Children often have tantrums, and this can be very irritating. Many children complain when they are tired, hungry or angry; they also have a tantrum to attract attention or to get what they want. Once you understand what a tantrum leads to, it will be easier to avoid them in the future. Are you ready to put an end to this hassle? Read the first step.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Part 1: Taking Preventive Measures
Step 1. Change the way you perceive your baby's behaviors
Most babies don't cry to irritate you or to make you angry - they do it because they are tired, hungry, stressed, uncomfortable, or simply because they want attention. Stopping putting yourself in your baby's shoes may help you understand why he is having tantrums, which will make it easier to take preventative measures.
Step 2. Make sure your baby gets enough rest
Fatigue can cause many unwelcome behaviors, including having tantrums. Make sure your baby gets enough sleep at night, and get him to go to bed early in the evening if he is complaining a lot or is irritable. If your child is still not in school or kindergarten, have him take an afternoon nap; if the child goes to school make sure he rests and relaxes when he gets home.
Every child has their own sleep needs, but in general, babies between 1 and 3 years old need to sleep 12-14 hours a day (including a nap). Children between the ages of 3 and 6 need to sleep 10-12 hours a day, while those between the ages of 7 and 12 need 10-11 hours of sleep
Step 3. Manage your baby's hunger
Hunger makes a child moody and uncomfortable, and causes other unpleasant and irritating behaviors. Many babies need small, nutritious snacks between meals, so don't expect your baby to go from lunch to dinner without eating anything. For best results, choose a snack that includes protein, whole grains, and fruit - whole crackers with jam and a banana, for example.
Step 4. Explain your expectations to your child in time
Children tend to complain when you tell them to do something they don't want to do. To minimize the problem, warn them early, rather than announcing something unpleasant out of the blue. Tell him, "We have to get out of the playground in 10 minutes," or, "After this you have to go to bed." When children know what awaits them, they will adapt better to change.
Step 5. Avoid boredom
Children often get bored, then they get tantrums because they want attention and don't know how to fix boredom. If you have a temperamental child, try offering them many different activities suitable for their age. Whenever possible, these activities should take place outdoors, where children can use up their excess energy more easily.
If you notice that your child is bored, has tantrums, and wants attention, try to eliminate (or reduce) the time they spend watching television or playing with electronic devices. These activities keep the child calm and engaged for a short period of time, but can make the problem worse over time, as the child may not be able to have fun without cartoons or video games
Step 6. Pay attention to your baby
When children feel ignored, they start having a tantrum to attract attention. You can prevent this problem by spending time with your baby, even if in small moments, throughout the day. Parents are busy and it may be difficult to find time, but try to:
- Sit next to your baby while he has breakfast to talk to him.
- Pause for a moment to watch your child draw, play with constructions or do anything creative.
- Take a 10 minute break to read him a story.
- Ask him how he went to school or kindergarten and what he did.
- Use the time before bed to spend time with the family and establish a routine before bedtime.
Step 7. Give your child specific homework when you are in public places
The worst tantrums happen when you're out running errands. For children, banks, shops and supermarkets are boring (or an opportunity to buy something). To avoid tantrums or other bad behavior, have your child do something - for example, the supermarket can help you find something you need to buy.
Method 2 of 3: Part 2: Ending Treachery in a Fun and Silly Way
Step 1. Understand that a silly approach can sometimes be more effective than a rigid one
If preventative measures have not worked and your child is starting to get tantrums, try a lighter approach - especially with very young children. A little fun can help the child get rid of the tantrums and boring behavior.
Step 2. Make funny faces
Very young children laugh easily when you give them funny faces. If your child is having tantrums and you would like to scold and scream, try making a ridiculous face instead. The child may immediately stop complaining and may start laughing as hard as he can.
Step 3. Imitate your child having tantrums
Surprise a naughty child by imitating him and making tantrums too. You can also exaggerate for a comic effect: “Peeeeerchééééé fai ancoooooraa le biiizzzzeeee ?? Noooon mi piaaaaceee !!! This tactic could have two outcomes: first, the child may laugh and stop having tantrums; second, he may understand how he is behaving - even though younger children may not realize how boring and ridiculous it is to hear someone get into tantrums.
Step 4. Record your baby when he has a tantrum
Just like imitating your baby, recording him having tantrums can make him realize how boring and ridiculous he is. Use the phone or a tape recorder, record the tantrum, and play it.
Step 5. Whisper
When your baby has a tantrum and complains, whisper to him instead of speaking normally. The baby will have to stop crying, or at least briefly, to hear what you are saying. He might start whispering too. For younger children this could be a fun way to stop tantrums and totally change the mood.
Step 6. Pretend you don't understand your baby
Ask your child to repeat what he wants in a different tone, or by making a complete sentence. Repeat for a more dramatic effect: “Oh, I don't understand you! How I would like to understand what you are saying! Try again, come on! What did you say?.
Method 3 of 3: Part 3: Using Discipline to End the Tantrum
Step 1. Make it clear that tantrums aren't acceptable
When a child enters elementary school, he should be able to control unpleasant behaviors such as tantrums. Tell him that tantrums are not tolerated, and let him know that when he does it, his requests will not be granted.
Step 2. Talk about other acceptable forms of communication
Make sure your baby understands that you will listen to him and that you enjoy talking to him. Specifies that discussions should have a normal tone of voice, with normal volume.
Step 3. Respond to complaints calmly and firmly
Tell him, “I know you are angry, but…” and explain why you cannot do what the child asked of you. It's okay to validate your child's frustration, but don't prolong the argument when he complains.
Step 4. Send your baby to her room
If the tantrums continue, explain that you won't listen to him. Send your baby to his room or to another room until he calms down and speaks normally.
Step 5. Consider the punishments
If tantrums are a serious problem in the family, tell your child that he will receive a warning and then he will be sent to punishment. Respect this rule. When your child has a tantrum, give him a clear and direct warning: “Stop having tantrums. Speak normally or I'll send you in detention”. If it doesn't stop, do as you said.
A good rule of thumb for punishment is that it must last one minute for each year of the child's age. So, a 5-year-old has to be detained for 5 minutes
Step 6. Don't indulge his tantrums
Children should never be rewarded when they have tantrums, so never do it. Use punishment or the like if the tantrums don't stop, otherwise ignore it. Never reward your baby with unnecessary attention.
Step 7. Stay calm
If you get angry, your child will understand that he can provoke you with tantrums. Keep calm.
Step 8. Reward good behaviors
Compliment your baby when he stops having tantrums. If he doesn't complain for a long time, give him a gift or plan a special day for him with the whole family.
Step 9. Be consistent
Your baby won't stop having tantrums immediately; you will have to be firm and consistent. Over time, the situation will improve.
Advice
- Tantrums can be very irritating, but like many problems that plague parents, it's best to stay calm and relaxed. Accept that all children have a tantrum sooner or later. Solve the problem as best you can, but don't turn it into a battle to the death.
- Make sure other people who care for your baby are behaving like you. After you decide how to fix the tantrum problem, make sure your husband / wife, partner and anyone who spends time with the baby do the same. Your efforts will be in vain if, for example, your spouse gives your child a candy every time he throws a tantrum.
