If you have just had a baby girl and are thinking about how to establish a strong mother / daughter bond with her from day one, read one by one our tips on how to encourage a deep connection between you from childhood.
Steps
Method 1 of 4: Breastfeed your daughter
Studies and research indicate that breastfeeding women produce a chemical substance, oxytocin, which promotes the growth of a strong emotional bond with the newborn. The production of oxytocin starts at the moment of birth but is also linked to physical contact between the mother and the baby and, in particular, with breastfeeding. If you really cannot breastfeed, or decide not to, look for frequent contact between your body and that of the baby to stimulate the same emotional bond that is established through breastfeeding.
Step 1. Start breastfeeding already in the hospital
Starting breastfeeding already in the hospital is the best way to get used to this new gesture immediately.
If you need advice or assistance to get started, or if you want to make sure you are producing enough milk to feed the baby, ask a nurse or a member of the family clinic for help
Step 2. Try to continue breastfeeding for at least 6 months
The beneficial effects in bonding between mother and baby will continue as long as you can breastfeed.
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Evaluate the possibility of breastfeeding your daughter for the entire first year of life, a constant relationship of closeness will be established linked to care, nourishment, safety and love.
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Method 2 of 4: Get in the habit of spending time with your daughter
Many families fall into the monotony of housework, childcare, and running their afternoon activities. If you can, try to find some time to spend alone with your daughter, do something together every day, or at least once a week, so that your relationship is consolidated and she gets used to sharing a few moments with you.
Step 1. Take care of your appearance together
Take a bath, comb your hair, brush your teeth, choose your clothes together. Share the daily routine with your daughter.
Show her how to take care of herself and let her know that she can count on your advice and teachings. Show her that you are always there, whenever she needs you
Step 2. Let her try to be like you
Imitation is the best flattery, and will make you understand that your daughter is trying to learn how to behave by taking a cue from what you do. If your daughter tries to mimic your body language, your activities, your habits, share her and let her learn from you. But remember that she has a different identity, encourage her to participate in what you do but at the same time let her explore and develop her interests.
- Set a good example. If you have a negative perception of your look or your fitness, be careful, you could be passing on the same insecurity to your daughter. Learn to be satisfied with yourself and teach her to love herself for what she is, avoiding chasing the ideal of "perfection" proposed by the media.
- Tell your daughter about your physical insecurities. Tell her what you think of yourself honestly but avoid judging her appearance. If you really don't know how to start the topic, there are many online resources to show you how to deal with topics related to physical appearance with your daughter.
Step 3. Involve your daughter in your favorite activities
If you love jogging take her to the park with you, if you love shopping, meeting people, gardening, cooking or reading, find a way to make her participate and let her share these moments with you.
Don't wait too long to get her involved in housework. Doing so will increase his sense of responsibility and make him get used to "entering the role". If you also have sons, get them involved too, give them the same amount of homework so that they both take responsibility and learn to manage their own home
Method 3 of 4: Express your affection for her
To ensure that a good mother-daughter relationship is established, it is essential to show your affection regularly. Express your feelings for her day after day and your daughter will feel a deep bond of love, trust, esteem and security grow. Accompany each activity you do together with gestures of affection.
Step 1. Tell her often that you love her
It is normal to love your daughter but getting used to your expressions of affection will make her understand how important the bond that unites you is. If she grows up hearing you say your love for her from childhood she will grow knowing that she can count on that feeling.
Step 2. Encourage small gestures to express your physical closeness
Especially when your daughter is still very small, cover her with kisses, hug her, let her fall asleep in your arms. When she grows up, don't stop hugging her, both in moments of joy and sadness. Physical contact plays a very important role in the creation and constant development of your bond.
- These gestures of love will not only encourage your daughter to accept and show affection, but will accustom her day by day to develop a relationship of closeness with you, also made up of kisses and hugs.
- In addition, the gestures of affection will stimulate the production of oxytocin, a chemical aid in strengthening the bond.
Step 3. Listen to it and pay attention
Your daughter will know how to recognize the difference between listening in a distracted way and listening carefully. If at that moment you do not have enough time to dedicate to her, ask her to wait a bit, until you can sit next to her and listen to her calmly. Tell her that her words are important and that you will always find time to dedicate to her.
Method 4 of 4: Share special moments with her
The best way to build a good mother / daughter relationship over time is to try to habitually dedicate moments to all of you. When she is little these moments could be equivalent to holding her in your arms and reading her a story, when she grows up you can think of different ways to be together, you could go to the park, to the bookstore, to the mall, to the theater or attend events.
Step 1. Make her feel special
Even if you have more than one child it would be important to spend time alone with each of them, it will make them realize how much you care about them as individuals.
- Take some time to dedicate exclusively to her, whenever she wants, and as often as possible, prepare little surprises for her, express your affection.
- When your daughter grows up, take her shopping with you, go to the hairdresser together, or engage in other activities as long as you regularly set aside time for yourself.
Step 2. Share your life with her
When there is some good news at work, celebrate it with your daughter. If someone dies in the family, talk to them and share your pain.
