Learn to show the true and unique part of your personality. Take off that mask and get busy!
Method 1 of 2: Living in the Present
Step 1. Realize that life is to be lived in the present every moment
Events and actions that belong to the past shape a large part of your life. Everything that happened is indelibly imprinted on your body and soul. It is important to realize that it is your attitude, and not the past, that is the determining cause of future actions! Likewise, life is not made up of the dreams or fantasies of tomorrow. Rather, it is a series of actions that you perform in this moment, in the fleeting moments that you find yourself living.
Step 2. Voice your thoughts
Don't wait for others to give you the floor. Chances are you won't have another chance to express what you think. If you disagree with something, do it, but with respect. Remember that your goal is to solve a problem, not create a new one.
Step 3. Shake off the pressure exerted by your peers
True friends aren't afraid to tell the truth, however painful it may be, but they do it in a loving way. On the other hand, they are people you want to impress or you want to be in tune with. All of this is fine as long as they don't push you to do something wrong or that goes against your beliefs. True friends don't put you in compromising situations, but they encourage you to act in the best way possible.
Step 4. Be transparent with others
Don't wear a mask. Don't be afraid to show the real part of yourself. Be open and honest.
Step 5. Accept your subjectivity
You are unique! Write a list of all the personal aspects that you like and that make you unique. You could also compile a list of features you need to perfect and would like to mature, but remember that this job is to hunt for the best in you, not to criticize and depress you.
Step 6. Don't cheat
People will not be deceived and those who do not realize it will understand it or will find out sooner or later. Eventually, the truth will come out and it will be painful. Living a lie is not fair to the truest part of yourself.
Step 7. Don't act the way others do
Once you figure out who you really are, doing something just to feel accepted won't make you look good.
Step 8. Develop your natural skills
Study piano or cultivate painting. Sign up for a dance class. Follow your passions and do what you always wanted to do.
Step 9. Be open to people
Talk to someone if you're having a hard time or if you're having trouble handling certain situations, but again, do it with respect. Try to figure out how to make things better and not be passive.
Step 10. Break the pattern of trends to be yourself
Don't wear what others wear if it doesn't fit you or if it doesn't reflect your style or philosophy of life. Don't indulge yourself in a madness, such as abusing drugs or alcohol, going to a party, getting a tattoo, and so on if you run the risk of regretting it later. It is very likely that this is an impulse gesture that you may not be proud of.
Method 2 of 2: Overcoming the Past
Step 1. Stop regretting the past and start paying attention to the present, to the moments you are living now
If you constantly recall gestures that you are not proud of, it will be a constant stress. You cannot change the course of past events, so put aside your memories and move on trusting that future actions will reflect what you have learned from experiences. Try to encourage yourself to have faith in yourself!
Step 2. Do what makes you happy
Sing, dance, play with your children or the dog. Chat with your partner and friends. Try to be active and engaging in life.
Step 3. Be spontaneous and fully tap into the energies of each moment
Don't think too hard before doing something. If a thought occurs to you, get to work without analyzing and thinking too much. Don't think: will it work? I must do it? Trust your ability to choose what's right for you every moment now and forever.
Step 4. Remember that people don't have their thoughts fixed on you
People don't go to bed thinking you're a nasty, ugly, or stupid person. They may laugh if you do something embarrassing, but after five minutes, they forget about the incident and your spirit, your essence, comes back to fill that void. Everyone has their own life, and, more often than not, they're focused on that. Therefore, live yours fully and without regrets. Others will appreciate this trait of yours and will keep these memories in their hearts.
Step 5. Practice being nice to others
People constitute that force that gives energy and impetus to your soul. Surround yourself with magnanimous people (even a few good friends are enough) by transmitting goodness and understanding. Trust that the positive waves you send will return in your direction and allow you to advance more confidently on your path of kindness and consideration.
Step 6. Try to be an enterprising person, not a spectator
Engage actively in life and benefit from the pleasures it offers you. Always try to react when people talk and join anyone who proposes you an activity or idea. Think that every experience will improve your future.