If you're feeling horny but can't see the guy you like, sparking his interest with a message will make him think about you when you're not together. Whether you're in a long-distance relationship or 10 minutes away from each other, writing him something seductive will make him even more excited to see you. You can ask him provocative questions, send him seductive and playful jokes or use your imagination to tease him and liven up your relationship. Just make sure you follow the message rules, so you don't scare him!
Steps
Part 1 of 2: Follow the Message Policy
Step 1. Start by writing something simple, especially if you've recently been together
It is important not to give your new partner the impression that you are too intense. Write something light and innocent to start the conversation.
For example, you can say, "Hey, I hope you're okay. I was thinking about you" or "Hi, I can't stop thinking about your lovely smile."
Step 2. Write him a compliment to get his attention
Appreciation is great for creating more intimacy and can lead to spicier conversations. Make sure you give him sincere compliments and that he enjoys receiving.
- "Hello Beautiful!" it's always a great start, especially in the early stages of a relationship.
- Alternatively, you can try something fun and bold by writing, "I can't stop laughing thinking about what we said last night. I love how kinky you are."
Step 3. Flirt to gradually come to more suggestive topics
The secret to getting a guy aroused is to start slow and go one step at a time (as you would in person). Try to make him laugh, show him when you are funny and bright, or how much you care about him.
- For example, you might say, "I think I stretched my abs laughing about your story last night" or "How was your interview today? Did they appreciate your intelligence as I do?".
- It can be embarrassing to write something spicy and heavy right away (and even a little creepy if you don't know each other well).
Step 4. Tell him what you do to keep the conversation going
Use what you are doing to direct the dialogue on hotter topics. You don't have to be honest, he can't know you're lying anyway!
For example, you can say, "I'm trying to work, but I can't think of the smart and really sexy man I went out with last night…"
Step 5. Avoid sending too many messages in a row
If you're looking to turn him on, don't bother him! If you've recently known each other, they may think you're too clingy. On the other hand, if he is your stable partner, he may get angry instead of excited. Don't write more than two messages in a row if you don't get a response.
- If he doesn't respond to you, don't panic and don't shower him with messages. He's probably busy!
- If you overdo it and you can tell from his response that he is annoyed or intimidated, learn your lesson and write less directly.
Step 6. Don't write anything hot if it's not the right time
It is not recommended to try to turn him on during an important meeting or sober event. If you know he's at a funeral, family event, or business meeting, don't distract him from his busy schedule.
Ask him what he is doing if you don't know if the time is right
Step 7. Keep the conversation short to leave him longing for more
Consider risque messages as a form of mental foreplay; your goal is to excite him without taking too long to bore him. Plus, seductive messages that are too long can be embarrassing and spoil the mood.
Stop the conversation by simply saying, "Can't wait to see you later" or with a suitable emoji (like?,? Or?)
Step 8. Do not send unsolicited nude photos
Doing so could create problems for both of you. For example, he may receive the message or open it when someone is able to see his phone (like his mother, his boss or a child!). Don't send provocative photos unless you have already spoken and set rules (like no photos when you are at work).
- Don't let anyone push you to send nude photos by putting pressure on you! There is always a chance that someone will see them, so protect your privacy by using common sense (for example, don't show your face in photos).
- A good rule of thumb that you can set is to delete photos immediately after sending and receiving them.
Part 2 of 2: Using Jokes to Tease Him
Step 1. Ask him provocative and intriguing questions to get him to think about you
With a sexual question, you will turn him on and stimulate his imagination. Also, you invite him to respond with something equally suggestive. Try the following questions:
- "What's your secret fantasy?"
- "Why do you turn me on so much ?!"
- "Remember that time (write something risqué you did together)? Are you ready for round two?"
- "I'm getting incredibly flexible, all the yoga hours are paying off … would you like to see a demonstration later?"
- "Do you want to play Dare or Dare?"
Step 2. Use a sense of humor to stimulate her imagination
Send him a joking message that hints at something more serious, using relatively innocent language. This will remind him of how much fun it is to be with you (and do things with you). Try these funny jokes:
- "You'd look great in my panties. Show later? Please!"
- "I can't stop laughing at this sex scene I just watched hahaha! We can do better."
- "I can't stop thinking red lights. Can you help me?"
- "Hey, I'm trying to concentrate, can you stop making dirty thoughts about me for a moment?"
Step 3. Show your courage with a romantic or direct message
Whether you are sweet and romantic or intense and passionate, sending your partner a sincere message about how you feel about him can make your bond stronger. Very direct phrases are especially effective if you know they like it when you take control. You can try:
- "Your kisses drive me crazy, like an electric shock."
- "I can't sleep, I just think of having you here next to me."
- "Making love to you makes me feel on another planet."
- "It was great when you _ last night, I've never felt like this before."
- "I have to confess, I want you. Now!"
Step 4. Use the descriptions to get him to fantasize about you
Tell him what you are going to do to him, tell him what you are wearing or invent a sexual scenario that involves you. Try to be as detailed as possible and direct or discreet based on your personality. For example, you can write:
- "To start, I'll slowly run my fingers over your lips …"
- "I'm wearing the panties you like so much …"
- "You and I naked on the kitchen table. Dinner and repeats."
