Speaking on the phone is a great way to have naughty fun with your sweetheart on your cell phone or to turn the swap into a phone sex session. You may feel a little silly or intimidated at the thought of speaking like this over the phone, but once you are relaxed and in the right spirit, you will be able to drive the person on the other end of the line crazy with pleasure. If you want to know how to do it, simply follow these steps.
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Prepare to Speak Deeply
Step 1. Choose the right time for this experience
If you want your child-friendly phone date to be perfect, then you need to make sure you and your partner are on their own and ready to strike up a sexy conversation. Your hot dialogue won't go very far if you're already in bed while your partner is having dinner with his mom. Plan your appointment in advance so that you are both free and alone or in your own rooms.
Step 2. Your appearance and mood should be sexy
Take a nice hot bath or put on some sexy lingerie and hot outfit. While not having the chance to get your partner's staring looks, you are more likely to feel aroused because your look will set the right mood. You can also massage a scented oil or lotion on the nape of the neck to get you in the right mood.
Step 3. Set the mood
Would you have sex with dirty clothes strewn all over your room floor and take away containers on your desk? Hopefully not. You shouldn't start this conversation until you've created a romantic vibe. Clean up your space, dim the lights, light a few candles and lay back on your cool, cozy bed. Do whatever you can to prepare yourself, as if you were going to meet your partner in person.
Step 4. Don't think too much
Before you pick up the phone or start getting in the mood, don't stare into the mirror or analyze every little thing you say to your lover. While being “virgin” when it comes to phone sex, the process will feel more natural if you sit back, relax and prepare yourself for what's to come.
Step 5. Start getting excited
This doesn't mean that you need to touch yourself, unless you want to, but that you should start giving space to your sexy side. Close your eyes and think about your most illicit sexual fantasy or remember the last time you experienced a very strong arousal with your lover.
If it helps, you can lightly caress your body to let the atmosphere infect you. But you should reserve most of the petting for the phone appointment
Part 2 of 3: Start Having Phone Sex
Step 1. Find your appropriate “voice” for the occasion
Your tone should belong to you, but be representative of a sexier version of you, the one that talks hot and sweet. Don't use the same voice you would use to ask your better half how their day went. Instead, speak a little lower and more quietly; you can even lower it further to whisper if you think this can be even more exciting. Just make sure you look like yourself, but show a new version of yourself.
Step 2. Compliment your significant other
You don't have to tell her something hot already. Just start with some classic appreciations. Tell this special someone you missed them and how wonderful you find their body. You can also remind her of the last time you had sex and how hot it was. Just start with cute phrases to get your partner in the right mood. Here's what you might say:
- "I've been thinking about your strong, muscular arms all day."
- “I miss you so much, and so does your body”.
- “I love hearing your voice”.
Step 3. Describe in detail what you are wearing
Tell what shape these clothes give your body and mention any exposed parts. Ask your lover what he is wearing, close your eyes and picture him dressed in the way he describes himself. Here are some possibilities to describe what you are wearing:
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For women:
- “I'm wearing my favorite bra”.
- "I didn't wear underwear."
- "My dress is very tight on the breast".
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For the men:
- "My shirt fits tight to my biceps."
- "I'm wearing that belt you love to take off."
- "I'm wearing a shirt, and it can be taken off very easily."
Talk Dirty on the Phone Step 9 Step 4. Explain what you would do if your lover was there
Start slow. Just describe a few actions that you would actually want to do if he were there. You can go into detail if you like, but you can start off easy and then work your way up to more elaborate patterns. Here are some phrases to try:
- "I wish your arms would hold me right now."
- "I'd like to kiss you on the neck now."
- “If I were here, I'd start nibbling your ear. You couldn't stop me”.
Part 3 of 3: Making the Mood Hot
Talk Dirty on the Phone Step 10 Step 1. Touch your body and describe what you feel
You can do this at any time during the conversation, but the sooner you start, the more excitement rises. Start by stroking yourself gently, explaining to your partner what you are doing. Then, ask him to imitate you by touching his body and telling you in detail what he wants you to do to him. Just like with actual foreplay, you don't have to touch yourself in very hot spots, just start with light strokes that can "get you going".
- As you continue talking, you can begin to touch your erogenous zones.
- Let your partner know exactly what you are doing to your body. If you caress her breasts or belly, tell her.
- Describe all the sensations you feel. If you start to feel a sexy thrill after lightly stroking his neck, let him know.
Talk Dirty on the Phone Step 11 Step 2. Tell your partner how you would like them to touch you
Start talking about all the things you want him to do to your body until you both get aroused. Explain to each other in turn what you would like to do to each other; explain what you want him to do to you and he should tell you how he wants to be reciprocated. The conversation can become even more vivid if you express the expectations you have of each other.
Talk Dirty on the Phone Step 12 Step 3. Describe what you want to do to your partner
Let him know exactly what you would do to his body if he were there with you. Now that you've started feeling aroused and touching your bodies, you can raise the tone of the dialogue and say whatever you want to do to him, no matter if he's too hot.
Talk Dirty on the Phone Step 13 Step 4. Describe your enormous excitement
Don't be shy: Tell your sweetheart how it turns you on just talking on the phone and picturing yourself together. Let her know that you are aroused and that you have this feeling from head to toe. If you are so high that you feel arousal even in your toes, tell your partner about it.
Talk Dirty on the Phone Step 14 Step 5. Uncover your greatest fantasies
Once you are truly aroused, share your fantasies with your partner, no matter if they are very horny. She will play and talk to you about it, helping you get even more excited as you picture yourself putting your fantasy into action together. Don't be afraid to give free rein to your thoughts on the phone, close your eyes and start talking.
Talk Dirty on the Phone Step 15 Step 6. Undress, and tell it
Don't just start taking off your clothes, let your partner peek at the striptease, button by button. If you're taking off your shirt, tell him it's slipping on your face. If you are taking off the belt, tell your girlfriend that you are dropping it on the floor. Paint a picture of your body that can turn your sweetheart even more on.
- You can also ask her to undress. Giving her orders can be especially hot. You can just say "Take off your shirt" or "I want you to take your skirt down".
- When you start taking off your clothes, you can ask your partner for confirmation. As you take off your shirt, you can ask him "Are you sure you want to take off my shirt?". This will help your lover visualize the scene.
Talk Dirty on the Phone Step 16 Step 7. Masturbate
If you want to have a hard conversation with your sweetheart just for fun or practice, then you can put the phone down and finish it. But if hot dialogue is to be complete for you, then you and your lover should touch each other until orgasm is reached. In case you want things to be hot and frantic, you can announce your climax or tell yourself when you are about to get there. This will accentuate the trepidation and excite both of them even more. Once you've both come to orgasm, you can say goodbye to your partner and think about your next hot date on the phone.
- Don't be shy: explain to your significant other how you touch and let her know how you feel every moment. Be as descriptive as possible.
- As with real sex, it is quite difficult to have orgasm at the same time. If you climax first, continue with the hot conversation to excite the other person. Don't stop or spoil the atmosphere. Talk hot until you're both satisfied.
Talk Dirty on the Phone Step 17 Step 8. Greet each other in a sexy way
Don't go by talking about how your days have been or telling silly jokes. Just like you would pamper yourself after having sex in real life, talk sweetly and softly with your partner and let him know it was amazing. Put the phone down immediately after; if you want to have a normal conversation with him, call him later, so you can keep the hot feelings for a few minutes after the date.
Advice
- If you take on another personality on the phone, you could write a list with the characteristics of this person. For example, it may be dominant and claim to be in control. Try to think about what he would probably say as well.
- If you don't know what to say, the internet is an excellent resource to use!
- Fewer words, more deep breaths.
Warnings
- If you're not ready or don't want to engage in a sexy conversation, don't let the other person pressure you to convince you. You need to feel relaxed and comfortable, not tense and stressed.
- If you are in a place where other people might hear you - for example in a bar - they might look at you oddly if you talk dirty on the phone. So look for a quiet place where you can be alone.
