Here is a quick manual on how to capture the attention of a girl or a woman. It won't give you an absolute guarantee of success and won't be able to do the hardest tasks for you, but by following these guidelines you will increase your chances of attracting the woman you want.
Steps
Step 1. First get to know yourself
You can't be any different than who you are, so accept that some women will be interested in you, while others won't, regardless of whatever you do to win them over. It is the reality of the facts. At this point, try to figure out what kind of woman you would like to look for, and which one might be most attracted to you. If you are a more introverted and intellectual guy, perhaps the first quality you will look for in a woman will be intelligence, but if you are a sporty type, you might focus your eyes on her physical form. Also recognize which qualities of yours are most appealing.
Step 2. Once you understand which type of woman is right for you you will need to learn how to relate to her to make a good impression
Try to refine your search based on the features you like best, it is better to narrow down the possible options to have a better chance of success.
Step 3. Learn to understand the woman you like and pay attention to body language (both yours and hers)
Women "speak" through body language, they can express themselves clearly and at the same time "read" your behavior and understand many things about you. Get books or spend more time people watching. Acquiring this skill is more important than you think. Since men and women often have communication problems, knowing how to decipher body language will help you prevent possible arguments.
Step 4. Learn to understand expressions
Many people don't know what it means to be able to read other people's expressions, let alone if everyone is able to do it. Knowing how to understand faces and looks will be useful not only to be successful with women but in all situations in life. By studying her expressions you will be able to understand what is the right way to approach her. Learn to observe the people around you more or look for examples in photos.
Step 5. At this point you have to look for a woman to interact with, preferably if she shares the same interests as you
Try to make new acquaintances, socialize. Study body language and facial expressions carefully to understand the right way to attract a particular woman. Use the same knowledge to break the ice and entertain her! Don't worry about her judgment, approach her, relax and find conversation topics.
Step 6. Use your new skills to decide how to proceed
Some women prefer to be left alone and appreciate a very discreet courtship, others would like to meet a man who comes forward and is not afraid to come out. Your goal is to capture the attention of the women most compatible with you. If you just can't impress a person who has made you lose your mind then try to show yourself as their ideal man.
Advice
- Don't become a serial conqueror. Don't try to have sex right away. The best thing, when you are interested in a girl, is to know how to wait and resist the temptation to try it now. DO NOT sleep with her on a first date.
- Every woman is full of eroticism and sensuality but she needs the right circumstances to be able to express this side of her personality. Give her this space and you will no longer need to ask her for anything.
- Don't brag about an achievement with your friends, whether it's a true or a false event, it doesn't matter. Keep certain details of private life to yourself, or she won't be able to trust you.
- NEVER BETRAY HIS TRUST! Without trust there are no prerequisites for a relationship. It doesn't matter how attracted, in love, or desirous of you she is, if she can't trust things they won't go on.
- There are no "categories" in general every guy could have every type of girl, as long as he can prove his worth and make her feel important. Even the most glamorous woman is still a woman, so step forward if you want.
- Do not disclose your private information to anyone! Everything you learn about her should not be confided to others, unless the woman asks you.
- Your physical appearance isn't all that important to being able to date a woman. You don't have to be rich or have a nice car, but be clean and well-groomed, confident and fun. If you do not have a stable economic situation at least try to project your projects for the future. But remember that having a job and financial resources will be a very important factor if you want to become her boyfriend and start a serious relationship.
- Men are generally practical and linked to a visual dimension, women are not, they love to use their imagination more. So you could tell her a story that triggers her imagination, that particularly intrigues her, or that excites her. But wait until you have gained his trust.
- One of the biggest mistakes men make is to start shooting compliments that are too obvious, and too quickly. Doing so is tantamount to shooting yourself in the foot. The more you tell the girl how beautiful, charming, and desirable she is, the more she'll start pulling it off and thinking she can get better. Before going wild with compliments, it is always wise to be sure you have conquered her, at first it is best to stick only to her clearly visible qualities and give sincere and slightly vague compliments, for example "you are very pretty tonight".
- Don't go any further if you realize she's not ready. Don't get her to do anything she doesn't feel like doing. Be VERY sensitive and avoid pressure on her. Make her feel vulnerable but safe next to you, show her your ease, your skill, your strength and sensuality. Read her body language carefully and try to figure out what she would like and what clues she leaves you.
- Almost all women are attracted to some qualities in a man: self-esteem, security, positivity and self-confidence. If you don't have these trump cards, try to practice. Read texts to improve your self-esteem, learn not to devalue yourself and refuse to take actions that embarrass you, instead focus on activities that improve your confidence.
- Look for ways to make yourself want. Let her want to kiss you first. It's up to you to be able to seduce her and make her want you.
- Make her feel safe with you. Don't look threatening, don't treat her badly, don't hit her, never insult her. Don't disrespect her family members, her friends, or her belongings.
Warnings
- Don't complain and don't make a fuss. The guys who mourn themselves are not the ones who conquer. Be responsible for your experiences, your life and your choices.
- Never get mad at her. Keep calm and clear-headed. Control yourself but make her understand her mistakes when necessary. She won't like being picked up but she might appreciate your sincerity.
- Don't betray their trust, always behave sincerely and be honest in all circumstances. Learn to be a good person, be loved for who you are, or turn your back on her if she takes advantage of you. If a woman understands that she can count on you, you will be able to achieve everything you want.
- Don't show yourself too needy. Don't go after a girl desperately. There are millions of other women in the world, she is not alone, so face situations lightly, don't feel bad if your expectations are broken. Be happy and enjoy the moment.
- ALWAYS be honest. Even if she tries to trap you with the classic "did I get fat?" Answer truthfully, if she can't tolerate it, leave her alone.
- Don't let her make you feel guilty, uncomfortable, and intimidate you. Let her go if you understand that you have slipped into a harmful relationship. Don't play his game.
- If you decide to follow these tips, try to practice well before taking action. It will take a few weeks to start deciphering body language, even longer to be able to distinguish facial expressions. Don't go out into this new adventure unprepared and don't start a conversation on these issues until you have mastered your techniques.
