If you've never made out before, you are probably wondering how to take the initiative, what to do once you get started, and how to tell if you're doing it right. Don't worry too much! For a masterful first kiss, all you have to do is relax, analyze your partner's reactions, and avoid being in such a hurry. To know how to make out while giving the impression of being a real expert, just follow these steps.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Getting started
Step 1. Look for some privacy
You are probably nervous because you are afraid of making a fool of yourself. As a result, at least ease the pressure you feel a little by making sure you don't have an audience. Exclude cinema appointments and group outings a priori. Rather, you prefer more intimate situations, for example when you invite your girlfriend to see a movie at home, have a picnic in the woods or seclude yourself in a space all to yourself.
- Resist the temptation to turn off all the lights. Maybe you think that absolute darkness can ease the nervousness and hide any errors. However, since this is your first time, things would actually be much more difficult: you won't be able to see where you're going, and you won't be able to gauge your partner's reaction. Total darkness can be postponed to subsequent sessions, when you get to know each other better.
- If you are alone in a bedroom or other room in the house, you can dim the lights slightly, but not too conspicuously.
- If you like, create the right atmosphere. If you know that at a certain time a girl will come to your house and there is a good chance that you will end up kissing each other, then you need to make sure that the room is clean and tidy, that your parents or roommates don't interrupt and that everything smells. pleasant. In short, you have to create a favorable environment for intimacy.
Step 2. Before seeing this person, carefully prepare yourself to look more attractive than usual
If you have the feeling that the evening will result in some passionate kissing, work on having a well-groomed look and a pleasant smell. This will boost your self-esteem, and make you irresistible. You don't have to be too precise in your preparation, otherwise the nervousness will not give you respite. But you have to feel great and look good. The chances of making out will be significantly higher. Here is a quick checklist to review:
- Cool off quickly. Even if you don't have time to take a full shower, you can still deal with minor actions, such as blowing your nose, brushing your teeth, and rinsing those areas that are starting to smell faintly unpleasant. While you're at it, reapply the deodorant.
- Spray a discreet perfume. If you're a guy, get a spritz or two of cologne on your neck and chest (don't overdo it, since strong fragrances are almost unbearable at close range). If you are a girl, spray some perfume, or spread a scented body cream, focusing on the neck, chest, arms and legs.
- Freshen your breath. To feel comfortable, chew a gum or a mint just before kissing, the important thing is to be able to do it discreetly. If you have nothing to hand, shake some water in your mouth, and then spit it out. In the meantime, treat chapped lips with lip balm or lip balm. If you went out together before the fateful kiss you are waiting for, try to avoid foods with a particularly pungent smell.
- If you are a girl, touch up your makeup. It only takes a second to make sure the mascara is not running or the foundation is uneven. Avoid overdoing it with lipstick or gloss, or you will make your partner's face dirty.
Step 3. Send clear signals that you want to
If you are already familiar with the art of kissing and pumice regularly with your girlfriend, gradually move on to deeper kisses starting with the molded ones. Try some of the techniques described in the second section. However, if you and this person have only exchanged small pecks in the past, starting to make out will require some extra care. Here are some ways to communicate your interest to the other person:
- Find an excuse to approach. Carrying within fairly close range of your partner is a fairly unmistakable sign. Sit next to him if you are on a sofa or in the car. Take her hand and lightly push your body against hers. You would make your intentions even more evident by looking deeply into her eyes.
- Discreetly shows more skin. If you are wearing a cardigan or jacket, take it off casually. You could also unbutton the top button on your shirt, roll up the sleeves, or pull your hair up to expose your neck and chest more. Voluntarily showing more skin indicates that you feel comfortable in his presence, and are willing to have more intimate contact.
- Start touching it. Before you start kissing her, make sure your intentions are clear by using your hands to make the contact even more intimate. Take her hand, offer her a shoulder or foot massage, play with her hair, or gently let your fingers run over her face or neck.
Step 4. Read your partner's body language
There are two things: either she can't wait to kiss you or even for her it is the first time, so her gestures denote a nervousness that even exceeds yours. If your girlfriend is truly ready to take a step forward, just relax and let her guide you. On the other hand, if you notice that you are the one sending the most signals, seek physical contact and speak, then breathe deeply and appeal to all your confidence.
Pretend until it comes naturally to you. If you act like you know what you are doing, your partner will convince herself that you are a real expert
Step 5. Lean towards her to kiss her
Slowly bring your face close to hers, looking into her eyes until you are inches away from her lips. Then, close your eyes and start kissing her. If she seems interested, you can do it without a problem. If you notice a hesitant attitude instead, it would be better to try another time. Is this your very first kiss? Then it's normal to feel nervous, but take a deep breath and let your lips gently brush against your girlfriend's. Tilt your head slightly to the side so it will be easier to engage the tongues when both of you are ready.
Breathe deeply, hint a smile and slowly lean towards your partner. You don't have to be great from the first time, and remember that she's just as nervous as you are too
Part 2 of 3: Getting started
Step 1. Don't kiss the same way all the time
This exchange needs to be stimulating, so change the techniques you use to kiss. Don't alternate them all the time, but do it often enough to change the mood as soon as you notice your partner loses interest. Try playing with the following variables:
- Pressure: alternate between soft and delicate kisses and more passionate and deep kisses.
- Speed: Slow kisses are a good starting point for making out, and are useful for taking a little break at some point. To convey even more passion, however, you can speed up, in order to speed up the kisses and make them deeper.
- Tongue: Try the French kiss, or gently touch your partner's tongue with yours to increase the intensity. More than anything else, keep your tongue moving - don't leave it motionless in your girlfriend's mouth like she's a clam. Make small, flickering movements, or rotate your tongue around hers in a soft, circular way.
Step 2. Step away from the lips
As you go along, try kissing other parts of your girlfriend's body. If she seems to like the kisses you give her at a certain point, take a mental note to come back to them. Here are some of the most popular areas:
- Jaw.
- Lobes of the ears.
- Throat.
- Neck.
- Clavicles.
- Shoulders.
- Inner wrists, or palms of the hands.
Step 3. Keep your hands busy
Communicating your passion to the full requires commitment and respect, and the first kiss is never wasted. Make sure you keep your hands moving and touch your partner's body often to intensify the experience. Here are some special gestures to try:
- If your partner is a boy: grab his head with your hands, and move them slowly and lightly from the top of the head to the bottom. Massage his hair, and let it flow up to the collar of the shirt. Do you feel safe? Grab your biceps and squeeze them as you kiss. You can also get closer to him by allowing him to wrap your back with his hands. The atmosphere will become even hotter and sexier.
- If your partner is a girl: hug her firmly and gently and massage her back up and down (in case of a positive reaction, proceed towards the lower back). You can also grab her face with your hands, smoothly running your thumbs down her cheeks.
Part 3 of 3: Slow down
Step 1. When you need it, take a break
Don't think that you have to touch or kiss each other passionately for hours and hours, without doing anything else. A break to breathe, have a laugh, drink a glass of water or sit back is just fine. This doesn't mean quitting out of the blue and talking about how difficult math homework was. In fact, don't change the subject by bringing up themes that are anything but sensual. What we want to tell you is that you shouldn't be afraid to take a break when you feel like it. She probably wants to stop for a while too.
- Pull back and smile, run your fingers through your partner's hair (this is ideal for both boys and girls) and keep your hands on her body.
- You can also take a break by whispering sexy words into your ear. Feeling your warm breath on your skin will definitely cause the temperature to go up.
Step 2. Compliment her:
tell her she's really good at kissing. Remember that she's probably just as nervous as you are! The praise will not only pamper her self-esteem, it may spur her to want to kiss you even more.
- Is your partner not particularly good at kissing? Be patient. Keep using the techniques you have learned and give yourself time to follow your lead.
- If your partner makes a move you like, encourage her by smiling and saying, "I like it when …". To continue to emphasize the best aspects of her technique, at these moments you can react by squeezing her tighter, making a short sound of approval, such as "mmm", and so on. Unless you are very confident, don't criticize her skills in the art of kissing.
Step 3. Conclude with a master's touch
When it comes time to leave, make sure that the mood is positive so that you will be more likely to rebel soon. You may feel different emotions, but focus on the ones that make you feel good about the experience shared with your partner. Here are some moves to try before you say goodbye to your girlfriend and end the night:
- He needs to know you had a nice evening. A simple "I was fine" probably won't strike her, because it feels like a ready-made, circumstantial compliment. Tell her what you feel, without checking yourself in order to express yourself in a sophisticated way or seem detached.
- Finish with one more kiss. It has to be quick, light and gentle, especially if you have been making out intensely and passionately towards the end.
- Kiss her hand. If you've just finished making out with the girl you like, make eye contact with her and slowly bring the back of her hand to your lips for a quick kiss before she leaves. It's an old-fashioned and courteous gesture, and most girls find it romantic.
- Whet his desire. Tell her you hope to see her again soon, and make it clear that you enjoyed the kisses so much that you can't wait to repeat the experience. The second time is always more beautiful than the first.
Advice
- Don't forget to swallow to avoid excess saliva, otherwise you could accidentally deposit it in her mouth.
- Make sure you feel comfortable with her. You need to be certain that you are ready to take a step forward with this person.
- Be willing to take risks. For example, explore her body more than usual. Find out what she likes best when you make out. You can do this by frequently changing the position of your hands, kissing different parts of the body, and inviting her to sit or lie down in different ways.
- Before you try to kiss her, try to wash yourself - a quick bath is enough.
- If necessary, find out how she kisses with braces.
Warnings
- Making out is absolutely not a promise of sex. Do not insist on your partner (or tolerate someone who does) just because you have exchanged some saliva.
- Before making out, make sure you feel comfortable. The first time, not everyone knows how to do it. If the other person is a little shy or feels embarrassed, reassure them that there is no rush and no pressure.
