"Most people are happy the moment they decide they are."
Abraham Lincoln (1809-1865)
Option 1: Ring the alarm - send it back. The alarm rings - you complain. You get up, you get dressed randomly. You are struggling with traffic, you get to work, you have a bad moon - you look at your watch and you count the minutes. Go home, eat, watch TV and go to sleep. The alarm rings - you send it back. It's Wednesday only - there are 2 more days to go. Will it ever end this week? I just want to sleep until Saturday. Please let me win the lottery. I hate this job. What have I done wrong? I feel in prison every day
Option 2: The alarm rings but you don't hear it because you are in the shower. You dress carefully for the day. You listen to music on your way to work - smile even if you are stuck in traffic; it's all beautiful - oh my, it's time to go home already. The day has flown by! Have a great dinner, talk about the day, fall asleep almost immediately. The alarm goes off but you don't hear it because you are in the shower. I love my job
How would you like to feel? The question is not what do you feel, but what do you want? Honestly, don't you envy people who love what they do and can't wait to go to work every day? For them, work is not torture, it is fun! Because? Because they have decided that it must be like this. Before you can enjoy your work, you need to understand what "pleasure" means to you. Understanding this will not only help you love your job, but life in general! Here are some ways to increase your satisfaction - at work and elsewhere. It is not an instant remedy: it will take time, but the effort will be well rewarded.
Steps
Method 1 of 4: Part 1: "Consciousness" Exam
Step 1. Find out what makes you happy:
think about it and write it down. Take some time to make a list of the things that make you smile. When making the list, write everything down, no matter if it seems stupid or irrelevant to your job. The purpose is not to link the list to the job, but to compile one that talks about you.
Step 2. Ask yourself "Why?
"for each item: ok, you have your list - now you have to understand why these things make you happy … what about" fishing "makes you happy? Is it the gesture itself? Or the context? Is it really the fishing or being out Do it for each item on the list, dig deep. Keep asking "why" until you get to the root of why something makes you happy. That's the list you are really looking for.
Step 3. Find out what makes you unhappy:
just like in the previous two steps, you'll make a list of the things you don't like. Don't like your morning routine? Because? Is it really about the time you spend in the car (if you happen to take car trips then that's not the point)? Are the other drivers?
Step 4. Ask yourself "Why" for each entry:
just like you did for the positives, you need to determine why those things make you miserable. What about being in the car really bothers you? Since you like to travel by car and listen to music, why is it different in this case? Think about it. You'll use this list later and so it needs to be very, very specific. Make the list and ask yourself "why, why, why" to find out what are, in depth, the things that make you unhappy.
Step 5. Try to understand what motivates you:
people love to do what motivates them (of course). So you need to make a list of the things that make you feel motivated. Some people are motivated to help others, some by success, some by intellectual stimulation. It's not an easy task, but it's something you need to know about yourself. It's one of those "meaning of life" activities that change from person to person. What's your motivation?
Method 2 of 4: Part 2: Review your Work
Step 1. Identify the positives:
ok, maybe you don't love your job, but there will be some things you don't completely hate. There will be some things you like. Make a list of these things first. Relax and consider all things related to your work that are not negative. Maybe you have a very short commute to work, which is a good thing. How is the lighting and the state of the building as a whole? Do you have breaks during the day? Even if they are short, they are something more. And what do you think about some of the people who work with you? Make a list of everything.
Step 2. Ask yourself why:
just like in Step 1, you need to identify why you like these things. What are the positive aspects of each single item on the list? This is important because you are going to correlate this list with the one you made earlier.
Step 3. Identify the downsides:
this shouldn't be hard - what don't you like about your job? Make a complete, very specific list. "I hate what I do" is not good. What, specifically, do you dislike about your job? The tasks, the context, the people, the company … everything.
Step 4. Ask yourself why:
you did it for the positives, now you do it for the negatives. Just like Phase 1, dig a little deeper. You may have written that you don't like your boss. "Because it is one" is not productive; what specifically do you dislike about his behavior? And more importantly, how does it affect you in a negative way?
Method 3 of 4: Part 3: Putting It All Together
Step 1. Merge the lists of positive aspects:
reread carefully the lists of things that make you happy and things you like - and don't like - about your job. You may find things you don't like about your job that may coincide with things that make you happy. An example would be "My boss is always around me", but on the list of things that make you happy you have "I love being around people". Take everything you wrote about your work (positive and negative aspects) and write next to it (if they are consistent) the things that make you happy outside the workplace.
Step 2. Merge the lists of negatives:
as you did in the previous step, compare the list of work-related negatives to the list of things that make you unhappy. Again, you may be surprised to find the things you listed on the positive aspects of work list among the things that make you unhappy. For example, if you wrote "my boss never shows up" among the positive things, but "being alone" among those that make you unhappy, there is a contradiction that leads you to … br>
Step 3. Look for contradictions:
on your lists, you may find things you like about your job that are also on the list of things that make you unhappy and, conversely, things you don't like about your job but are among those that make you happy. Make a list of contradictions that includes them all. Focus a little more on these things.
Step 4. Look for confirmations:
just like the previous step, you will have consistent correspondences between one list and another. Some of the "negative" things about your job will be on your list of things that make you unhappy and vice versa. Make a list of confirmations that includes all of these coincidences.
Step 5. Check your work:
to be more than sure, do these exercises a couple of times. Don't tumble the lists and forget about them. It is a very, very important tool and you can use it in the future too - if you really want to be proactive in your life, you will use these lists very often. Once you are completely satisfied and your lists are accurate and complete …
Step 6. Take a break:
give yourself some time to settle things down. You will understand this when you are ready for the next stage, so don't rush things. Your brain needs time to process the information you just assimilated. If you've done these steps right, you'll have some new and potentially surprising information. After a couple of days, you will be ready.
Method 4 of 4: Part 4: Take Action
Step 1. Make a commitment:
the goal you have set for yourself is to love your job. To do this, you will need to be determined to make a positive psychological change. Don't think that just because you've done the prep work things will change by magic. You will need to constantly review your attitudes and behaviors.
Step 2. Focus on positive confirmations:
for example, if your boss is "omnipresent," remember how much you love being surrounded by people. When the phone rings constantly, remember that you love talking to people. when they are constantly asking you to do extra jobs, remember that you enjoy helping people. The goal is to look for the things that make you happy in your work and focus on those. Whenever a work-related event is also on your "happy stuff" list, make a mental note: "This is good because …"
Step 3. Look for work-related motivations:
there must be something in your work that is also on the motivation list. Find them. This is one of the things your supervisor should know too. Try to talk to him about the things that excite you to see if you can have jobs as close to these things as possible. Don't assume it will all happen all of a sudden; your current jobs exist for a reason and it will take time to fix the workload, but most managers want their employees to be productive and happy - it reduces turnover and makes them appear in a better light because the team works better. When you do, center the conversation on the positive areas rather than the negative ones: "" I hate my job because it's boring "" it won't get you far, in fact, you may hear "" Perfect. Good luck finding a new job. Pass by the personnel office as you leave. "". On the other hand, a "" I would like to have some new job that allows me to interact more with people "" will provoke a more thoughtful response and demonstrate a mature work ethic.
Step 4. Eliminate "negative thoughts":
Sometimes you'll find yourself thinking about what you don't like about your job - or parts of it. Your mind will feed these thoughts until it stops you. These are negative thoughts, and they don't bring any good. When you realize you are doing it, chase them away and get back to the positive. Think of a few work-related activities that coincide with the list of things that make you happy. It is not easy. Negative thoughts are a habit and are difficult to lose, but it is essential that you crush them as soon as possible. Negative thoughts increase your stress, can lead to depression and certainly reduce your concentration, which leads to poor work performance that will only fuel the negative thoughts… as you can see it is a vicious circle.
Step 5. Use breaks wisely:
when you have a 15-minute break or half an hour for lunch, use that time to do things you love. This is not the time to be communal with colleagues to complain. If it's part of your culture, break away - it only hurts you. Maybe find someone who likes to walk and go for a walk; talk about pleasant things. During lunch, hang out with positive people, not negative ones. Pe people influence each other with their attitude. If you constantly hear about people having a negative point of view, yours will get worse too. On the other hand, if you hang out with positive people, your positive thinking will grow too!
Step 6. Use the statement:
you've heard it a million times before. You may not have given it weight, but it really works. It might seem a bit silly to look at yourself in the mirror in the morning and tell yourself that it will be a great day, but … let this statement settle. It will help. Positive thoughts are a habit just like negative ones. It works because this is how our brains work. It might seem useless at first and you won't see immediate results - it's not a magic bullet - but don't stop. Do it every day. Stick the lists of positive things in the mirror and read them every morning.
Step 7. Look for the results:
if you have done all the steps and taken action, you will see the results. At first they will be very small steps so you will have to look for them. They are there and it's up to you to find them. When you see a result … celebrate! Every success is positive feedback for your brain. They will start to arrive more and more and quickly. However, there will always be events that you don't like. Nobody loves every single second of their life. It's normal. When it happens, face these moments decisively and turn the page. Don't stagnate in negativity. Focus on the positive things that need to come.
Advice
- Start looking. Taking action, you may find that you like your work more than what's out there, or you'll find a new one. Sometimes just looking for a new job can be therapeutic.
- If these steps don't work; If you are 100% sure, without a shadow of a doubt, that you will never, ever love your job, and find another one, use these steps to evaluate a new, potential job. Make sure the next one is to your liking.
- Often what you hate about your job is a colleague of yours, or several colleagues, making your working life impossible. The thing you need to remember about these people is that you don't have to take what they say too personally. There are offensive, jealous, gossipy people and even those who would like to steal your place. Sometimes finding something you like about these people and pointing it out can radically change the situation. Try to be interested in what they have to say. Ask questions about them and their life. Often these people will find that they like you and change their attitude towards you. When you find someone who is a thorn in your side, everyone notices it. Don't give in to this game.
- Remember that the neighbor's grass is not always the greenest. Sometimes you can change jobs only to find that the new one has a hard-to-connect boss or worse coworkers, or double the job and half the benefits. Do your research before switching. Try to find out as much as possible about the new job and the people you will be dealing with.
- Remember that your attitude affects others and also your job performance. If you can, try to take a couple of days off to reflect on your calling or where you want to go. Taking a step back and a new perspective can be crucial in changing your attitude and mindset.
- If you can afford it, start putting a small portion of your salary into an affordable savings fund or "freedom fund". It could take more than a year depending on how much you contribute, but sooner or later you will have enough money to leave your job and live on an income for a while while looking for a new job.
