Just think about the guy you have a crush on for your heart to beat and your hands to get sweaty. When you like someone - whether you've known them for a long time or have talked to them a few times within a couple of days - your first concern is to ask yourself what they really think of you. With your feelings clear, it is normal for you to want to know how the person you like is feeling. There are several ways to get her to admit what she feels about you as quickly as possible, so you don't have to hang around for long, guessing. Once you figure this out, you can find the right approach.
Steps
Part 1 of 2: Making sure the Boy is Free and Ready to Commit
Step 1. Make sure he's not engaged already
You certainly don't want to step on some other girl's toes, trying to get your boyfriend to show something towards you. Furthermore, it is also not appropriate to place hope on a guy who is dating a girl he is courting. You won't have to try hard to figure out what the situation is. All you need is to investigate a bit around, between friends and social networks, or just ask him a few questions. Here are some that will help you find out how things stand:
- If you dare, ask him in one of your normal conversations if he is already seeing someone. Quietly ask him, "Are you dating any girls?" or "Is there any girl you're courting at the moment?". By asking the question this way, you will not betray any feelings towards him.
- If you can't ask him, maybe because you are too shy or because you don't see him often, try talking to a friend of his to find out more. Raise the subject in conversation by asking, "Do you know if he's dating any girls?"
- If you don't have a chance to reach out to someone, check if they have set up a relationship on Facebook or another social network.
Step 2. Find out her views on dating and romantic relationships
If you have heard that he is single, then you should try to find out what he thinks about relationships. By doing so, you will have the opportunity to understand if you see it the same way. Try to be shrewd and spend some time with him. Here are some questions that will help guide the conversation on this topic:
- "When did you have your last affair?".
- "Would you like to commit yourself sentimentally?".
- "Do you go out often with someone?".
Step 3. Make moments spent together enjoyable
When interacting with him, always try to establish a cheerful and fun dialogue that allows you to understand if he likes to exchange a few words with you. You could also gently touch his shoulder as you chat to see how he reacts. If he laughs and, in turn, teases you, that's a good sign. Humor is a great way to tell if someone is leaning towards you, because it shows your interest and puts the person you like at ease.
- Don't hesitate to laugh when telling a joke. This will make him more confident and feel free to share what he feels with you.
- By touching him lightly on the arm or shoulder, you will be able to show him that you care.
Step 4. Watch out for the alchemy that might settle between you
If, when you are together, you realize that you laugh all the time and that you think the same way, there is likely to be a mutual attraction. The smiles and laughter clearly indicate that there is something between two people. Usually, when a guy has a crush on a girl, he often uses her name. Here are other signs that reveal his true feelings:
- If he constantly fiddles with his hands or other objects, it means that he is feeling overly stimulated in your company and that he is definitely attracted to you.
- He may scrutinize you and highlight small details. It is called "imprinting" and this type of attitude is due to the increase in dopamine levels.
Part 2 of 2: Making it Open
Step 1. Develop a relationship based on trust
Make him feel special by showing that you are interested in him as a person. Ask him questions about his passions and dreams for the future. Be positive and attentive to what he says to you so that he feels comfortable. Confide sensitive things about you so that, by gathering your confidences, he feels honored by your trust in him.
- Tell him what your biggest fears are or tell him one of your most embarrassing moments.
- If you show that you trust him, he will feel more comfortable and open towards you.
Step 2. Listen to him and avoid judging him
Give him the opportunity to show who he really is. Let them know that you appreciate what makes them unique, without criticizing them. Your goal is to build a relationship based on mutual trust that you communicate to him that he can talk freely about anything with you. A guy may be reluctant to share intimate feelings and hold back for fear of rejection. Show him that you don't criticize him and that you don't disapprove of what he thinks about his personal problems.
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Step 3. Don't choke him
Guys don't like feeling trapped by another person. If you show yourself too clingy, there is a risk that it will drift away. Even if he has feelings for you, he'll stop wanting to tell you because he won't appreciate your attachment to him.
- Be patient. If you move too fast, you risk frightening him and causing him to open up to you less.
- Don't bombard him with text messages. You shouldn't be the first person in the morning or the last person of the day to text him. Make sure the message exchange between the two of you is fair and not one-sided.
- You should take the initiative to invite him out at least half the time. If you ask him and he says he's too busy, next time let him propose to you to spend time together.
Step 4. Avoid running after him
If you hunt down a guy you like in the hopes that he'll admit he has feelings for you, he'll probably continue to elude you. Perhaps he will find it more exciting to be chased than to reveal his feelings. He may start taking advantage of the situation instead of courting you! Leave him alone for some time and give him a chance to realize that he may risk losing you. This will prompt him to tell you what he feels.
- Don't show up at her workplace or home without being invited.
- If you meet him at a party, don't hang around him all evening. Team up with other friends and show them that you are an independent person.
- There is only one person who can hunt, and that certainly isn't you.
Step 5. Be natural and humble
Pretending to be overconfident or bragging to hide what you really feel will make him uncomfortable in your company because he will understand that you are faking it. If she feels distressed, she won't be able to be honest with you about her feelings. Trust yourself, but don't brag or give the impression that you are arrogant, otherwise you will push him away.
- Don't talk bad about other people and don't give yourself too much air. Instead, pay some compliments, listen carefully, and remember it's okay to make mistakes.
- If he hears you making judgments about other people, he will be afraid that he too will judge.
Step 6. Flirt with a friend of his
If you focus your attention on one of his friends, he'll likely begin to fear losing your interest to someone else and show you his transport right away. You don't have to flirt excessively, but simply having pleasure in talking to one of their friends during an evening will be enough to arouse their jealousy. That's all you might need. Here are some questions you can ask his friends:
- "What do you like doing in your free time?".
- "What do you do?" or "What kind of work would you like to do in the future?".
- "What are your favourite movies?".
Step 7. Don't let him be too sure of what you are feeling right away
He may hold back from revealing his true feelings because he thinks he already has you and, therefore, sees no need to do so. When you feel it's time for her to admit how she feels about you, start being precious, showing yourself too busy to go out with him or not answering the phone every time he calls you. This will speed up the time it takes for him to confess to you what he really feels about you.
- Make him feel the risk of losing you or wonder what you are doing. Enable him to send you a message or call you first.
- If she asks what you do over the weekend, be honest, but answer positively. You might say, "I'm going to be with my friends and we're going to watch a movie" or "I'm going to hang out with my family this weekend and I still don't know what to do next."
- Whatever you say, never give the impression that you are going to stay in the house getting bored, otherwise you will look desperate.
Step 8. Ask him seductively and delightfully if he likes you
There is no harm in asking openly what it feels like. If he is a little embarrassed to admit his feelings, then be honest and tell him you like him. Your confession will likely lead him to reveal that he feels strongly attached to you. If you've already made a good friendship and noticed that she responds to your smiles and flirts with you, don't hesitate. Here are some ways to approach him in these circumstances:
- Try sitting or standing next to him, saying, "I like you and I wonder if you feel the same about me too" or "I love spending my time with you and I dare to hope it's mutual. This is what you feel in the my comparisons? ".
- If you don't know what to say at first, smile and say, "You like me, don't you ?!". He will surely fall victim to your charm.
- If he says yes, you will have achieved what your heart desires most. If, on the other hand, it is no, at least you will know, you can stop wasting your time and move on. If he hesitates, don't worry. He may have a hard time finding the right words to tell you what he thinks.
- If you subtly tell him that you like him and that you are eager to know how he feels about you, he may open up and admit that he likes you.
Advice
- Let him be himself when he is with you.
- If he loves teasing you with affection, it can be a sign that he likes you.
- Try not to flirt too much with other guys. True, he may get jealous, but he may also lose hope and never reveal his intentions to you.
- Smile at him. If he reciprocates and nods his head, then he's keeping an eye on you.
- If a guy talks to you a lot, perhaps excluding other people, it means that he is attracted to you.
- Enjoy your life, with or without him. Try to take pleasure in anything that does not depend on his presence. This attitude will show him that you have a strong and attractive personality.
- Don't change for anyone and don't expect the guy you like to do the same.
- If his friends make fun of him in your presence, he probably likes you.
- Make sure his friends aren't around when you ask him if he likes you.
Warnings
- Don't haunt him on the web and don't spend all your time checking your phone. If your relationship is made to last, then it will last. By staying too close to him, you will only suffocate him.
- Don't try to distance him from his friends. You may find it annoying. Make sure that she has her own space and that she maintains other relationships in her life.
- Also be prepared for rejection and stay calm. If he rejects your approach, you're probably not meant for each other, but that doesn't mean you're not an attractive person.
