The old trick of being difficult, even if used mostly by women, can also be used by men. It's a tricky tactic though, as you're essentially telling a lie by sending the message that you're not interested (when you are). If you do it right it can increase the fun of the dating game and win the girl who attracts you.
Steps
Step 1. Remember, women often enjoy hunting; she likes to be teased when it comes to relationships
If you seem too helpful, you may be sending the wrong message. Keep busy and make it seem like you have lots of friends who need your time and attention.
Step 2. Don't hang around on the phone and don't bother the girl you like by writing her what you ate for breakfast and asking her what she thinks the meaning of life is
Instead of dwelling on one person, use this time to be free and explore your options. Don't respond immediately when texting you. Go get yourself a sandwich and wait 15 minutes to respond, even if it's hard to wait. If she calls you, let the answering machine start and wait a few hours to call it back. If you really want to answer the phone, at least wait until the third ring.
Step 3. Once you exchange your number with a woman, let her call or write first
Obviously he may not do it, waiting for you to make the first move. After some time has passed, you will need to decide if you should abandon your strategy of being difficult.
Step 4. Don't get too emotional
Don't tell her your feelings and don't talk about what's going on between you. Wait for her to start talking about it. If you start, she may feel uncomfortable. The longer you keep a girl waiting for your words of affirmation or affection, the better it will be when you finally decide to make your move; also, of course, the greater the risk of her deciding that you are simply not interested, and turning the page. At this point, revealing that you've been playing hard the whole time and that you're actually interested in her probably won't get an enthusiastic response.
Step 5. If the person you are interested in wants to go out or invites you somewhere, decline the first time
This will make her sad (don't worry, just temporarily), but it will make her want to go out with you even more. Or there won't be a second invitation at all.
Step 6. Don't make the first move
If you are watching a movie with her and are tempted to put your arm around her shoulders, do your best to resist and not make the first move to keep her alert with anticipation.
Step 7. Use a good measure
As you continue your journey on the road to being difficult, make sure she is still interested. You don't want to overdo it; if you feel she is losing interest, encourage her to pay attention to you and give her more attention. Remember, it's a game, or if you prefer, a dance.
Step 8. Don't be mean or rude while being tough
Don't go overboard by trying to make her jealous or by talking about other girls you like. She wants a mysterious man with power, not a womanizer and a jerk.
Step 9. Show that you are sure of yourself
Security makes anyone more interesting and more attractive.
Step 10. At the end of an appointment, don't get stuck and wait to leave
Go to the exit and let her know you had a great time. In fact, you don't even need to drive her home, leave her downtown and give her a euro for the bus (just kidding!).
Step 11. After some time has passed, go back to her and let her know that you are still interested
Relax a little with the game of being difficult. Show yourself a little more and be more sensitive than when you started. You've already made your way into his heart and made him want you more than he would want you if you hadn't been tough. It's important not to keep her waiting too long when you play hard, otherwise she'll get frustrated and move on. Keep her tied to you by letting her know that you are interested in her.
Step 12. Congratulations
You have conquered it! Now you just have to keep the ball in your half of the court. You can do this by toning down a lot the game of being difficult, but always remaining a bit mysterious. Don't do it forever of course, but you can still throw a move here and there to keep her wanting you and giving more value to who you are to her.
Advice
- Be a gentleman. You can still have some cavalry as you play hard. Don't refuse to open the door for her. Be respectful and polite as you stay at a temporary distance hoping to increase his interest in you.
- Keep in mind that this strategy can backfire on you dramatically if all you can do is convince her that you have no interest in her. Even if you come face to face with her and tell her that you are indeed interested, if she has a brain, she will quickly realize that you have been manipulative and a liar.
- Even as you play hard, keep flirting with her and make an effort. You don't want to completely dismiss a potential relationship just because you're trying to keep the ball in your own half of the court. Show you like it, show you're interested, just stay a little mysterious.
- Don't get too focused on her. If playing hard doesn't seem to work, then she doesn't like you enough. You can't force anyone to feel something for you, and even if you really like her, it's not worth wasting your time or energy on something that won't work.
- If you want to be difficult to tease her lightly, but don't be obnoxious or annoying.
- Consider the alternative of simply telling her that you are interested in her and see how it goes.
