Many relationships go through a phase in which boys stop paying the attention due to us girls, neglect us and start behaving strangely. The question arises whether the relationship has a future or not.
Steps
Step 1. Before jumping to conclusions, try to figure out if yours is an exaggerated reaction
Talk to a friend and let off steam with her. Hear what she has to say about the matter. You don't have to blow your head thinking about something that doesn't even exist.
Step 2. Wait - Phase I:
Once you have determined that your doubts about the relationship were justified, wait. Try to notice if there are any changes or if the situation remains the same. Let's say waiting five or six days should be enough. If he hasn't called and texted you like he once did or couldn't find some free time to meet with you, it's time to move on to the next step.
Step 3. Talk to him about it
You won't be able to get over this if you don't tell him you have one and give him a chance to tell you his version. Your purpose should simply be to "let him know". Watch his reaction.
Step 4. Ask your question
Listen to what he has to say. Ask him why he behaves this way and, if he has a problem, tell you what it is so you can help him if possible. Try to keep an open mind about what they might say. Show him that you can be a good listener. If he tells you he was very busy, talk to him and get him to explain what kept him so busy and how much he thinks the situation will go on in this way.
Step 5. Wait - Phase II:
Wait and watch. Is everything back to normal? If not, try talking to him again, or give him clues (playfully or seriously) that you are still waiting for things to settle.
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Nothing in fact? It's time to play "eye for an eye". There are only two possibilities regarding the situation you are going through. It may be that he is really very busy or he is not working hard enough. An obvious sign that this is the case would be if he phoned or texted you when he was done with what he had to do, probably late in the evening. Try making him tit for tat. Say you are too busy or too tired to talk. At the beginning it could make the situation worse, but remember that those who do not vent, do not gain. Your goal should be to let him know how you feel. Don't overdo it and don't confuse this strategy with revenge because that's not what it's about. Just remember this: "I'll make you feel what you made me feel, so you know how I feel."
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Step 6. Final comparison
This is the time for you to decide how to proceed with your story. Your alternatives are to compromise or take different paths. Examine the situation carefully and listen to what he has to say. If he wants, you should be able to get over it, as long as both of you are willing to fight for your love, of course.
Advice
- Staying calm, calm and composed in dealing with this kind of situation is essential. Anger and anguish would only make things worse, if not with your boyfriend, with friends and family or, even worse, with "yourself".
- More than anything else, they could lead you to make rash and irrational decisions, which could result in the end of a relationship that otherwise would have lasted for years.
- Give it time. Maybe he can't really do anything about it.
Warnings
- Make sure you don't overdo the "eye for an eye" tactic, no matter what circumstances you are in. It could backfire on you.
- Don't turn yourself into one of those girlfriends who just obsess over their boyfriends.
