What does it mean to be exuberant? In pronouncing the word exuberant we imagine a person who is very determined and lively and at the same time playful and full of spirit. In English, for example, the term "feisty" derives from a very common word in the 19th century, "feist" and that is "little dog", so it is easy to imagine why this term has now taken on the meaning of "exuberant". Pulling out a bit of your exuberance is the first step in learning to enjoy life more and become more pleasant people in the eyes of others, it will be easier to socialize or meet new partners. If you want to be, keep reading and follow the advice from Step 1.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Be brave and determined
Step 1. Show your ideas
Exuberant people are neither fragile nor delicate, indeed, they are not afraid to openly demonstrate their ideas. If you want to be exuberant, start by fearlessly demonstrating your opinions. Always say how you think, whether it's a chat with friends or a more serious debate, express your ideas and let others know them, even if they may not agree with you. A person who has the courage to always say how he thinks will earn the respect of others. Even those who have a different opinion will appreciate this quality.
Even if you don't have to be afraid to say what you think, remember to take into account some social labels and keep your common sense. Even if you are exuberant, nothing authorizes you to be rude and offensive. If your friends, for example, offer you to see a movie you don't like, don't belittle their cinematic tastes but express your opinion through a sarcastic comment, like “another pseudo-horror movie for kids? Fantastic, I wasn't expecting anything else! " It will surely be a gentler way to communicate your dissent, rather than a "You are stupid otherwise you wouldn't want to watch that stuff!" Remember that the exuberant are determined people, not arrogant and cruel
Step 2. Show your emotions
An exuberant person doesn't just want to communicate what they think to others, they will also want to demonstrate what they feel. Many times, what you do will be a reflection of what you feel and how you interact with the world. If you feel like smiling, smile, if you want to cry, cry. If you want to scream in someone's face (and you have your good reasons) do it. Don't worry about what others say. You are a real person and whoever knows it will appreciate you.
Again, it all depends on the context you are in, so avoid expressing your emotions if the situation doesn't allow it, and don't overdo it. If the math lesson is too boring, don't disturb other students, if you are at a funeral don't start giggling if you think of a joke. Use common sense. The exuberant always express their emotions but they know how to recognize the right moment
Step 3. Be determined
The tips you have read so far seem easy to say but can put a person in serious trouble, especially if they are hampered by shyness. An exuberant person is in fact an open, spontaneous and reckless person who expresses himself without fear and who, while taking into account the opinion of others, does not depend exclusively on their opinion. Security is a quality that will come in handy to better manage your social life. Be exuberant but learn the difference between being confident and becoming a know-it-all.
- Becoming more determined and confident people is a goal that everyone would like to achieve. Many books have been written about it, but also articles and texts of all kinds. It is difficult to acquire this skill right away, so start by imitating the attitudes of a confident person, for example, look people in the eye, maintain good posture, and so on. Gradually you will be able to gain confidence and sooner or later everything will come naturally to you. Focus on your strengths, think about your qualities rather than your weaknesses, and always try to improve yourself. Don't be in a hurry, everything is learned gradually and with practice.
- Learn to be more confident.
Step 4. Resolve any discussion amicably
Sooner or later it will happen to you, if you are a very confident person of yourself and your opinions, you will certainly meet someone who thinks the opposite and who you will have to deal with. The exuberant often find themselves in discussions of this type, do not be afraid and do not run away, accept the challenge. The exuberant are not afraid to manage an argument, often animated, albeit friendly. Put in motion all your mental (and verbal) skills to get the better of the current debate, it will still be an opportunity for discussion that can introduce you to a new point of view and maybe get closer to a new friend or a new conquest. Don't close the door to possibilities. But remember that your exuberance is not an excuse to become arrogant and attack people, always take into account the emotions of others.
The hardest thing for an exuberant is being able to manage their fiery nature with the need to keep their feet on the ground during a civil argument. Sometimes it is appropriate to strongly oppose some views that are deemed repugnant (such as racism, prejudice or sexual discrimination), but it is also important to leave others the right to have their own idea and respect it. In the event that you oppose an idea, it is right to attack someone's opinion, but not the person himself (for example, saying "I think it doesn't work" rather than "you're stupid if you think it can work")
Step 5. Dress according to your taste, not how others would like
As you may have heard at other times, clothes can tell a lot about the person wearing them. They are basically a form of expression. If you show up for a job interview with a formal suit, you will certainly give the idea of being a more professional person than the one who arrives in jeans and a t-shirt. Even exuberant people will often have to respect etiquette and use common sense, especially at social events where special rules apply, for example a wedding, a job interview or graduation day. In all cases where it is not necessary to follow any rules you can express yourself however you want and choose the style you prefer!
Choose your style freely. If you love to wear bright colors, go for it. If you prefer to wear black, fill your wardrobe with black. Make the clothes represent your personality, even the clothes at the bottom are a way to express yourself
Step 6. Become a confident but not arrogant person
As suggested by the previous steps, in order to be exuberant it is important to be determined but also frank and direct. The exuberant always want to be honest, even at the cost of running into someone who doesn't think the same way. In any case, however, it is necessary to be very friendly in order not to be immediately labeled as arrogant. Focus only on what you expect from yourself, don't be swayed by what people want. At the same time, however, listen to different opinions and learn to treasure them. Whoever does not pay attention to the ideas of others is not an exuberant but a narrow-minded person.
Different opinions may help you understand something you were unaware of until then. Whenever you discuss with one of your friends, always try to listen carefully to the answers to your questions. Don't let anyone put their feet on your head but try to treasure the advice you will hear
Method 2 of 3: Have a playful attitude
Step 1. Be more playful
As already mentioned, exuberant people are full of life and have well-defined opinions. It's always nice to surround yourself with people like that, because fun is guaranteed! If you try to be exuberant, become a little more playful with others, look for opportunities to show off your sense of humor and make a nice joke. You can have fun arranging jokes or teasing others in a playful way, bringing out all your irony. Here are some examples:
- Try to reinterpret what your friends are saying in a playful way.
- Leave funny messages on your friends' computers when they go away.
- When your parents call you, you answer by pretending to be the representative of a company.
- Show up at a party with a name other than yours.
- Bring up your mind or search the net for ideas for fun and harmless jokes.
Step 2. Show off a good sense of humor every day
Even if the exuberant tend to argue often to defend their opinions, they are basically positive and sunny people. Achieving this joyful mood will be easier if you already have a good sense of humor. If, on the other hand, you are a more reserved and introverted person, this step will be more difficult, but not impossible. Memorize some funny jokes or stories to break the ice, find input to start a conversation and quickly get comfortable. Be sociable and relaxed when you are around people, try to put yourself in others' shoes, surely you are surrounded by many other people like you, who may be honing their communication skills by conversing with your friends or with other people they have just met. Humor is like abdominals, you need to exercise often in order to have a screaming musculature.
It's hard to bring out your humor if you're tired, stressed, or distracted. So, if you really want to become an exuberant person, learn to stay in control and not let yourself be thrown down by work problems or family responsibilities. The best way to keep humor intact is to come to the conclusion that it is useless to stress too much and it is healthier to look on the bright side of life and never stop smiling
Step 3. Make fun of others
The exuberant have the appointment of always being ready to make fun of and when they do they generally try to forge innocent jokes to keep the ego of others under control and indirectly strengthen their own. However, it is a spontaneous and harmless fun! In making fun of someone, it is always important not to lose control and refrain from teasing extremely sensitive people, lying at a safe distance from overly sensitive topics. Learn to stop at the right time!
The exuberant often respond with funny jokes, but full of irony or double meanings, to some strange or unexpected statement. To do this it is necessary to have perfect comic timing and to be able to respond with a certain speed. It is not easy at all, it will take a lot of practice to improve
Step 4. Flirt
One of the main advantages of being an exuberant person is the ability to flirt without arousing suspicion. Flirting is just an opportunity to have fun, show your best side and show off an irresistible exuberance. Do not be afraid and put aside shyness, remember that the exuberant always express their ideas and do not remain silent.
- It is not so easy to learn to flirt, the basic concept is this: joke and tease the person you like gracefully, show special attention to someone and at the same time do "the precious". To assume the right attitude, you need to be confident, look good and have a lot of personality and intelligence.
- Search wikiHow for advice on "how to flirt".
Step 5. Be a little sarcastic
If you were to make a list of all the exuberant people you know you would probably notice that all of them are characterized by some sarcasm. Among the famous people, for example, think of Princess Leia, Denny De Vito or Hermione Granger, in short, the exuberant often make use of sarcastic comments, that is, they express a concept starting from the exasperation of the opposite concept, so as to make the sentence appear pronounced a joke and a rather obvious contrast. Sarcasm is a good way to make jokes, make fun of or flirt with someone, as well as a very powerful weapon in the hands of an exuberant person.
Creating sarcastic jokes also requires a good dose of humor, you have to find an alternative way to say what you want to say, starting with its opposite. Don't be synthetic or it won't work, try to create contrasting and funny combinations, sarcasm for its own sake is damn boring
Step 6. Interact with others for fun
Exuberant people socialize above all to have fun, interacting with others is an opportunity to flirt, to make conversation, to entertain and to be entertained. Always try to be sociable and make the most of every situation, interact with others, make new acquaintances, new friends and earn the reputation of a sociable person who loves being in company.
Method 3 of 3: Be full of energy
Step 1. Get active and eat a proper diet
Being exuberant takes a lot of energy. Seizing new opportunities from each conversation, constantly looking for a new way to joke and making jokes, supporting one's opinions in front of others, are all actions for which it is necessary to be fit and well charged. To avoid feeling exhausted, try to take care of your fitness every day and follow a correct diet, do gymnastics regularly and avoid foods too high in sugar and fat, you don't have to become a bodybuilder but just keep fit to be able to maintain one more hectic lifestyle.
Search online for exercises you can do every day, even alone at home
Step 2. Indulge in moments of pause and relaxation
Just as it is essential to stay energetic and in shape, it is equally important to allow yourself the necessary rest and relax. Avoid feeling exhausted, recharge your energy whenever you feel tired and exhausted. A hectic social life can be quite stressful, there are people who are used to living very intensely and others who are more affected by fatigue. Sometimes you may need a few moments of solitude to gather your energy again. Only you can feel what your body needs, so listen to it and indulge it. If you don't feel like going out, don't force yourself, give yourself time all to yourself.
Rest is important for health. Doctors recommend sleeping 7 to 9 hours a night if you are an adult. Failing to allow yourself the rest that the body needs can lead to chronic fatigue, stress and irritability. All problems that do not suit an exuberant personality
Step 3. Always find the right boost, even when you are low in tone
It is not enough to take care of your body, keep fit and be rested, even the most extroverted people are sometimes short of energy and struggle to always keep the same pace. Sometimes you need to give yourself the right motivation. If you feel low, find a way to regain your energy, for example:
- Listen to your favorite song. Choose a particularly energetic song like "Eye of the Tiger".
- Watch some intriguing and inspiring scenes, for example Alec Baldwin's monologue in "Americani" or the climax of "The Good, the Bad and the Ugly".
- Do some movement, dedicated to short but intense physical activity such as aerobics or running.
- Watch a video of your favorite comedian.
- Call a friend you haven't talked to in a long time.
- Send a nice message to someone you like.
- Watch a horror video and pop out of your chair.
Advice
- Don't get overbearing and snooty. Bullies are just cowards who only attack people who are weaker than themselves. The exuberant, on the other hand, are confident people who don't need to hurt others to feel stronger.
- Prepare sharp phrases to adequately respond to an insult.
Warnings
- Don't be too cheeky.
- Don't take the liberty of insulting others.
- Remember that you can always be wrong and you don't know the truth about everything. Being determined does not mean expecting to always be right and becoming arrogant.
- Don't get hot-tempered or violent, don't threaten people, and don't throw sharp glances. Follow the steps right and stay out of trouble.
