Are you dating a girl who is about to drop out of high school to enroll in university? If there are no distance issues, the real obstacle could be finding yourself competing with guys who are two, three or even four years older than you. What can you do? Dude, look at it! With a crash like that, I don't think you have too much chance of making it.
Steps
Step 1. Break stereotypes
Most universities are attended by dads' children, people trying to conform, and members of various traditional student circles. Daddy's children are the ones who engage in sports or become members of the most exclusive clubs. The best thing to do is to avoid imitating them with the intention of becoming part of their circles; instead, try to stay yourself by distinguishing yourself from the thousands of guys your girlfriend will be surrounded by. Even if they consider you a privileged one, don't just hang out with these kinds of people. If you get along with a street kid or a nerd, try to get to know them better.
Step 2. Get involved
Many college students step forward with girls while they are dead drunk. Sometimes this approach works and girls find it fun. As far as you are concerned, however, you have to use a different approach: flowers, postcards and serenades. Try to use any tactic that you consider a romantic cliché and that you have at your disposal. In doing so, she will have your sweetness to put in contrast to the drunk guys who will try it with her. This is likely to give you a decisive advantage. However, there is a very fine line between being "romantic" and over the top. You have to look as mature as the guys he's dating every day, if not more mature.
Step 3. You must never give up
College hours can be hectic and studying intense, so don't expect to spend as much time with her as you did in high school. Prepare your outings together well in advance. If you need to cancel an appointment at the last minute, try to be understanding. She will be as sorry as you are.
Step 4. Don't waste your time together
Do your best to make every moment she spends with you the best part of her day. Your goal should be to make sure she has nothing to think about, to allow her to relax and take a break from the stress of university. Even small gestures count.
Step 5. Tell her what your plans for the future, your goals and your ambitions are
Since she is committed to building her own future, it is good that she knows that you are also thinking about yours.
Step 6. The important thing is to avoid showing yourself jealous
She needs to know that you trust and care for her, even if you can't meet as often as you would like. No woman likes a mate who sticks to her.
Advice
- Showing yourself mature is essential! Remember that being more mature than yourself gives your rivals the edge.
- You'll have to put in all your effort, so make sure it's worth it.
- One thing to remember about those people who are super busy: they don't have a lot of time to devote to self-care. This can very negatively affect a young woman's self-esteem. If you can find an excuse to get her dressed up, feel beautiful, and get on well every now and then, you will have taken a step closer to becoming that person who makes her feel truly special. And if you can make her feel beautiful and desired even when she is not in her best shape, you will certainly be able to hit the mark.
- If you can make sure that the best part of her day is spending time with you, but she decides to end your relationship anyway, try to be her friend anyway. There would remain a remote chance that she realizes what she has lost, and eventually could retrace her steps.
- Never give up. The relationship could become more complicated than expected and you may not be able to meet often, but the important thing is to make sure that every moment spent together becomes magical.
Warnings
- You may have to decide to let go for both of you to grow if things get too complicated. Otherwise, you risk blocking your emotional development by insisting on having a bad relationship.
- Don't tell her your doubts. As for her, you are more than confident that you will be able to carry on with your relationship throughout her college career. If you act mature and show that you are not upset by the situation, things could work out on their own.
