Only you can decide that you are truly beautiful. All it takes is a change in the way you think and a little boost of confidence and self-confidence. And of course that's easier said than done.
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Part One: Being Beautiful Inside
Step 1. Understand your beauty
This is the most important step in feeling beautiful. You must understand that your beauty comes from you, not from some external source. But you have to train to feel this way.
- Make a list of all the good things about tea. This includes helping someone carry their groceries, listening to a friend, or being the best at puns.
- Every morning when you wake up, go to the bathroom mirror, smile at yourself and say out loud "I'm beautiful" and "I'm happy." The more you say it, the more your brain will convince itself that it's true.
- Write a list of things you think are beautiful about you. Maybe you have big dark eyes, a nice nose or full lips, or a beautiful laugh. If you can't think of anything, ask a trusted friend or family member.
- When you start having negative thoughts about yourself, remember the lists.
Step 2. Put a stop to negativity in the bud
Negative thoughts lead our brains to believe negativity. If we think we're ugly, our brains will be convinced. You have to convince your brain that those thoughts are not true.
- When you start having negative thoughts, label it that way. Example: "My nose is awful." Tell yourself, "I'm thinking my nose is awful." Make sure that the thought is no longer yours.
- Let go of negative thoughts. You are not your thoughts, but these can be really damaging to your self-confidence.
- Replace negative thoughts with positive ones. Even if you don't believe in positive thinking, you can fool your brain into believing it.
Step 3. Build self-confidence
Everyone has good qualities, both inside and out, but it's important to understand that people are more than they appear on the outside. It's okay to admire people (and yourself!) For their physical beauty, but it's also best to look at what's inside. There will always be someone more beautiful, more successful, with more boyfriends.
- Don't judge yourself so harshly. You are your own worst enemy. Give yourself the freedom to have days when you don't feel attractive. Security is being able to trust yourself even on days when you don't feel like you can do it at all.
- Don't judge other people. What you think of other people says a lot about you. Try to think positively, have kind thoughts for others. It will also affect positivity towards yourself.
- Don't compare yourself to others. This will only lead you to lose faith in yourself. In addition, that person with perfect hair may have great difficulty in seeing from other points of view.
- Pretend until you succeed. You can make your brain believe you are confident if you pretend to be confident. Act like you already know you are beautiful and you will begin to believe it.
- Don't think that you must have a boyfriend to be worth anything. Your self-esteem and self-confidence are entrusted only to you and no one else. If you let someone else control your self-esteem too much, you will never learn true confidence.
- Take a selfie. You control the photo and you can make sure to emphasize your most attractive features. When you feel less confident, take it out and remember that you are beautiful!
Method 2 of 3: Part Two: Being Beautiful Outside
Step 1. Change your appearance
Changing your appearance can help you with confidence and can help you get out of the rut. It can also be fun!
- Change your hairstyle. Cut them, comb them another way, make them highlight or dye them pink.
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Get dark eyes shaded or put on a bright red lipstick.
Go for a free style change. Go to the makeup counter of the perfumery and ask for a hand to try new colors. If you always wear peach shades, tell the clerk to change color for a whole new style. You will go home with a fabulous new face
- Choosing a new dress can change your entire wardrobe: a new shirt, a skirt or even a scarf.
Step 2. Wear clothes, makeup and accessories that make YOU feel beautiful and confident
Clothes that you feel comfortable in are better than those that are perhaps on the crest of the "fashion" wave but that you don't like to wear. The discomfort with yourself can be seen.
Check that the clothes fit you well. It's hard to feel comfortable when your jeans are too tight at a waist, or your bra leaves marks on your skin
Step 3. Pamper yourself
Giving yourself some alone time to do something relaxing can give you a boost in self-esteem and also helps you relax which, in turn, helps your positivity stay high.
- Feel beautiful up to your toes with a homemade pedicure. Do all the crazy things you want! Put on one or two toe rings. Dye your nails in different colors, use glitter or eye shadow swatches on your hands that you aren't ready to use yet.
- Give your skin a special treatment. When you take care of yourself, it shows. Make yourself a face mask at home for smoother skin.
Step 4. Work to be healthy
Health is not only considered attractive, it also means your mind is healthy! It can help with depression and to keep you away from disease. It's hard to feel beautiful with a cold.
- Sleeping is a very important factor in being healthy. Little sleep affects your nervous system and makes you more vulnerable to depression and disease. If you can't sleep the recommended 8 or 9 hours each night, take a nap during the day.
- Exercising releases endorphins and serotonin which supports mood and body. There are many different ways to exercise: yoga, dancing, going for a walk or a run, aerobics, zumba. You can have a lot of fun.
- Learn to meditate. Meditation helps you refresh your brain and let go of negative thoughts. It can also help with depression, eating disorders and stress.
- Laugh. Grab a friend and think about all those funny moments you've had together or watch your favorite comedy. Laughter can do things like relieve pain, help you become aware of difficult situations, and improve your mood.
- Soak up some sun. The sun is known to be a great mood enhancer. In fact, in some northern European countries where the sun rarely shines during the winter, people go for light therapy to combat depression. (Be careful when you expose yourself to the sun and make sure you have sunscreen.)
Method 3 of 3: Part Three: Being Beautiful
Step 1. Be attractive by being kind, respectful and pleasant
Maybe people react to physical beauty at first but studies have shown that they will reevaluate their perception based on personality traits.
- Listen when people talk. You don't have to be a doormat to listen to others, and people will notice that you care about their words.
- Kindness is one of the most important traits in evaluating beauty according to Yale psychologist, Paul Bloom. This means helping others when they need it and not judging them (see previous steps).
Step 2. Decide how you define beauty
Remember that true beauty is in people's eyes. Different cultural groups have different beauty norms. The obsession with being beautiful actually only began in the 1960s.
