Are you new to your school or do you just want to please more people? Don't worry: making friends isn't that hard, you just have to put in some time and effort to find people with similar interests and get to know them. Don't let shyness get in your way; Once you have a great group of friends to hang out with, you'll be glad you tried!
Steps
Step 1. Introduce yourself to people you don't know, whether you are a new student at the school or not
Be especially kind to people who have recently joined your school.
Step 2. Smile at new acquaintances and be sociable
People are much more approachable and less intimidating when they smile.
Step 3. Make a great first impression
Most people form an opinion about you in less than 60 seconds.
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Dress right.
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Don't be rude or insulting.
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Remember that people may not like your sarcasm or your sense of humor. Save it until you get to know a person well.
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Step 4. Compliment her
You don't have to lie, but find something positive to stand out. He will feel more comfortable in your company.
Step 5. Start talking to her
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Ask her about her interests, her lessons, the people she attends, the sports she plays, etc. Ask her these questions after introducing yourself. Ask her about her lessons and her professors.
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Ask her what time she has lunch. If you have lunch at the same time, you can suggest that she meet you at the canteen so that we can eat together and get to know you better.
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Step 6. Invite her to do something with you
If you are going to the cinema, the mall, etc., you can ask her if she would like to accompany you. In case your parents allow you to have guests, you can invite her to your home as well.
Step 7. Talk in the corridors, at the entrance and at the exit of the school
In this way, you will also be able to get to know his schoolmates; or, if you are in the same class, you can help each other.
Step 8. If this is a new schoolmate, introduce someone to him or be his tour guide
Step 9. Socialize with a group
If you want to make friends with more people, look for a group of girls / boys that you would like to get to know better. Repeat these steps with some people belonging to the group. They will welcome you once some of them get to know you.
Step 10. Don't be too pushy
If you still don't know each other well, don't give the idea that you consider this person your best friend. You've been dating for a few days. Only after getting to know her better, and if you like her, can you invite her to go to your house to play videogames.
Step 11. Understand any group dynamics
Often in groups of friends there is a "main character", a person who appears to be the leader. Sometimes, if you try to forge a deeper friendship with him than with the rest of the group, others will accept you more easily. However, if that doesn't work, don't be offended. Trying to be friends with someone close to the leader can be just as helpful, but be sure to include others, or they may get jealous.
Step 12. Share your hobbies and interests
Invite your new friends to join.
Step 13. Avoid being codependent
It's okay to have other friends and interests. Don't let your world revolve around just one person.
Step 14. Be trustworthy
Even if it seems a bit boring at first, others will appreciate this feature of yours, even if they don't realize it immediately.
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If you say you'll bring the rest of the physics project tomorrow, do it for real.
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Step 15. Keep private information to yourself
It may tempt you to share your secrets to force a friendship to grow, but resist this desire.
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You have to assume that this person will be putting out private information, even if that's not true. Imagine this until you know if he deserves your trust.
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If you tell someone a fact that you don't want to share, make it clear that it is private information.
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Step 16. Understand that self-confidence is useful, but not necessary for making friends
Look for other shy people if you are particularly shy.
Step 17. Try to sound interested when people talk to you
Being a good listener is essential to cultivating a good friendship. When talking to someone, use their name. It is scientifically proven that people like the sound of their name.
Step 18. Laugh at other people's jokes
If you can notice that they made a particular joke, you should recognize their sense of humor. Make sure you don't laugh if it's not a lot of fun. You don't want to give the idea that you are a person who laughs at bad jokes. It's okay to giggle quietly or smile.
Step 19. Call your friends and talk to them constantly
This makes them feel wanted and they will understand that you consider them important. If you see something that makes you think of them, you can text them to tell them. However, do not submit information that you do not want others to read.
Step 20. Put everything in perspective
Not everyone is accommodating towards new friends, and some are uneducated towards strangers. If you receive a negative or rude comment, you should keep your distance from this person. Dislike doesn't say good about a person, and you don't need such friends.
Advice
- Be yourself and don't act like you are different. People should like you for who you are, not what you try to look like.
- Do not force a friendship, you will easily understand if a person does not want to be your friend.
- Try to be as sociable as possible. This will allow you to practice opening up if you are shy. Don't be pushy towards others, you might annoy them.
- If the friendship doesn't seem to take off, don't force it. Let it all flow naturally. If that doesn't work, you'll make other friends.
- Believe in yourself and smile. When you are in the company of your friends, have fun and be a good friend. If that doesn't work, don't take it and keep trying.
- Go with the flow of things. Don't be too clingy, as this could scare them off.
- Try to strike up a conversation! If you are shy, then join a group of people who are already talking.
Warnings
- You don't have to be anyone's doormat and you don't have to act desperate. This attitude is easily identified, and people will quickly push you away.
- Don't gossip about your friends behind their backs. Does this seem like the right way to treat new friends?
- If you have nice old friends, don't lose sight of them. Try to keep both new and old friends close. Should they have a problem with each other, try to work on it in the best way possible.
- Don't ignore them if you talk to someone else you want to make friends with. You can walk away from them for a second, explain why, and then come back.
- Don't make fun of them if they can't do something that you do, it will give the impression that you feel superior.
- Don't tell them untruthful things, like "I love your shirt," if you don't really like it. They will soon understand your attempt. In order not to be unpleasant, you can say instead that you think the shirt is "unique".
