Do you have a garment that always promises rewards and promotions without ever keeping his word? You probably kept hoping that over time something would happen or the situation would improve, but after yet another missed reward, you lost your motivation to work. It's hard to deal with a boss who doesn't respect their word, but you can confront them with their responsibilities by documenting what they say, talking to them often, evaluating your progress and taking care of yourself, figuring out when to look for new career opportunities..
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Making a Promise
Step 1. Clarify the expectations of the promise
If your boss has promised you something, whether it's a raise or a promotion, chances are he wants something in return. Ask specifically what he wants from you (higher productivity, more hours at work, more training courses). Also ask when he thinks he is keeping his word.
Remember that it is best to clarify expectations in person right away when the promise is made. You can summarize what you understand and ask your boss to do the same, so that you are in tune
Step 2. Write
Send a document to your boss to let him know that you expect him to keep his promise. Take notes during your interview, then send him a summary of what you said.
You can send him an email thanking him for the interview, summarizing the promise and asking for confirmation that he understood the expectations correctly
Step 3. Be careful about reacting too soon
If the promise has not been kept to your expectations, think carefully before taking action. Make sure your answer is justified by considering whether you are impatient. Look at your calendar to see if it's been a reasonable time since you talked to your boss. Review what you've written and make sure you've complied with each request before moving on to a comparison.
Don't avoid reacting and asking your boss for a confrontation forever! If you're the type of person who always accepts everything or hopes things will work out themselves, your boss may be taking advantage of you by never respecting his word
Step 4. Think about the reasons that may justify a delay in keeping the promise
If you know you've fulfilled your end of the bargain, look for reasons for the delay. It could be a valid motivation beyond your control or even that of your boss. Read up on company policies, obey the rules every day, or ask the human resources department if there is any information you did not receive after the promise. Here's what you can ask for:
- Has the company been restructured, has there been any cuts or has it been bought out?
- Did your boss get sick or had to take time off work?
- Have there been any changes in the technical time needed to change a company policy, award a promotion or raise?
- Has there been a change in the procedure required to change a company policy, award a promotion or raise?
- Have all increases and promotions been suspended?
Part 2 of 3: Put Your Boss in Front of His Own Responsibilities
Step 1. Deliver a written reminder
Before addressing your boss directly, politely remind him of the promise he made to you. Try to be brief and simply ask for more information, instead of making accusations or being angry. Email is the best way, but your boss may not get back to you right away.
You can say, "I know you've been very busy with work over the last few months, but I wanted to talk to her because I haven't heard from my promotion that we talked about on March 29 this year. I'd like to get an update as soon as possible."
Step 2. Talk to your boss
If he doesn't respond to you, try facing him in person. Try to be polite and assertive direct, taking the written summary of the promise with you. Just state the facts, thank your boss for the opportunity he gave you and sincerely explain how the experience prepared you for the promotion, job change, bonus you were promised. Send another summary email after your conversation.
Step 3. Talk about yourself
Getting your boss to meet your needs and deliver on their promises will be easier if you focus the conversation on you and don't question their competence and integrity. Specifically explain what he must do to keep his word. Consider if you need helpful advice, help from a colleague, etc.
For example, if you have been offered a promotion that you have not yet received, you can say: "I want the promotion we agreed on and I need your help to get it. I would like your opinion on what I am doing well or what I should do in my position to get to the promotion."
Step 4. Return to the topic often
Once you've made the promise and asked your boss for advice and help to fulfill it, ask for weekly updates. Apply the advice he gave you and describe the progress you have made. After a month or two, if you've met all his expectations, it's time to meet him again and get him to keep his word.
- You can say, "We have been discussing my promotion since March and I believe I have met the demands since our meeting, even going beyond the goals for the last three months. I would like to know what else I should do and how we will approach mine. promotion".
- Remember to keep a calendar and keep a record of all interviews with your boss, preferably by email, so that you can consult with HR in the future.
Step 5. Avoid anger and resentment
It can be difficult to deal with a boss who makes vague promises without leaving room for anger and frustration. You will feel tempted to get angry, scream and threaten to quit after working hard, but this could make the situation worse. Your boss may feel attacked and find a reason to fire you.
Step 6. Share the impact of the broken promise
Instead of getting angry, let your boss know how you feel about their behavior. Clearly explain the consequences it has had on you. This puts him in front of his responsibilities and can make him feel guilty.
You can say, "I feel miserable that I haven't been promoted yet. I feel like I've worked hard for that goal and met expectations."
Step 7. Get help
If your boss doesn't answer you or help you, go to his supervisor or talk to HR. However, proceed with caution. Your boss and his superiors may feel threatened. Try to show all the promises your boss hasn't kept over time. You can:
- Arrange a private interview with your boss's manager (without notifying them) or with the human resources department.
- Carry all paper evidence of your boss's promises with you, such as emails or meeting logs.
- Briefly explain how the broken promise affected your work at the company.
- Request a change of position or a new boss to achieve better results in the company.
Step 8. Consider looking for another job
If you've done everything you can to keep your end of the bargain and your boss still didn't keep his promise, consider resigning. Evaluate how you really feel at work and whether you can continue working with your supervisor, knowing he may never keep his word. If this cycle goes on and you feel used, it's probably best to go and work in a different company, where you can get raises, promotions, etc.
Part 3 of 3: Keep Working for Your Boss
Step 1. Stay optimistic
Your boss wants you to do your job because they value your qualities. Remember that during all negotiations and meetings with your boss, you have developed your communication and problem-solving skills. Even if it has been a frustrating time, these skills will help you in your future employment.
Step 2. Show empathy
Understand that your boss is a human being and could be put under pressure by the whims of his superiors. Maybe he made you a promise he intended to keep, but something within the company has changed and now he can't do it anymore. Avoid judging him before you know all the facts. Try to understand the stress he is under before considering him just a boss who takes advantage of you.
Step 3. Think for yourself
Remember that you are in control of the situation. Only you can decide how to react to your boss's behavior and broken promises. You can choose whether to continue doing your job and what emotions to feel in the office. You can take care of yourself and change your behavior at work in the following ways:
- Focus on what makes you happy when you work.
- Give your attention to the people you enjoy working with.
- Spend more time on activities that make you feel satisfied.
- Avoid taking work home.
Step 4. Prove your worth
Even if your boss doesn't keep his promises and behaves with professional integrity, you try to do it. Show off and prove that you deserve your position. Focus on what you like about the company you work in and what you want to do to contribute. If nothing else, you will develop your skills and experiences that will help you in your next jobs somewhere else. To prove your worth, try:
- Stand out from your peers.
- Look for training opportunities.
- Develop new talents and skills.
- Ask for help when you need it.
Advice
- Be patient with your boss, but try to figure out when it's time to leave.
- Be careful if you decide to speak to HR or your boss's superiors. Try to resolve the situation with him first.
- Make sure you put everything in black and white. Record what your boss promised you and your job.
