If you have managed to establish a lasting relationship with a guy, you will do everything to make it last. But it's often not easy to figure out which guys want a long-term relationship, and you'll likely make mistakes along the way. However, with a little commitment and open-mindedness you can enjoy lasting love and learn to understand what is on your man's mind.
Steps
Method 1 of 4: Part One: Make Him Feel Man
Step 1. Make decisions together
Even if you don't think you should have his "OK" it would still be wise to talk to him and ask him for his opinion first. Men like to think they can do something to make their partner happy, not because they feel compelled. Use non-verbal language such as biting your lips or making sweet eyes if words fail to persuade him.
Step 2. Make him feel 'man'
Men like to play the part of the brave knight. Even if you feel strong and independent, and you don't need his help, make him happy by allowing him to take care of you while protecting you. Enjoy cavalry gestures when he opens the door for you or lets you in first.
Step 3. Let me take the initiative
It will be easier for him to do something if he thinks it was his idea. Use subtle strategies that prompt him to make the right decision.
- If you want me to fix your car, but you're tired of asking him, tell him something like "I saw a broken down car on the highway today. I'm afraid that one day it might happen to mine too."
- You can also say, "I was thinking I need a new car. How long will it take to put some money aside for the down payment?" He is likely to decide to fix it at that point because 1) he wants to protect you 2) he is worried about spending too much money.
Step 4. Respect your independence
Don't tell friends (especially if he's there) that you know how to manipulate him by making him do anything. The last thing a boy wants to do is to look impotent in front of friends and relatives.
Step 5. Avoid talking about past relationships
Don't constantly make comparisons between your ex and your current boyfriend, and especially don't date another man if you haven't gotten over your ex yet. You cannot blame your new boyfriend for some shortcomings or for not being up to par with your ex. Being compared to someone else will make him feel less of a man, so don't do it.
Method 2 of 4: Part Two: Communicate Simply and Directly
Step 1. Interpret her emotions, which are less complex than a woman's
Men know what they want and what they don't want, but they get scared easily. Guys don't like to talk about their feelings and rarely open up unless they feel extremely comfortable. In many societies, men avoid disclosing their feelings in order to feel hard and stay in control.
Step 2. Learn the true meaning of the words
Some simply say "yes" and "no" to your questions, but others don't. If you want him to do something, and you ask him, he might say yes even if he doesn't really want to do it. You should know him enough to understand when he says "yes" just to please you, or because he really wants to. He won't be angry if you don't understand, but he may be resentful if he thinks he's being pushed around.
Step 3. Ask for simple things
For example, if you are returning with the shopping bags while he is watching the game on TV and would like help, say something like "Do you want me to wait for the commercial to start to finish bringing in the shopping?" or “Would you take a break to help me carry the shopping bags in?” Don't start a controversy about the fact that he didn't realize you needed a hand, that he is never attentive to your needs, because he won't even listen to you. Be frank and direct, without making unnecessary turns of words, and you will see that you will get what you want.
Step 4. Avoid being critical and manipulative, as both attitudes will pull him away from you
- Listen to their ideas and respect them even if they are different from yours. When you fully understand his personality, then you can decide if you want to stay with him or look for another person.
- If he has to change something important in his character so that you want to live your life with him, then tell him. He could also change some things about himself such as work, city, religion, or something else just to make you happy in the beginning. However, this may not last and become a problem later on.
- Break the relationship rather than asking him to be another person. At the same time be yourself and don't change your person just because he accepts you.
Method 3 of 4: Part Three: Expect Physical Contact
Step 1. Guys like their partner to tell them what they should and shouldn't do, because they don't always know
You will not hurt his feelings and you will not ruin the atmosphere, indeed it will be a relief for him to know what his limits are. Forget the implied cues and tell him exactly what is good and what is not.
Step 2. Accept his quirks
For example, some guys are obsessed with their partner's eyes, hair, hands, or other body parts. If he likes how you style your hair, do it; or if he gives you a ring because he likes your hands, wear it when you are with him. If he likes a part of your body, appreciate it. Many women would die for a man who pays so much attention to them.
Step 3. Be loving, take his hand or hug him
Caress his face, play with his arm, or take his hand and place it on your face or chest. The important thing is not to be too clingy, because affection is a symptom of love and attachment, while clinging is a symptom of possessiveness. Watch for non-verbal cues and learn what they like and what they don't.
Step 4. Use your ways to calm him down
For example, if he had a bad day at work, scratch his back while he tells you about it, or say something that makes him feel understood, loved and appreciated.
Step 5. Enjoy sex
Stereotypes say that all men want is sex, but the truth is they want you to feel the same pleasure they do when they do. Tell him what you like and what you don't, and when he pleases you, do the same for him.
Method 4 of 4: Fourth Part: Keep the Love Alive
Step 1. Be grateful for what he does, because he will be pleased to know that you are happy to be with him and he will return the favor 100 times as much
If he feels like he's not good enough, he may feel insecure and leave you, because no guy likes to feel inferior, and girls don't like that either.
Step 2. Take care of him and reciprocate him
Do what makes him feel loved and appreciated. If he likes a homemade dish and you like to cook, cook it.
Step 3. Show him that you appreciate him
Remember how it was in the beginning when both of you would have done everything for each other. Maintain this attitude and treat it as if you can't lose it. Make sure he does the same to you.
Step 4. Make him understand that you will stay with him and will not abandon him
Don't threaten to leave him alone to get what you want or for a trifle. Similarly, determine what could end your relationship instead.
Step 5. Trust him if he tells you he will never leave you and acts accordingly
Don't ask him over and over if he loves you because you will make him nervous and drive him away.
Step 6. Remember that guys tend to have an almost territorial attitude of jealousy, especially if their girlfriend pays attention to other guys
- Respect her feelings and avoid establishing a relationship with another man. The last thing you want is a man who is not sure of your love.
- Being mysterious is always good. Don't dress in skimpy clothes, even if he likes your curves. Anyone would mind that others look at their woman. Dress well but not like an escort. Discover yourself a little more only when you are alone.
- Expect me to be jealous if you often travel alone. Guys have seen a lot of movies where girls meet each other when they are alone and without their mates, so try to include him as much as possible. When you come home from a walk alone, tell him you're glad you're home.
Step 7. Appreciate the things you have in common
Man likes to be involved in the things you do. At the same time respect what he likes, even if you are not an expert on the subject.
- If he likes a sport, find out or try going to a game with him. If you don't like it you don't have to keep going. You will find that being alone is also not bad.
- Give him gifts based on his interests not yours, because he will show that you care about him.
Step 8. Know when it's time to give him his space
Men are afraid of losing their independence and want to keep dating their friends even though they love you. While she may be able to do fewer things with her friends than when she was single, she still needs to go out once in a while. Keep your friendships too and keep your identity.
Advice
Find out if she wants to have children. If you want them but he doesn't, this could ruin your relationship in the future. It also talks about how you were raised, so as to make sure you agree on the fact that you are both parents
Warnings
- Always be honest with your man. You can keep some things secret but don't keep your man in the dark about everything.
- Don't hang out with guys you don't like, because if you collect a lot of stories in no time, guys who want a lasting relationship will shun you. If you're not ready to commit to a guy who is, don't waste his time. It deserves to go ahead and find someone who is ready to do it instead.
- Do not make him jealous with another, because this will undermine his trust and make him mad at the other boy.
