Now that you go to a new school, all your friends seem to have dispersed, and your old little group has split up. It's time to make new friends, but it can be difficult and a little weird to get back on the game. You don't go to elementary school anymore, and that can cause you some insecurities, but look around - it's not that different, and you may even run into old school friends. If you want to find new friends, read on to find out how.
Steps
Step 1. Take the first step
Making friends can be difficult at times, but having a conversation with someone can make it easier for you. Start by talking to your desk mate. You might ask him "What school did you go to?", "Did you see that new horror movie?" or "I like your pencil case, where did you get it?". Behave nice and sweet. If you have nothing to talk about, just listen to what other mates are saying (without poking your nose!) Or, if you know your interlocutor's hobbies, ask him questions about it. Plus, a friendly smile is often enough to win someone over.
Step 2. Be kind to others
To make friends, you should be nice to everyone, no matter what culture or religion a person is. That way, they'll see you as sociable. Compliment others, but don't lie or exaggerate and seem untrue. Don't you have anything nice to say? Better to be silent. Some may take offense to death even for small things.
Step 3. Invite them to come closer to you
If you have started talking to some classmates who seem nice to you, you can chat with them during recess or at lunchtime. Do you think you know them well enough? Invite them to your home or elsewhere, for example to the cinema.
Step 4. Try to join a small group
If you notice small groups forming during recess or in other cases, you can try to get someone to accept you. How to do? When you notice that there is a particularly silent person in a group, start talking about this and that with her. You'll probably befriend us. Don't be discouraged if it doesn't work right away, perseverance is the key. Don't forget to be yourself. Do you think they won't accept you for who you are? Then they don't deserve you.
Step 5. Be a good friend
If your schoolmate tells you a secret, don't tell anyone else under any circumstances. He trusted you enough to confess something no one knows. If he compliments you, don't react in a confused way, feeling too embarrassed or giving the impression that you don't care what he thinks: smile and thank him.
Make sure you care what they say, be a good listener. It's a great way to make new friends or replace old ones, and you'll always have something to talk about. However, no one is perfect: remember to forgive and forget
Step 6. If you have the opportunity to participate in afternoon activities, take advantage of them:
they are ideal for making new friends.
You will meet people with similar interests to yours and with whom you can talk about everything, in short, you can make friends
Step 7. Be kind
Being courteous always pays off, and makes you look good. Try to always be yourself and assert your rights and those of others. Do not lose sight of them for a quiet life.
Advice
- At first, don't completely trust new friends. There are fake people and double agents, which means they may pretend to care about your friendship, but they actually hate you and talk bad about you with others. As much as it seems to you that a relationship can last forever, you shouldn't share everything you want to keep to yourself, such as your deepest secrets. Do this only with those who are really close to you. Get to know those around you and make sure they are true friends, otherwise you risk getting stabbed in the back.
- Take care of yourself. Wear clean clothes (they don't have to be branded, but reflect your style), shower or bathe every day, wash your face, apply products suitable for your skin type and brush your teeth (bring gum mint to freshen your breath). Good personal hygiene can make a difference. And don't forget the deodorant.
- Find interesting topics to break the ice with. You won't always be able to have long conversations just asking "How's it going?". When you meet someone, ask them about the weather or their favorite music.
- Don't be too friendly - you might make someone uncomfortable. On the other hand, don't be too cold either. A middle ground is fine.
Warnings
- Try to be sociable, avoid being shy. Share your views with others.
- Never overdo it; don't always talk to the people you want to be your friends. Always sitting with them, chatting all the time and following them wherever they go won't help you: you'll annoy them (unless they don't mind). On the other hand, if they tell you something unpleasant, don't let the negative comments put you down. Life is yours, and you have the freedom and wisdom to understand how you want to live it.
- Socialize! It is always helpful for you to attend parties and other social events. This shows everyone that you like to go out and make friends. Plus, they'll understand that you know how to have fun.
- Don't gossip. If you speak ill of a person, sooner or later he will find out. Don't be a gossip or spread rumors about someone. Treat others as you would like to be treated. If you gossip, it is likely that others will do the same behind your back. You don't want to make enemies if your goal is to find new friends. Also, avoiding gossip will allow you to build a better reputation, and others will respect you.
- Don't be a spy unless it is a very dangerous situation. Let the professors enforce the rules in the classroom. It is not your job to scold a classmate who uses her cell phone in class.
- Stay away from people with bad reputations. Those who smoke, take drugs, behave like rebellious punks and have a careless attitude are to be avoided. Make friends with nice, polite, friendly and kind people. In any case, the most difficult and least appreciated people can always change, and maybe you can try to convince them to do so. Try to understand them, they may be going through a complicated period.
- Be yourself. If people want to be friends with you, they will appreciate you for who you are, not for what you pretend to be. Don't hide under pounds of makeup, don't do what you hate, and forget about rude comments. Don't even hide your true personality. There is a distinct difference between changing to become a better person (for example, you've always been pessimistic, but are trying to have a more positive mindset) and pretending to be like a mate you admire and envy. Be yourself and everything will be fine.
- At parties and other social events, don't hide in a corner. Approach others (if they seem nice) and start talking. If you know how to dance, go for it: maybe they will compliment you and ask you to teach your best moves. They will appreciate your behavior, and they will understand that you are not going to show off.
