Looking good isn't enough to be an attractive guy. Before anything else, the most important quality is self-esteem. Feel proud of your appearance and develop a unique personal style. It exudes confidence but adopts a welcoming body language. When trying to bond with another person, never be afraid to take risks. Always remember: being attractive is a state of mind!
Steps
Method 1 of 3: Work on Your Appearance
Step 1. Wear clean clothes that fit you well and fit your style
There is no single clothing that creates attraction. For this, bring clothes that make you feel comfortable, confident and beautiful. Make sure they are clean and the right size, because attention to details like these helps to look more attractive.
- Context matters a lot, of course. You might look great in the clothes you use to work out at the gym, but you wouldn't be as attractive in the same outfit at the club. Dress for the occasion, but always wear clothes that fit your style and make you feel comfortable.
- Make sure you have a stylish jacket in your wardrobe that fits you well; a man never goes wrong with a classic look!
Step 2. Care for hair, nails, skin and body
Choose a cut that suits your look and style and keep your hair neat and clean. Trim your nails regularly and regularly groom your facial and body hair according to your style. Shave and trim your beard so that everyone knows you care about your appearance.
Even if you prefer a more manly or scruffy look, no one likes hair in the ears, dirt under the nails or crumbs in the beard
Step 3. Maintain good personal hygiene so that you smell good and be clean
Don't bathe in perfume like your dad, but shower every day, use a good quality deodorant, and freshen your breath with good oral hygiene. Regardless of how fit or stylish you are, you won't be attractive if you stink or have bad breath.
If you use perfume, remember that a couple of sprays are enough
Step 4. Exercise regularly to tone your body
You don't need to have the body of a bodybuilder, but if you want to be attractive it helps to be fit. Combine cardiovascular workouts with weight training to get a body that gives you more self-esteem. This way, others will find you more attractive.
- There are attractive guys with very different builds. What makes you attractive is to show that you care about your health, fitness and appearance.
- Talk to your doctor before starting an exercise program, especially if you have pre-existing medical conditions or have had a sedentary lifestyle to date.
Method 2 of 3: Use Body Language Correctly
Step 1. Work on eye contact and on facial expressions.
Your goal is to appear confident but not too intense, calm but not bored, friendly but not desperate. It may seem like a difficult undertaking, but you can convey a lot with just your eyes and mouth!
- Gently (not intensely) look other people in the eye for 10-15 seconds, then look away briefly before resuming eye contact.
- Smile with your mouth closed and don't overdo it. Also, raise one corner of your mouth slightly higher than the other.
- Practice holding your gaze and smiling in front of the mirror before trying on people.
Step 2. Keep your back straight and your shoulders back
Men who stand upright seem confident, while those who arch their backs seem insecure and uncomfortable. Developing good posture will give the impression that you feel attractive and will prompt other people to think the same.
You can do a lot of exercises to improve posture, and you can also use kinesiology tapes or ergonomic clothing to help retrain your muscles
Step 3. Walk confidently and with some bravado
Keep your back straight, take long, brisk steps, keeping your arms extended at your sides. You don't have to walk into a room as if you own it, but at least let everyone know you're not out of place.
Keep your head up, eyes forward, hands out of pockets and feet slightly apart from shoulder distance
Step 4. Speak in a strong, attractive voice
In many cases, this means lowering the tone of the voice slightly with breathing and diction exercises. Don't try to sound so grave that it sounds ridiculous (because it sure sounds fake), just try to speak clearly and confidently.
- Make sure you don't get too intense or aggressive in trying to speak confidently. Maintain a friendly attitude with your eyes, facial expression, and the vocabulary you choose.
- For example, it can be very effective to say "I really like the color of your eyes" in a slightly low tone while looking the other person in the eye and smiling slightly.
Step 5. Manage emotions without suffocating them
Self-control is an attractive quality, but don't act like a robot devoid of feelings. Stay calm and confident no matter how serious the situation is, but always be willing to show compassion and concern.
- You may think that attractive guys have a tendency to be "too cool to care," but if you want the people you care about to find you attractive, you need to show interest in them.
- For example, instead of getting angry if a stranger spills your drink on your new shirt while you're talking to someone you like, accept their apology and laugh at the incident.
Method 3 of 3: Creating Bonds with Others
Step 1. Be polite and respectful
Being attractive doesn't mean treating others with superiority. Instead, try to show that you respect them as individuals. Behave politely by holding the door and saying "thank you"; Believe it or not, education can be attractive!
Step 2. Focus on the conversation with the other person
If you only ever talk about yourself, you will give the impression that you are self-centered. While you need to feel free to share information about you so your interlocutor can get to know you, make sure the conversation moves to him too, so he can feel special.
- Practice listening actively so that it is clear that you are paying close attention. Confirm what the other person just said and ask them follow-up questions to keep them at the center of the conversation.
- If she seems interested in talking about you all the time, don't try too hard to bring attention back to her. Wait for her to feel more comfortable and ready to open up.
Step 3. Enhance your mental skills and become more aware of the most important problems
Stay up to date on the latest world news. Read a book or newspaper every day. Think for a while to form an opinion on the most talked about topics. The smarter and more informed you are, the more you will impress others.
- It is not enough to look good to be attractive. If you can't hold an intelligent conversation for more than a few seconds, your attractiveness will drop quickly!
- Never act like you have the truth in your pocket. Always listen and consider the opinion of others.
Step 4. Take risks when you notice a bond is born
If you recognize the signs of attraction, act confidently and decisively (without showing aggression or arrogance). Don't be afraid to ask "Hey, would you like to have dinner with me?" or "Can I call you sometime?".
- In some cases, you will misinterpret the signals and be rejected. Keep calm, react politely and without despair. Adopt the same confident attitude on your next attempt as well.
- Fear of failure is not an attractive quality. The hottest guys learn from their mistakes and keep trying!
Advice
- You don't have to be perfect to be attractive. The important thing is to be satisfied with who you are.
- Always respect other people and their wishes. You can do this by listening and tweaking your behavior or conversation topics according to their needs.
- Accept waste with grace. Nobody likes guys who insist after being rejected. Remember, a rejection in love is not a personal failure, but rather a consequence of a lack of compatibility.
