and the conversation would start. When people ask questions they want detailed and satisfying answers. Always try to give substantial answers instead of letting the subject drop. Another good way to answer a question you like is to share your interest in that topic. For example say "I like this question!" it can help others get to know you and put them at ease in conversation.
- If you already know the person, think back to the topics you talked about earlier, and continue with those. For example: their children's successes, their plans, or some bad news they shared with you.
