The attraction between two people is a mysterious thing. In some cases it is born suddenly, without either of them doing anything. In other situations, it develops after quite some time. Sometimes, however much you want someone to reciprocate your feelings, this doesn't happen. There's no surefire way to get the guy you're infatuated with, but the tips in this article might help!
Steps
Part 1 of 3: Get his attention
Step 1. Don't overdo yourself, but try to get their attention
If the guy you like hasn't noticed you, it might be tempting to tell him how you feel. However, you might scare him if he hasn't noticed yet. He may even begin to take your attention for granted.
- Don't persecute him. To get noticed, you certainly need to be close to him from time to time. However, if you follow it everywhere, you would be creepy.
- When in her company, make sure you have something to do. Give him the impression that you have a busy life and that you have something better to do than wait for him to notice you.
Step 2. Be outgoing
When in the company of the guy you like, try to be the life of the party. Laugh, talk to everyone and get noticed (without being irritating). Let him know that you are a happy person with an active social life.
Show yourself available in his presence. Many people tense up when they try to stay calm in the company of someone they find attractive. Instead of looking calm, they end up looking unapproachable. Don't make this mistake, keep an attitude that is friendly and open to dialogue
Step 3. Get noticed
Try to take advantage of opportunities to demonstrate your best qualities. Can you play an instrument well? Try to show off your talent in his company! Are you good at playing volleyball? If you notice him looking at you, ask your friends to do two dribbles.
Let him know that you are special, but don't give him the impression that he is too convinced of you. Likewise, absolutely avoid looking mean. Show off your best features without belittling other people
Step 4. Use your gaze
Glance at the guy you like, but don't overdo it. Let him know you've noticed, but don't keep staring at him to get his attention.
Just give him fleeting glances from time to time, for a second or so
Step 5. Try to be as attractive as possible (and smell good)
When you know you're going to meet the guy you like, take care of your appearance down to the smallest detail. Put on your best clothes, make sure your hair and nails are clean and tidy.
Also make sure you smell good. Take care of the hygiene of the body. You could use some perfume to have a distinctive smell. Don't overdo it, though. Scientific studies show that delicate fragrances are the most attractive. In fact, many people hate smells that are too strong
Step 6. Start a conversation
Once you get his attention that you like, give him a hello. Introduce yourself and find something to talk about.
Part 2 of 3: Learning to Know Each Other
Step 1. Get to know the guy you have a soft spot for
Find out what he likes to do by asking him questions about his favorite activities. Find out which books, movies and music he likes. They will be great conversation topics, because everyone loves to talk about their passions.
If you know his friends, you can ask them questions about his interests as well. In some cases, it will be helpful to let him know that you have requested information about him. You will let him know that you are interested in him without telling him openly
Step 2. Find common interests
In an ideal world, you and the guy you're interested in will enjoy the same things. Once you find out what they like, you'll have plenty of conversation topics. This will help you come up with ideas on activities you can do together.
- Don't pretend to like things you don't like to impress him. You wouldn't be yourself. Also, you will have a very embarrassing moment when he notices it.
- For example, if you and he have the same favorite band, you can talk about music for hours. However, if he asks you a specific question about an artist you hate, politely answer that you don't like him very much. Then talk about something you like. That way, you won't look like a negative person and stay yourself.
Step 3. Spend time together
After talking to the guy you like for a while, find opportunities to be with him.
- Use one of your common interests to arrange a meeting. If you like to draw and he takes a painting class, you can join too. If you both love football, ask him to go to the stadium with you.
- In the beginning it is best to spend time with him in the company of other people. Once you've gotten to know each other better, you can try asking him out alone.
Step 4. Try to be positive
Almost everyone prefers optimistic people. For this reason, when you are with the guy you like, remember to be sunny and happy. After all, he should make you feel good.
- Don't belittle yourself. Nobody likes braggart, but you shouldn't hide your qualities either. If you want him to learn to like you, you should show him that you like yourself the way you are. If he compliments you, say "Thank you!".
- Don't complain too much. We all have difficult days and feel the need to let off steam from time to time. However, always try to have cheerful and fun conversations with him.
Part 3 of 3: Flirting with the Boy You Like
Step 1. Look him in the eye
Once you start dating the guy you like, you can start sending him signals that you find him attractive. Again you can let your eyes do the talking.
- At this point, you should start staring into his eyes for a few seconds before looking away. See if he does the same.
- Don't look him in the eye for too long. You might sound creepy.
Step 2. Smile
After looking at the guy you like, smile. Don't make a very obvious face or you will look too excited. However, with a gentle smile you will let him know that you are happy that he considers you.
Step 3. Be yourself
Whichever method you choose to flirt with him, it is important that you remain yourself. Don't pretend to be someone else just to win him over. He'll never really like you if you don't let him know your true personality.
Don't overdo the fliit. Do not think too much. If you give him a thousand compliments, if you laugh at his every joke and continually try to make him sweet eyes or take provocative poses, you would not seem sincere. Regardless of how stressful the situation is, try to stay calm and be yourself
Step 4. Break the contact barrier
Once you get to know the guy you like better, if he seems to react well to your flirting attempts, try touching him in a playful way. Eg:
- When he makes a joke, laugh and gently touch his hand or arm. You can also give him a friendly punch on the shoulder.
- If you walk next to him in the school hallway, try touching his shoulder with yours. Pretend it was an involuntary gesture.
- Gently drag your fingers over his hands or arms.
- Stay close to him, without making him uncomfortable. If he walks away, give him space.
- Hold him by the hand when you want to lead him somewhere.
- When sitting close, tickle his wrists with your fingers.
- Hug him every time you greet him.
- If you think he likes you, kiss him on the cheek and watch his reaction. Don't try this advice if he doesn't seem interested. If, on the other hand, you think you have conquered it, take the risk and try to do it when you are alone.
Advice
- If you're shy or scared, just start dating the guy you like. Talk to him and, once you're comfortable, move on to more personal topics.
- Don't be rude to him, even pretend, or you'll turn him away from you. You can tease him a little if you want to make him laugh.
- Choose the ideal place to flirt and only do it if you know it well.
- Be nice to him and help him at school so he knows you care.
- Try to be friends with her.
- Don't start flirting with him right away, you may not like him as much as you thought. First try to get to know him better; he might have a bad temper!
Warnings
- Get to know the guy you like better before flirting with him. He may be your ideal man, or he may not be compatible with you at all. You may find that you don't like it when you believed it.
- Don't overdo your attempts at seduction. If you are too direct, you may push him away or look weird.
- Never try to kiss or touch the guy you like if he has told you not to. You would disrespect him and could even break the law.
- There is no surefire way to get the guy you like. If the steps in this article didn't help, don't insist. In some cases, it's best to let it go.
