If you like someone but don't know how to make it happen, read our guide on how to take the first step.
Steps
Step 1. Read the signs - Before making any moves, look for those body language cues, such as prolonged eye contact, which may help you tell if you will get a positive response.
A woman may expose certain areas of her body such as her neck or wrists. He may touch you, or make gestures such as pulling his hair back or adjusting his shirt. A man might make more animal or possessive gestures to impress a potential mate. For example, he could rest an arm on the back of the chair, inflate his chest, or widen his shoulders. Both sexes could behave like a 'mirror', that is, unconsciously imitating the gestures and positions of the other person.
Step 2. Conversation - If they find someone attractive, neither men nor women necessarily say what they think
Instead of listening to what is said, focus on 'how' it is said. If he says 'I like art', it could mean 'I like you'. If she says, 'What is your favorite surrealist painting? 'could mean' Are you really interested? '. If he replies, 'I love Dali's Persistence of Memory', it could mean 'I'm really giving my best because you are beautiful'. If she says, 'I have a print of it in my bedroom,' it could mean, 'I want you to see it. '.
Step 3. If it is the woman who takes the first step - Approach with serenity and curiosity
Be a predator. Eliminate unnecessary clothes. The only problem you may encounter is choosing a good conversation topic. Don't mention ex-boyfriends, health problems, or your desire to become a mom soon.
Step 4. If it is the man who takes the first step - Approach with caution
At first, certain parts of the body, such as breasts and buttocks, should not be touched. Touch less intimate parts of the body, such as the arm or leg closest to you.
Step 5. The Kiss - If your advances have not been rejected, then you can raise the bar and steal a kiss
It takes a lot of courage to kiss someone, and if you feel out of your comfort zone, try to relax, because lack of self-confidence is rarely attractive to the opposite sex. Maintain eye contact, approach and stop when your faces are close, but not enough to touch, to give the other person the opportunity to move away or (hopefully) get closer in turn.
Advice
- Many are shy in such situations. If the other person seems surprised or anxious it doesn't necessarily mean that they don't like you. Try complimenting or encouraging her. The other could also be embarrassed.
- When you kiss a girl, if it takes a long time to kiss back, maybe she's not interested. If she places a hand on you (anywhere, for example the leg), then she is interested. Go ahead and make your move!
- If it says stop, then stop. Try to understand where you went wrong. Try it with another girl.
